hey Robby. I’ve been seeing my fuck buddy Nelson for a couple months now, and
we’ve been fuck buddies since the beginning. I’ve never had a fuck buddy
relationship I’m not sure what to expect. We meet a couple times a week at least,
and for the past two weeks I’ve been staying at his house as a guest, and the
two weeks before I was there almost every night and gone in the afternoon or
evening and picked up later that night again. He has found out about two of my
other fuck buddies and has gotten mad and said he wanted to end this but both
times I’ve talked to him about it and talked him out of it. You can tell he’s
insecure about it, but whats the insecurity in friends with benefits? And
well tonight was the night I left after the two weeks, he was sleeping and my
brother was coming to pick me up because had work in the morning & I went to
kiss him goodbye and tell him I was leaving, he jumped up and got mad. We’ve
been fighting over Facebook for 4 hours and he blocked me and unblocked me &
I just need to know what I could to make it right? like I really care about him
and he was starting to talk about taking me out, doing stuff with me &
potentially moving and calling stuff ‘ours’ using ‘we’ before he never
did. I really care about him, I really don’t want to lose him, so please help me!
Hola Robby,
I don’t know what to do about this on again off again situation I am in with
this guy and am interested in your opinion … I first met him 2 years ago
outside of a party over summer break in my hometown where we completely hit it
off. we had a lot of the same interests, music tastes and so forth and exchanged
numbers that night. I continued to hang out with him various times that summer,
all of which I would go with my friends to different parties his friends were
having but never really got to know each other very well, but the attraction
definitely remained. Then out of nowhere he stopped all communication and when I
would send him a friendly text now and then, I would get no response. So no
biggie I decided to put him in my past with no real losses. Then the following
time i was home, he hit me up and invited me to a party which I went to and he
randomly after so much time, decided to make a move. The night was fun, I was
intrigued but still nothing important. We remained in contact after that and
when the following summer came along, and after off again on again
communication, it was clear to me that he most likely just wanted to hook up and
didn’t want anything more- simply from the lack of interest in getting to know
me. So I decided I needed to be more of the man and make the moves. The next
time he invited me to chill with him and his friends, I went alone and we ended
up fooling around a little but when I tried to take it to the next level, he
didn’t want to. This same thing happened 2 other times afterwards. Basically, I
am confused of what he wants. When he didn’t show much of a obvious interest me,
I was okay with settling for just hooking up because I find him attractive but then
when I try to pursue that, he backs down. I just want to know why you think he
continues to invite me places if he doesn’t want to bang or be friends. What
else is there left to be? whatchaaa think?
Hi, Robby! Your site is amazing, thank you very much for all the time you put in
it!!Robby, I found myself in quite a tricky situation and I really need your advice.
I met Adam at a party. He had a girlfriend of 5 years when we met, he was open
about it, and after one week and one amazing emotional sex, we decided to stop,
(mainly me), because I didn’t want to get in the middle of a relationship. After
less than a month he contacted me. I found out that he broke up with his
girlfriend (apparently other reasons. They had a toxic relationship of on and
off’s for 5 years and he also cheated on her several times). Anyways, now he was
single, I had a thing with someone else by then. Yet, after about a months of us
having some sex, but being mostly apart we finally both were single and we
became sort of full on sex-buddies.
The thing is, we get along amazingly well. We feel like we are true soulmates,
he told me many many times, that I am the first girl, who made him feel this
type of a soul connection. In general, he told me many many beautiful things,
especially about my personality and “the beauty of my soul” and how we
fit together so well. Sex was amazing as well. I am much older than he is. I’m
26, he’s 22. And that is our problem. I want a serious relationship and I was
open about it from day 1. He, on the other hand, tells me, he’s not ready for a
relationship, which is fair enough considering his age and prior experience.
Having talked all of it through, eventually, we decided to spend more time
together and “see where it leads us”. After 2 weeks of some amazing
time (he basically moved in with me, it was his initiative to move in) he
suddenly said, that he needs to stop it. That he cannot do it. That all he can
see is that he will hurt me at some point and that he really doesn’t want to
hurt me, because he cares too much. He also said he’s scared of being
emotionally dependent on another human being that much. In the same time, he
said that he cannot feel romantic about me because he needs time after his
break-up, and that he really tried, but he cannot lie to himself. He also said
he is not going back to his girlfriend, we are really close and I’m 100 percent
sure he is not going to.
He also said he wanted to spend time with me, as real friends and also as
sex-buddies, because he didn’t want to lose me as a person. He cried, I cried.Yet, I decided to cut him entirely off my life, because I need time to get over
him. I told him I’d do this, he cried some more, but agreed to it.
I am in love with him. I haven’t seen or heard from him for some time now and I
really miss him. I know he misses me as well. But I also know I am not
emotionally ready to be just his friend or his sex-buddy. At the same time, I
feel like I am making a mistake by excluding him from my life.
Please, Robby, tell me what you think I should do? Should I be his sex buddy,
secretly hoping for a relationship, or should I just forget about him and find
some-one ready to commit?Thank you very much!
Have an amazing day!
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So my boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 to 4 weeks now and things are
great. But when it become to guy friends, he thinks I will cheat on him by
talking sexually to them. I tell him all the time I wouldn’t talk to them like
that because I only love him. Every time I say I don’t talk sexually to to guys,
he doesn’t believe me.. Now he’s mad at me because I told a guy to text me because
I needed to talk to him about something important. I don’t know what else to do.
Hi, so glad I came across your website!
I neeeeeeeeed your help! I know there are similar type of posts about fuck-buddies,
but this is definitely unique. Okay so a few months ago I met this guy in a bar
and as I had a boyfriend at the time I didn’t make a move so we just had a bit
of a bantering back-and-forth type relationship over texting. A while after I
broke up with my boyfriend the texting became a little bit more heated. I’m 20
and he is only 17. After school one day he came to visit and as I have never
slept with someone that wasn’t a boyfriend with whom I had a great friendship
this was new. First I wasn’t thinking that would happen. We did not have much to talk
about. So we fucked 3 times that night. He slept over and we did it again before
he had to leave for school. We even had a shower together. Every time he comes to
visit we talk very little, we just chill and have sex. He keeps on dropping
little ‘I’m gonna have to marry you’ type sayings. I do like him a lot but the
fact that he is soooo young and because the relationship started off with sex I
don’t know what he thinks of me or expects from me. The other night he wanted to
know what I feel for him both physically and emotionally to which I answered
physically he makes my blood boil and emotionally I like him but will have to
get to know him better. And what does he think about the whole situation. He
says he is in love with the idea of being with me and when I asked ‘being with
me, how?’ He said more on the dinner side table side like a date. When I said to
him make your move then his answer was ‘first I want a naked pic.’ I told him
that ultimatum won’t work for me sorry. Is he toying with me about actually a
relationship? I don’t want to get hurt and thus far I have kept emotion out of
it but the more he talks about it the more I think about it. What should I
do????
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