F*ck Buddy vs Girlfriend
What’s better to have: a fuck buddy or a girlfriend? Asking this question to friends, acquaintances, and many random people I’ve talked to on subject of girls throughout my time, I was surprised that not as many people as I thought picked fuck buddy. I thought it would be a sure winner, no questions asked, that if a guy can get a good looking girl to sleep with on a regular basis with no other attachment then they’d surely pick that, but there were still many guys choosing girlfriend over fuck buddy. This actually shocked me, and after some analysis I wanted to share my thoughts and opinions on what’s better.
Let’s Start with a Story
What’s a blog if I can’t give my personal encounters, eh? Anywho, I’ve had a girl live in my condo once, a few stories below me, and I got to know her one day while she was walking her dog. We talked, flirted, joked around, and in the end of it all I ended up getting her number. I’d call her occasionally, we’d talk, meet up for little dog walks here and there, and then one day I invited her up and we had ourselves a good ol’ fun time… in bed. We didn’t go out much unless to walk the dog, of course, but you wouldn’t go so far as to call it dating. I’d call her for a booty call and she’d fly up those three stories to my apartment and we’d repeat the whole unholy act of premarital sex. I can tell you now that it was pretty sufficient for me. I didn’t want it to go any further. Then after half a year or so we went our separate ways, but that’s besides the point. There were a few of these women that I’ve had over the course of the past few years and all of them to me were everything I’d ever need. So why would anyone possibly ever want a girlfriend–someone you have to call everyday, pay for dates, be extremely careful when you cheat on, spend nerves making sure she doesn’t cheat on you, etc, etc?
What a Feeling
Well, basically, you want a girlfriend for those very same reasons that I just mentioned above. With a fuck buddy there isn’t any real connection besides the obvious sexual connection. But there’s no mental or emotional connection or support with a fuck buddy. There are times when a man wants to come home and see his beautiful woman greet him. Then if she’d ask you how everything is, you actually want to tell her how your day was, knowing that she actually cares, because she actually loves you. That emotional support is necessary for a man at certain points in his life. And just as those certain points in life come around, they also pass at times, and the man stops wanting to have someone to care for and in return care after him, he just wants to dial up his booty call, have a fun couple of hours, and return back home, stress-free, knowing that there’s no one back there in his home ready to mind-fuck him about why he didn’t call if he was going to stay out so late.
What’s Your Remedy?
In the end, it’s all about what you really find important in this very exact moment of your life. You may have just gotten out of a four year relationship and are tired of all the things that come with a girlfriend and just want to have one or two on-call fuck buddies that won’t harass you about every little detail, but will just want you to come on over, do your thing, and leave the hell back home. Or you may be tired of that player lifestyle and may want to settle down for a little while, have someone to take care after you, have someone to love and appreciate you, have someone you yourself may even want to take care of. So it all depends on what you’re into right now. Are you missing emotional support, or do you just not have time for the rollercoaster ride of what a relationship is. That’s what it boils down to in the end.
Now, I want to leave off with a poll question on the subject:
What do you want more?
- A Girlfriend (60%, 87 Votes)
- A F*ck-Buddy (40%, 58 Votes)
Total Voters: 145
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