Whenever I’m feeling out of character for one reason or another– basically, when I’m in a shite mood, there’s one of two things I usually do to change that around. One, I either put on Pulp Fiction and watch the parts with Jules and Vincent. Or two, I pop Reservoir Dogs DVD in and watch the scene with Mr. Blonde giving the “Are you gonna bark all day, little doggy, or are you gonna bite?” speech to Mr. White. The reason these two movies really lift my spirit, so to speak, is because these characters really ignite a Boss vibe. Well, the thing about the actors that portray these roles are that Samuel L. Jackson, and more particularly Michael Madsen are in reality bad motherfuckers. The way Madsen is in film (well at least in Reservoir Dogs and Kill Bill… I don’t know about Free Willy) is close to how he is in real life– apart from enjoying to cut off a swine’s ear to a Stealer Wheel’s track, I presume. I’ve watched countless amounts of interviews with Madsen, as well Samuel L., and they both have this attitude to them that streams off a certain nonchalantness. And that’s what I’d like to mention here today.
Staying Collected Lowers Chances for Mistakes
Just like you should never stress over a female, you should never really stress over anything in life. This isn’t only beneficial to your character, but it’s good for your health as well. When something happens out of the ordinary, like if you spill a coffee in your car, it’s not worth getting all wound-up and angry about it. Getting wound-up not only creates more tension, but it also makes you vulnerable to more mistakes. If you approach things in a more collected way, then you still hold the ability to reason and that alone cuts down your chances of creating more havoc for yourself. And if you really think about it, who are you really getting mad at most of the time when something bad happens? People always look for someone to put the blame on, but I believe you should never blame anyone but yourself. I’m not saying, beat yourself up over things and believe you’re worthless, but instead believe that it is due to your lack of ability to forsee the mistake in taking place and next time you should be more attentive and more keen on your surroundings. For example, if you go into a deal with someone and they end up screwing you over, you shouldn’t blame the hustler or the hustle, but you should blame yourself for being dumb enough to trust the man in becoming your partner. In no way you should let the shit slide and take the loss, but you shouldn’t get all angry at the person who burned you because this just pollutes your judgement. Nevertheless, once you understand that it is your fault that you trusted someone and got burned, that’s when you can go and get your revenge with a clear head. It’s sort of like “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me” but more like “Fool me once, shame on me.”
Being Calm Earns Respect
I’ve also noticed that many people out there that stay calm, collected, and in control when something goes sour tend to earn more respect and fear than the ones that yell their heads off. I don’t know where I’ve read this but it said: “Do not fear the loudest man in the room, fear the quietest.” or something in that nature. When you see someone express their anger, they’re either yelling or punching and then once they get their anger out of themselves there’s nothing else for them to do about the situation. However, when you see someone taking it and simply smiling, then you should really be weary of what that person might be planning for the future. When someone hasn’t expressed their anger at the moment, they tend to be more sneaky about their retaliation. And people naturally (or instinctually) tend to feel this. Someone who appears to be casual, indifferent, and in fact impervious to downtalk might not react in the heat of the moment, but will attack at your most vulnerable moment. And if you’re like that, people will simply respect and fear you for your mysterious character. No one will know what’s going through your mind so they will approach with caution.
Remember, do not stress, be collected and in control, and don’t blame others for mistakes, but blame yourself. And when you blame yourself, you usually end up forgiving yourself faster than you do others, which allows you to focus on the important aspects of the situation rather than hate or resentment.