Ending a FB Relationship
I’m going to try to make this as short as possible. My ex boyfriend whom I
started dating more than 12 years ago while we were in high school, have a
baby together. We dated for 1 year in high school, he was my first, then he
cheated on me my senior year and we broke up. We didn’t speak for about 2
years then ran into each other. We immediately started fucking again at
least once a week, this went on for 5 years. We both had relationships with
other people meanwhile we never stopped fucking each other. I got pregnant
and he moved away for a year half way across the country with some girl he
supposedly was going to marry. Never called or came to see our baby for a
year. He called one day after we had our court hearing for custody after he
pretty much didn’t get anything and told me he was coming home. We
immediately started fucking again, and now it’s 5 more years of us fucking.
90 percent if my friends are guys and I have heard I’m the perfect fuck
buddy who doesn’t break the rules, I think that’s why this 12 year Saga has
gone on so long. You have to tell me some way to get out of this, it’s
starting to get to me.
There’s nothing to this but having real solid self-control. Now, that’s much easier said than done, but if you are able to not break rules and be the perfect fuck buddy then it already says something about you–that you are able to master your own emotions and hold control over your desires and wants. You have to apply that control to the process of ending your FB relationships. This will require you to distance yourself from certain people that you tend to get into situations where you may end up in bed, such as your 12 year long FB. Initially, the distance will be important so you yourself get interested in things that will keep your mind off sleeping around for fun. Also, telling him that you don’t want to be his FB any more can be helpful if he’s an understanding guy and won’t push for it anymore. Even deceiving him by telling him that you’ve found a serious boyfriend who you do not want to cheat on may deter him from wanting to sleep with you anymore if he respects your wishes. If not, however, you will simply need to cut ties with him and be more independent. Put that time into finding a man that will want to be in a more serious relationship with you, and do not just “fuck around” but actually let them chase you and want to continue dating you. Dates are really important if you want something serious, because that way you two learn more about the new man rather than giving him the impression that you do not care much for him as a person but are interested strictly in sleeping with him.
Afterwords you may want to change the way you present yourself when you are with him or any other man that may see you as only a potential fuck buddy. By that, I mean you should try to give off a vibe that you are not one to only want a FB or at least you’re not interested in making it seem that you are not the type of get involved in such relationships. I’m not trying to criticize FB relationships, because I personally think they’re great, but if you are trying to get out of that field, then you must make men believe that that sort of thing is not for you. And to be honest, it all depends on your current situation. Some want a serious relationship because they may need the emotional support, others just want sexual relief so they get a fuck buddy, and others are too busy for any of that so they focus their attention to business or something else that interests them. It all depends on how you present yourself and what you value at that moment. So if you can practice self control and present yourself a certain way then it shouldn’t be difficult to end your FB relationship.