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Break-Up With Benefits

15 December 2008 5 Comments

Breaking up with a woman is almost as important as asking one out. You can’t be too mean about it, but you also can’t be too easygoing about it. You have to find that perfect centre. One thing I learnt over the years is that you should always have the upper-hand in a relationship. Lots of men think that upper-hand comes from being in control and always bossing the woman around. That’s way off. To be an alpha-male amongst the male species, you must be scheming and conniving. You should always be outsmarting both the competition and even your beloved other. The way to have the upper-hand is to make your woman believe that she needs you more than you need her. Every girlfriend that I’ve had, I made her feel comfortable with me, but at the same time, they felt like one wrong word or move on their behalf and I would leave them.

I hate the word girlfriend for a few reasons: 1. The word “girlfriend” makes me feel like she’s a friend of mine, which is something you never want to be with a girl (we’ve all seen the film “Just Friends” and if we haven’t then it’s alright because I’ll talk about the problem with befriending a woman you want to date), and 2. Saying “this is my woman” makes it sound possessive, and that’s exactly what you want out of your woman. You want to make her feel like she’s yours.

Now, to make your woman feel like your woman, you should try to seem extremely indifferent in many situations, nevertheless extremely concerned in some. For example: I once had a woman who loved to bicker over the smallest things, and she always tried to provoke jealousy in me. She believed the only way she could see that I actually cared about her is if I showed jealousy and would act protective over her. And knowing this helped me have the upper-hand. I would use that knowledge to my advantage. I was playing with her cell-phone once and I noticed that her background picture was the guy from Prison Break. I had zero concern about it for obvious reasons, but knowing that she loved provoking jealousy in me, I decided to have some fun with it.

“What’s this pic you got here?” I asked her half-caringly. “Why isn’t my picture set as your background?”

“You want me to change it?” she asked me.

I told her that I did want her to change it, but I’d get to choose the background. I chose the ugliest background she had on her phone and set that on the phone. Now, she couldn’t say anything to me because I was feeding her hunger for making me feel jealous, but she could also sense that I was doing it basically out of sheer entertainment. What I want you to get out of this story is that you should find their weaknesses in character and always play on those emotions. You should never lose your cool in any situation, except if it’s very necessary, but then again you should always, before even starting the argument or fight know what you want to gain from the whole fight. I always tell everyone that females mostly act based on their emotions, but males act off their logic. Now logic beats anything any day, so you should use that to your benefit. Keep your cool and act or say things that will get you what you want from your woman.

In the beginning I spoke about breaking up with a woman, and everything I’ve said after that was a build-up to explaining the perfect break-up. If your relationship is going fine and she doesn’t sense any problems with it, but for some reason you decide to break up with her, well there’s a proper way of doing it. When your woman does something wrong, even if it’s something small, don’t act indifferent about it, make a big deal out of it. She’ll apologize and ask you to forgive her or she’ll get mad at you that you’re getting all wound up over such a small thing. But you must explain to her that it’s in fact a big deal to you and if she doesn’t understand that then she’s not the right one for you. If she apologized, then tell her that such mistakes are unacceptable. Make sure to make her see that you’re extremely hurt over her actions and that even though it’s killing you on the inside, you feel that the best thing would be to break up with her. I never had a woman who could call me an asshole after the break-up, instead they always felt like they hurt me so bad that every time they wanted to get back together with me I would sleep with them but would reject them from being my woman because I wouldn’t be able to live through such a thing again. The whole hurting things was all bullshite of course, but it’s a benefit because other women they talk to feel like they can treat me better than that rotten ex of mine and they try to hook up and get on my good side. Win/win baby.


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  • Alec said:

    Excellent! 1st class advice!

  • Bonnie said:

    Great advice. I might try and apply it to a guy sometime.

  • Shawn said:

    Works like a charm haha. Top-notch advice.

  • Zaine said:

    So Sad, if this is your goal in life, more power to you and the people who date you and actually let you bully them this way. Your kind stands out and not for the right reasons, there are also names for the women who date (or hook up) with you….good luck with this.

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