Comments on: He Says One Thing, But Acts Another Way http://www.shiteilike.com/he-says-one-thing-but-acts-another-way/ Fri, 10 Sep 2010 08:34:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Victoria http://www.shiteilike.com/he-says-one-thing-but-acts-another-way/comment-page-1/#comment-10165 Victoria Thu, 28 Jan 2010 18:27:40 +0000 http://www.shiteilike.com/?p=2448#comment-10165 Thanks for your reply, Robby. I don't think he's lying about going out of town because his work requires him to travel very frequently (and I already have my spies working at the same company confirming that). It's true that I never met his friends (and I haven't had the intention to introduce him to mine), he does talk about his present - everything except the gf. Maybe he doesn't want to tell me at all, or he's having a few other similar "friends" like me. I don't know. But honestly I don't have the courage to ask for some reason. I think you are right though, that it has reached a point for me to consider a decision of what I really want, cos this has been going on for five months and it kind of itches. I'll just see what happens next time I see him and see if I can trick him into giving me any more information. But one thing for sure is that he does not want to be tied down. I'll keep you posted. Thank you again for your help. Thanks for your reply, Robby. I don’t think he’s lying about going out of town because his work requires him to travel very frequently (and I already have my spies working at the same company confirming that). It’s true that I never met his friends (and I haven’t had the intention to introduce him to mine), he does talk about his present – everything except the gf. Maybe he doesn’t want to tell me at all, or he’s having a few other similar “friends” like me. I don’t know. But honestly I don’t have the courage to ask for some reason. I think you are right though, that it has reached a point for me to consider a decision of what I really want, cos this has been going on for five months and it kind of itches. I’ll just see what happens next time I see him and see if I can trick him into giving me any more information. But one thing for sure is that he does not want to be tied down.

I’ll keep you posted. Thank you again for your help.

]]> By: Robby G http://www.shiteilike.com/he-says-one-thing-but-acts-another-way/comment-page-1/#comment-10164 Robby G Thu, 28 Jan 2010 18:05:23 +0000 http://www.shiteilike.com/?p=2448#comment-10164 @Victoria: Though you may find it comfortable that you two only meet at each others' homes, I find it peculiar that he doesn't like taking you out at all and that you haven't gone on dates. Also, when he goes away on these trips out of town, are you sure he's not just saying that to deal with other things in the city such as his girlfriend, etc? I noticed you said that he talks a lot about his life, but everything you mentioned is things about him that were in the past and that he doesn't talk much about his present situation. I'd personally be interested in finding out more about his current girlfriend situation and more things about his friends and job. It would involve getting a little more personal with him and I don't know if you really want to push that on him at this time. The commitment issues sound like an excuse he may be using that has worked for him in the past with other girls and he may be trying it now to not reveal too much about his "other relationships". I don't think you're over interpreting the situation and I think it's gotten to a point where you should make a decision between whether you are sure you want to continue seeing him the way you currently are (which is really not a formal relationship due to lack of dates) or try to get more out of it, because it is evident that you've past the point of being able to completely break up with him since you feel so much for him. @Victoria: Though you may find it comfortable that you two only meet at each others’ homes, I find it peculiar that he doesn’t like taking you out at all and that you haven’t gone on dates. Also, when he goes away on these trips out of town, are you sure he’s not just saying that to deal with other things in the city such as his girlfriend, etc? I noticed you said that he talks a lot about his life, but everything you mentioned is things about him that were in the past and that he doesn’t talk much about his present situation. I’d personally be interested in finding out more about his current girlfriend situation and more things about his friends and job. It would involve getting a little more personal with him and I don’t know if you really want to push that on him at this time. The commitment issues sound like an excuse he may be using that has worked for him in the past with other girls and he may be trying it now to not reveal too much about his “other relationships”.

I don’t think you’re over interpreting the situation and I think it’s gotten to a point where you should make a decision between whether you are sure you want to continue seeing him the way you currently are (which is really not a formal relationship due to lack of dates) or try to get more out of it, because it is evident that you’ve past the point of being able to completely break up with him since you feel so much for him.

