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Fuck Buddies: Are they Possible?? 5 Surefire ways to keep your Relationship Strictly Sexual!

5 December 2011 12 Comments

Is it actually possible to be JUST Fuck buddies with someone?

My short answer is NO! Surprised I think that? Let me explain. A Fuck buddy arrangement is very volatile by nature and invariably someone breaks the rules and it ends up getting too complicated. People are destined to connect with each other, especially when they are bumping uglies. Girls have figured this out and that why if they consider you to be a good enough friend, they won’t risk it buy introducing sex into the equation. Then it’s off Blue Balls central for the dude, cursed to listen to stories about her cat for eternity.

A Fuck buddy arrangement can work well for a short while and following these tips can help you postpone the inevitable for as long as possible…..

1. Keep the sex good.
There is zero use in a sexual based relationship if the sex is bad. There is also no point if it isn’t interesting, risqué or spontaneous ~ that is what real relationships are for. You don’t want to mimic the patterns of a real couple which tend to involve planned, boring, mechanical, dry bread sex. Fuck buddies get to have a little more fun. They get to have sex in weird, wonderful and appalling places. Keep it fresh, keep it creative and watch a lot of porn because they are paid to come up with new idea so you don’t have to.

2. Keep the relationship sexually based.
In a normal relationship two people love, care and support each other. If you want your sexual relationship to last, make a list of everything that keeps real couples together and avoid doing it. Avoid listening to each others issues, having intimate dinners, walks, brunches or anything like that. Once you get closer emotionally the relationship will evolve. Do you job as a fuck buddy, nothing more, nothing less. Make calls during peak sex hours, go over, hit it and leave before 10am the next morning ~ do not have brunch. Brunch kills more fuck buddies than STD’s. Don’t let the relationship have the characteristics of something you don’t want it to be.

3. Keep separate lives and limit contact with each others friends.
Friends and family are to Fuck buddies as Reading is to Rapper. If you are a good guy or girl and you meet friends or family they will begin to contaminate the relationship by asking questions about it; why it is the way it is and why it hasn’t changed etc. Once you start to think of your relationship in a deeper way, it’s only a matter of time before one of you destroys it. Maybe one of you will call the other a boyfriend or girlfriend at a social event ~ which the two of should not have attended together ~ and then an avalanche of chaos will begin. Maybe there are good reasons you are not together or maybe there are none at all but these are not questions you should be thinking about when it comes to a fuck buddy.

4. See other people.
You can’t be exclusive with a fuck buddy, that pretty much defeats the purpose of the arrangement. Couples are exclusive. Just the fact that someone is exclusively with you means something, especially to lady. Being exclusive with one person just increases the chance that stronger feelings will develop and that will create confusion. The more confusion you add in a fuck buddy arrangement, the more unstable it becomes. Exclusivity implies ownership and that is not what fuck buddies are about by definition.

5. Do not underestimate the power of sex.
Woman know just how powerful and intimate sex can be. Sex mixed with emotional closeness and support can create a strong bond ~ not necessarily a healthy one. This is why to keep your relationship strictly sexual you have to do your part to make sure genuine bonding does not occur because when it does things will have to change.

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12 Comments »

  • lizzy said:

    All really good points and they are very relevant to me and my fuck buddy, but I still think that these sort of relationships can and do work long-term. i agree strongly with number 2 and think it’s most important.

  • Robby G (author) said:

    @lizzy: Number 2 is certainly crucial and can’t be stressed enough.

  • Africanlegnd said:

    I mean Fuck buddy is called that for reason and many people just mess it up by letting it get beyond that. It can evolve though but things have to change no?

