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Cheer Up, Chill Out, and Have a Fucking Good Time

29 July 2009 2 Comments

Sometimes people need to really relax about their problems and cheer the fuck up. You’re alive, life is good, everything could be a lot worse. So what’s missing? What’s missing is to occasionally enjoy that one life you’ve got. Whenever I go out, I call out two of my mates to come out with me. Is it because I only have two mates? No. I have around five close friends, but the fact is I know that the rest of them either won’t come out or will take a hell of a lot of time persuading to come out. The one that does come out though is willing to do anything anytime. I can call him to come to a strip club for beers at noon and he won’t think twice. The other mates I don’t even ask if they want to come out because they always have some lame excuse to not enjoy their time out. This doesn’t mean they’re not great mates, it just means they need to read this post and really follow what the title says: Cheer up, chill out, and have a fucking good time.

Time Waits On No Man

I can list tens of reasons why I shouldn’t go out. The list can start at ‘not having enough savings to go out for drinks and lounges’ to ‘I don’t want my dog to be left home all alone.’ It doesn’t matter how rediculous an excuse may sound, in reality it’s more than likely not the truth about why a person doesn’t want to go out. Most the time the real reason is just don’t want to have fun. They aren’t willing to experience. They aren’t willing to experiment. They aren’t willing to lose grip of their routine lifestyles. That’s a problem way too many people have. They choose to simply exist rather than live. Well, let me tell you something. You can have as much fun as the richest person in the world if you put your mind on having fun that day when you come out. Instead of thinking “I’ll have fun when I’m rich”, think of all the things you can do without spending too much money that night. To have a good time you don’t need as much as some think. Remember, it’s all a mindset. If you come out and then dwell on all your problems and think about all the things or places you’d rather be, then of course you’ll never have a good time, even if you were super rich and super famous.

The Key to Life is Balance

Is balance good? “Sure it is,” you may say. And I agree. Then you’ll add, “And I do balance my social, personal, and work life, but still don’t have a good time out.” That’s because there is a way to balance things in life. The people who get most out of life are the ones that make sure that when they are doing something, they are putting their 110% into that thing. If right now you should be working on an advertising campaign, then go, sit down, and put all your work and energy into creating that campaign without any distractions. If it’s time for you to go out and have fun because you’ve been working all week, then go out and have that fun. Forget about everything else and really think about what you’re doing. When you’re relaxed and having fun, no other thoughts or problems should distract you. All of our individual problems will never be completely gone, it’s just a fact of life. So instead of worrying about them, why not try and occasionaly enjoy your life.

People Rub Off on You

And there’s nothing you can do except choose who you hang out with. Once I’ve been on vacation in the lamest hotel with the worst services, but that didn’t matter even a little because the people I was with were a fun bunch. They loved to go out, party, get drunk, get with women, and not care what others thought. And me being that kind of person as well, I enjoyed my time completely. Then there was another time on vacation when I was at the best resort with great services and was filled with people my age who were also crazy drunks, didn’t sleep for 24 hours at a time, and who were basically party animals that knew how to have a good time. And you know what, I had a horrible time. Why? Because the people I went with weren’t like that. They would drink, go to the beach, then at around midnight would go to their room for a relaxing sleep. Now, the definition of fun is different at every age group, but being in my 20s, I’m sorry, but going to bed at midnight on vacation isn’t normal. And their depressive attitude rubbed off on me and I couldn’t enjoy myself as much as I should have. So what I’m getting at is you should assess who you go out with, because if they aren’t a type of person who enjoys having a good time and have a negative outlook on things then there’s a big chance it will put a dent in your fun. But if they are outgoing and look at things positively and somewhat carefree then you’ll enjoy yourself even if you’re not on vacation.

And if you’re one of those people that just seems to worry about things all the time and needs to learn how to relax a little, click here for a previous post on leading a carefree life.

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  • Herbert said:

    Right on, the company one surrounds themselves with can make the biggest difference; as you’ve illustrated, I’ve found that it’s more important to surround myself with people that I can have fun with than just going out with anyone. After all, time is of the essence.

    …that’s not to say that I don’t believe in making new friends or trying new things, but when the chemistry just isn’t there then don’t force it.
    .-= Herbert´s last blog ..On Freelancing =-.

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  • Mary said:

    I’m really picky about who I hang out with. I try to steer far from anyone who has a depressive personality or is anywhere close to a downer. It doesn’t matter if it’s a girl or guy, I never go out with anyone unless they are fun and know how to have a great time out, whether it’s at the club or just at someone’s house. Good points outlined in the post, Thanks.

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