Comments on: Fuck Buddy with Commitment Issues http://www.shiteilike.com/fuck-buddy-with-commitment-issues/ Mon, 06 Feb 2012 23:50:13 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Devilyn http://www.shiteilike.com/fuck-buddy-with-commitment-issues/comment-page-1/#comment-70210 Devilyn Wed, 02 Nov 2011 22:57:27 +0000 http://www.shiteilike.com/?p=2318#comment-70210 I'm in almost the same boat. My neighbor (who's a divorced and 25 years older then me) would pay attention to me and would sometimes try and hold my hand. He knew I was in a relationship (although a bad one aka abusive) and I would leave as soon as he'd try and touch me or anything of the sort. Not long after that, I had to end my relationship and I moved away. I would visit on the weekends sometimes. At first it was to visit my old neighbors (they have this one garage where that his brother owned and a bunch of people would gather and drink, watch a the game, play music or chit chat) He again started to get affectionate (sitting by me, having an arm over my shoulder, stealing a kiss on my cheek, holding my hand, playing with my hair, making me meals, smile and wink when ever I glanced over at him ect...)We'd make out a few times, then eventually started to sleep with each other. The first time we did the deed I went to gather my things and leave thinking it was a one night stand type of thing, but he asked me to stay the night with him and we've been this way ever since. This has been going on for almost a year. Always on the weekends because of work, children and other responsibilities. Everyone seems to think we're boyfriend and girlfriend, even his family who he's introduced me to. Depending on who it is I correct them that we're aren't seeing one another and he seems hurt by it. We don't have contact with one another until the weekend. Our kids (both from separate relationship) get along well (his is 16 and mine is 3) And he interacts with my daughter as well as I do with his son. He's a very nice man, very family orientated, successful, compassionate, more energetic, positive, friendly and intelligent than anyone I've been in a relationship with. I would like to ask him if he's interested in being in a real relationship, but am unsure if he's on the same page. Would it be best to just flat out ask? Or are there hints or other questions I should ask instead of being so straight forward? It was so much more easier with the stupid eager guys! This is all new territory for me! I’m in almost the same boat. My neighbor (who’s a divorced and 25 years older then me) would pay attention to me and would sometimes try and hold my hand. He knew I was in a relationship (although a bad one aka abusive) and I would leave as soon as he’d try and touch me or anything of the sort.
Not long after that, I had to end my relationship and I moved away. I would visit on the weekends sometimes. At first it was to visit my old neighbors (they have this one garage where that his brother owned and a bunch of people would gather and drink, watch a the game, play music or chit chat)
He again started to get affectionate (sitting by me, having an arm over my shoulder, stealing a kiss on my cheek, holding my hand, playing with my hair, making me meals, smile and wink when ever I glanced over at him ect…)We’d make out a few times, then eventually started to sleep with each other. The first time we did the deed I went to gather my things and leave thinking it was a one night stand type of thing, but he asked me to stay the night with him and we’ve been this way ever since. This has been going on for almost a year. Always on the weekends because of work, children and other responsibilities.
Everyone seems to think we’re boyfriend and girlfriend, even his family who he’s introduced me to. Depending on who it is I correct them that we’re aren’t seeing one another and he seems hurt by it.
We don’t have contact with one another until the weekend. Our kids (both from separate relationship) get along well (his is 16 and mine is 3) And he interacts with my daughter as well as I do with his son.
He’s a very nice man, very family orientated, successful, compassionate, more energetic, positive, friendly and intelligent than anyone I’ve been in a relationship with.

I would like to ask him if he’s interested in being in a real relationship, but am unsure if he’s on the same page.
Would it be best to just flat out ask? Or are there hints or other questions I should ask instead of being so straight forward? It was so much more easier with the stupid eager guys! This is all new territory for me!

]]> By: Debby http://www.shiteilike.com/fuck-buddy-with-commitment-issues/comment-page-1/#comment-46473 Debby Fri, 24 Jun 2011 13:25:34 +0000 http://www.shiteilike.com/?p=2318#comment-46473 I hear you there, and yes its hard when the heart rules over the head and a risk of being hurt. He has told you what it is, and actions are what we have to go by, not the mere words they utter. this i am still adjusting to as i know its just physical and may never grow into more. atm its all i have to settle on as relationship material is short to come by in another. I just live my life as i would normally as though he is not here and fit him in when it suits me, and not the other way around. Afraid that if another does come along that wants more then it will be his loss as i will grow tired of just the sex. Anyways, we all cope in our own ways,,for me i happy to play his game till my options are open and i am ready for relationship. Atm i just content with how things are. I have mates to go out with but would be nice with him, but i guess that complicates the fun times with emotional relationship /dating issues and this he doesnt want, and i guess i dont want either. have my career to continue with and my training for marathons, life is full and not sure i could cope with anything too serious. I hear you there, and yes its hard when the heart rules over the head and a risk of being hurt. He has told you what it is, and actions are what we have to go by, not the mere words they utter. this i am still adjusting to as i know its just physical and may never grow into more. atm its all i have to settle on as relationship material is short to come by in another. I just live my life as i would normally as though he is not here and fit him in when it suits me, and not the other way around. Afraid that if another does come along that wants more then it will be his loss as i will grow tired of just the sex. Anyways, we all cope in our own ways,,for me i happy to play his game till my options are open and i am ready for relationship. Atm i just content with how things are. I have mates to go out with but would be nice with him, but i guess that complicates the fun times with emotional relationship /dating issues and this he doesnt want, and i guess i dont want either. have my career to continue with and my training for marathons, life is full and not sure i could cope with anything too serious.

]]> By: butterfly http://www.shiteilike.com/fuck-buddy-with-commitment-issues/comment-page-1/#comment-46053 butterfly Thu, 23 Jun 2011 01:31:32 +0000 http://www.shiteilike.com/?p=2318#comment-46053 Thanks for your comment Debby and I hope your situation works out for you. As for mine - its now been 13 months since I ended the FWB arrangement with my guy. I do still get texts from him like every 3 months. He asks how I'm doing and that he misses me and the "fun" times we had. Says he doesn't understand why we can't continue being FWB until I find someone to have a real relationship with. ???? When I tell him I'd like to have a real relationship with him he reminds me that he doesn't have time or want a GF. I personally think he contacts me every 3 months because he is merely looking for a warm body and doesn't have anyone else. We were comfortable with eachother and knew how to please one another. I still think of him every day and I miss him a lot. My heart tells me one thing but my head tells me another. And while a part of me tells me to see him again and in time he will grow to fall in love with me my head tells me the statistics and chances of that ever happening are slim and I just can't bring myself to putting my heart out there only for it to be broken. Thanks for your comment Debby and I hope your situation works out for you. As for mine – its now been 13 months since I ended the FWB arrangement with my guy. I do still get texts from him like every 3 months. He asks how I’m doing and that he misses me and the “fun” times we had. Says he doesn’t understand why we can’t continue being FWB until I find someone to have a real relationship with. ???? When I tell him I’d like to have a real relationship with him he reminds me that he doesn’t have time or want a GF. I personally think he contacts me every 3 months because he is merely looking for a warm body and doesn’t have anyone else. We were comfortable with eachother and knew how to please one another. I still think of him every day and I miss him a lot. My heart tells me one thing but my head tells me another. And while a part of me tells me to see him again and in time he will grow to fall in love with me my head tells me the statistics and chances of that ever happening are slim and I just can’t bring myself to putting my heart out there only for it to be broken.

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