Getting Back Together with a Fuck Buddy
I would be glad if you can give me advice about my problem. I have been in
love with a man who is(was?) my fuck-buddy as well. From the begining he
knows that I love him and he made it clear to me that he is attracted to me
but he doesnt love me. I said ok then I am ok just with having fun with you
as seeing each other time to time for sex. Then things went good for two
months. he was very nice and seem to be caring, but after a while as I
wanted to see him more often he got annoyed and we had discussed then he
behaved me very cold for couple of days during my stay at his place. after 2
days of cold war between us at his house, I left his house, right on that
day he sent me message apoligizing for his behaviours. I did not reply him
back for one week then I sent him a mail (a big mistake maybe) telling him
about my feelings that I wanted to see him more often because I love him but
I apoligised if I had pushed him too much. that I love without expecting
anything. That I still wanted to be in his life as friend or fuck-buddy as I
desire him very much. He did not respond me back one week. then he went on
holiday for two weeks. In fact it was not kind of mail to be responded but I
am nervous whether he is scared of my feelings.
Since I sent him the mail it has been two weeks now. and he is returning
so now is it still possible to get him back as my fuckbuddy.
how can I get him back without looking desperate?
Getting a guy back together with you as a fuck buddy shouldn’t be so difficult without looking desperate in his eyes. You sound like you actually know how to handle guys quite well, but your only problem is being able to control your actions when your emotions get involved. For example, you know that sending the mail telling him your love for him wasn’t the best idea, but you did it anyways. Though he knows you love him yet don’t expect too much in return except plain sex, I don’t think he has had much problems with it because he apologized for acting cold towards you during your stay at his place. He may be feeling bad that he has and is hurting you in some way.
What would I suggest you do to get him back together with you as a fuck buddy? Well that’s not too difficult, I’ll be honest. You’ll need to do a few simple things.
The first is, when he arrives from his holidays next week, call him two days after his return and chat him up about his trip. Talk in a cheerful fashion and sound interested. You can even ask him if he met any women while on his trip. Basically, what you need to do is try to act like his friend, that your love for him has severely subsided, and that you can think clearly now. This will surprise him even though he may not mention it. Once your phone conversation will be over, he will really start thinking about how you could have been so hot for him just a few weeks ago and now you seem to be completely off of him and just want to be friends. This will be a hit on his ego and he will try to pursue the idea.
Rekindle an Old Flame
The next time you talk to him after the initial call you’ll make after his trip, you should ask him if he’d like to meet. When you meet, act like a friend and don’t push anything onto him. This will require you to really act and try to hide your emotions towards him. It is very difficult for men to say no to sex, especially with a woman they’ve already slept with. And if you start playing a little bit hard to get by showing him that you’re no longer interested in him in “that way” then he’ll end up trying to pursue you. Even though he’s already slept with you, it will feel like an achievement for him if he gets to sleep with you again.
Get Him In Bed
Once he thinks you honestly want to be friends with him rather than be exclusive with him, he may either try and pursue you or in the rare chance he’ll be okay with you two just being friends. If he pursues you, then mission accomplished. If he’s happy with just being friends, then start throwing out some mixed signals towards him. Flirt, make yourself available, retreat once he’s trying to read your signals, and then when you find the right opportunity to get him alone, get him close, and wait for him to make the move. If he’s a normal man, especially one without a girlfriend or wife, he’ll make a move. If you want to hurry up this process, just put your hand gently on the inside of his thigh. That should do the trick. And you’ll be back to your fuck buddy ways.
These are the basic ways you can easily get your fuck buddy back together with you. Once a man sees that he had a fuck buddy and everything was great until the woman tried to complicate things with wanting exclusivity, that’s when he usually backs away. But if he sees that he doesn’t have too many options in other women who just want plain sex, and you present yourself that you just want him back as a fuck buddy and your ideas of love weren’t accurate in your own mind then it shouldn’t be difficult to get him back as a fuck buddy if you follow the previous steps. Best of luck, Monica.