]]> By: Victoria http://www.shiteilike.com/he-says-one-thing-but-acts-another-way/comment-page-1/#comment-10150 Victoria Thu, 28 Jan 2010 11:29:51 +0000 http://www.shiteilike.com/?p=2448#comment-10150 Hi Robby! Thank you very much for answering my question so quickly! I really appreciate that you've taken the time to go through my long message and come up with some very helpful suggestions. In fact about two to three months after we met, I casually asked him whether he actually had a wife or a gf, just out of curiousity. He was surprised by the question and said he has a gf but she was somewhere else. At that time he said that he had been with her on and off for five months but he said he didn't know if it was going to work. And then he went on talking about his committment issues etc. The at one point while we were talking about stuff, and I casually asked whether his gf was a jealous type and he just casually said she could be, but swiftly changed the subject. And after that, we pretty much never brought up the subject again. The other night we talked about why we enjoyed sex with each other so much and he went through a few reasons like it's always great, and hot and fun, etc. I also kidded about getting him to introduce me to some guys and he would just kid back saying he didn't know any. The thing that intrigues me is that, the sex is definitely mind-blowing (seriously it's the best I've ever had in my life), and I think we do really enjoy each other's company, otherwise he wouldn't have stayed over every time after sex (unless he really has to work the next day). We have great conversation and great laughs, and he talks A LOT about his life - childhood, family, previous gfs and sex experiences, work problems, his interests, etc...I think he tells me more about himself than the other way round. But we never met up outside of each other's homes. We never went on dates. I tried to trick him into going out with me a couple of times but he always comes up with some excuses (or reasons why he can't join me, like he's occupied, already have plans, etc), so I kind of gave up on that. Having said that, I'm kind of comfortable with the meeting-at-home setting cos it feels much more casual and less stressed to me. I don't know what he thinks. Maybe going out on dates would mean that things have been taken to another level and that's not what he wants for now. I don't know. Am I over interpreting the situation. Now he's out of town again, and I miss him terribly. I can't stop thinking about him. Hi Robby!

Thank you very much for answering my question so quickly! I really appreciate that you’ve taken the time to go through my long message and come up with some very helpful suggestions.

In fact about two to three months after we met, I casually asked him whether he actually had a wife or a gf, just out of curiousity. He was surprised by the question and said he has a gf but she was somewhere else. At that time he said that he had been with her on and off for five months but he said he didn’t know if it was going to work. And then he went on talking about his committment issues etc. The at one point while we were talking about stuff, and I casually asked whether his gf was a jealous type and he just casually said she could be, but swiftly changed the subject. And after that, we pretty much never brought up the subject again. The other night we talked about why we enjoyed sex with each other so much and he went through a few reasons like it’s always great, and hot and fun, etc. I also kidded about getting him to introduce me to some guys and he would just kid back saying he didn’t know any.

The thing that intrigues me is that, the sex is definitely mind-blowing (seriously it’s the best I’ve ever had in my life), and I think we do really enjoy each other’s company, otherwise he wouldn’t have stayed over every time after sex (unless he really has to work the next day). We have great conversation and great laughs, and he talks A LOT about his life – childhood, family, previous gfs and sex experiences, work problems, his interests, etc…I think he tells me more about himself than the other way round.

But we never met up outside of each other’s homes. We never went on dates. I tried to trick him into going out with me a couple of times but he always comes up with some excuses (or reasons why he can’t join me, like he’s occupied, already have plans, etc), so I kind of gave up on that. Having said that, I’m kind of comfortable with the meeting-at-home setting cos it feels much more casual and less stressed to me. I don’t know what he thinks. Maybe going out on dates would mean that things have been taken to another level and that’s not what he wants for now. I don’t know. Am I over interpreting the situation.

Now he’s out of town again, and I miss him terribly. I can’t stop thinking about him.

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