  • maia said:

    I need some help. Im pretty confused about a situation. So my coworker and I have been having sex, give or take once a week. Its been pure sex, for the most part. Maybe a few drinks here and there, a drive home, a little tv. But mainly we have just been fucking. I made the mistake of sleeping over at his place the last time I saw him, although he asked to me sleep over and hed drive me in the morning. Now its been 2 weeks and he hasnt called me. Last night at my works christmas party, i was drunk and was looking to have a good time with him, he drove me home but didnt make even the slightest move to “come in for a few mins”. I dont know what i did wrong, maybe hes just not that into me, or maybe staying over last time was a mistake. Im youn, last thing i want is a boyfriend, i dont want him to have the wrong idea. But hes great in bed so I dont want to lose the consistant sex either. How can i make this known without being to forward or confusing the issue?

  • Africanlegnd said:

    You haven’t done anything wrong, he is probably just seeing another woman just to prevent himself from getting attached or bored. It’s the nature of such things. Try not to care too much and see someone else as well, Usually if you pull away a bit the guy will come back…

  • maia said:

    The thing is, he isnt the kind of guy who’d be seeing someone else. Without being mean or cocky he couldnt get better than me. Hes not the best looking guy, just great in bed. And I am the prettiest girl at work, according to anyone there. Im not by any means concieted, Im simply trying to explain my situation. Maybe ive made myself too available to him. I dont actually care about the guy, I just enjoy his company, you know. Im pretty sexually frustrated so ideally Id like for him to want to see me again. Sure i could start seeing someone else, but most guys dont know what they are doing or get too clingy. I had a good thing going. Is there anything I can do to get it back.

  • Africanlegnd said:

    Don’t make the mistake of thinking a guy can’t do better than you ~ he can. Stop thinking of yourself as too good for him. Whatever you found appealing, someone else may as well, he obviously has some kind of mojo, considering he is ordinary by regular appearances. The way to not get it back is to obsess about getting it back. Take some time away and see other people, focus on something else. Pull aways because just by reading your response, obviously you care about him not responding to you quite a bit.

  • Angel said:

    So I met this guy on a dating website. We had the best dates. After the 6th date, we had sex. Some how we went from dating to only being fuck buddies. He told me this was sex only and nothing else. I agreed to it hoping that it will end up more. I do spend the night with him, we have hours of great sex. We do cuddle after and we talk about everything. He has shared things in his life, his marriage, divorce, cancer that he went through, his childhood, his kids lives. He does ask me about things in my life, how my day was, etc. He will be lying next to me talking about some girl on his dating page one minute, and holding my hand saying how happy he is I am there with him the next. He told me that no one turns him on or gets him off like I do and he doesn’t know why. He does take me out to dinner, lunch, breakfast depending on when I am there and does show affection for me in public. We just don’t call those times dates.
    Our communication outside of those times are completely on text. We see each other usually once on the weekends but mainly because I work days, he works nights. We are both off work this week, so I spent the night over there Saturday night and Tuesday night. I had a date on Sunday and before I left there he kissed me goodbye and told me to have fun on my date. I told him that I didn’t want to go but that he was “making me go”, he said well you never know, he may be the man of your dreams. Tuesday night after we had sex for a few hours we went to the living room to watch a movie. Cuddled on the couch, holding my hand and kissing me..my face, eyes, nose he stops and says how was your date Sunday, did you have a good time, will you see him again?
    WTH. I am so confused. I don’t know if he likes me, or he hates me lol. What do I do? Keep letting it go on like this and hope he decides he doesn’t want to see other people? Or walk away while I still can…
    Can anyone help me?? :O(

  • confused said:

    Hey Ive been seeing my coworker on and off for about 3 months. Its been just sex and i enjoy it. we dont work together anymore, and we never really talk about what we are doing, we just do it. I am just wondering if its going to continue or if theres a way I can ask him if he wants to keep seeing me without making things weird with us and without doing too much talking.

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  • randy said:

    I see a girl where i do my self employed bizz. She gat nice shape n look sexy…my taste for a lady. We dnt socialize but she is really d kind of sex buddy i m searching for…kind of scared of policies n regulations u know but i wish she will is my fuckbuddy discreetly u know…i get horny when i see her so i try to avoid her anytime i can.


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