He’s Back in My Life – Why?
I have a huge problem. I dated a guy for 3 months plus and he broke up for
no reason tho i was very considerate sweet and nice to him. Even he said i
make a perfect gf. I let it go coz I respect other people’s choices and I
wouldn’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me. He then told
me am a wonderful girl but he’s not ready for a relationship. I said that’s
fine, he choose how he wants to live his life and means I have to go, to
find someone who wants to be with me. I didn’t contact him, it’s always him
running back to talk to me. I always reply because I feel he’s still a
friend to me. After 3 months, suddenly one day he texted me and asked if we
can actually get back together again. I asked him why coz it’s the past. He
said he really missed me. I said i don’t think bout it now coz firstly he told
me he isn’t ready for relationship and i don’t want to get myself hurt with
all his contradictions, as if he doesn’t know what he wants, we can be
friends. Since then he keeps coming back to beg me, he gets jealous when i
date other guys too. I said there’s no reason to be as am single and means
am free. He’s pretty weird, i mean….he wants me all to himself but he
doesn’t want to commit. We are not intimate. And at times i feel he’s mucking
with my head so i told him i want to cut all contact because i feel it’s not
working. I feel he has the upper hand because I am soft-hearted, and i don’t enjoy
being played like that. I said i don’t blame him as I allow myself this kind
of situation so now the only way to get out is to remove myself from this
kind of situation. He got very upset at me and now he says he wants to be
with me, with no strings attached?? I said no coz it’s not something i
believe in. We have diff wants so just let it go. I don’t know why he’s
acting like that?? What’s going on? I just want to understand a guy’s point
It sounds like he’s a typical guy who sort of wants the best of both worlds. He wants to be with you with no strings attached, and at the same time he does not want to commit yet gets jealous when you go out on dates with others. You do not seemed emotionally attached at all at this point, and I believe that he expected you would have put up more of a fight for his affection initially when he told you that he did not want to be your boyfriend. However, because you didn’t and you moved on, he kept on returning to you to try and get you to chase him. Your nonchalant actions had him second guessing and I also feel like after he tried to find someone new, his plans did not succeed and so he ended up coming back to you. It seems simple enough here, he failed at finding new girls he may like or at least sleep with, so he returned to trying it out with you. You have not been intimate, so of course it’s a challenge and exciting, but at the same time he does not need to go through that initial stage of dating with you because it’s already behind you. I personally cannot say if he is genuinely interested in you for you or because he just wants to sleep around with you, but I would put my money on the idea that he’s not into much except for getting you into bed. He doesn’t want you to be with other guys nor does he wants to commit, yet he wants to be the only man in your life. That sounds very insecure, selfish and amateur to be honest and if you want my true opinion then I would say that you shouldn’t waste too much time on this guy, not because he doesn’t know what he really wants (which is a reason in itself) but because he will probably end up hurting you if you get too close, and he will continue messing with your mind.
Try to find someone who is more concrete about what he wants and does not change his mind like this guy does. Though, since time has passed since the last time he has flip-flopped like he did, you may want to test if he has changed and how he truly feel about you now. You have to keep in mind that after 3 months of not being together, out of the blue he asks if you could get back together. This is quite spontaneous and probably means that he hasn’t had much luck with other ladies so he’s trying to come back to you. And that’s proved through his unwillingness to once again commit. It really all depends on your decision on whether or not you want to get back into playing games with him on, what it feels like, his terms, or if you want to move on and find someone new who is ready to move past those games and is ready to commit.
Whoever if interested in just fucking around with no strings attached, then FuckBook is right for them, if you’re looking for a committed relationship, of course then you’ve gotta search around. No relationship comes to you without you having to go out there and look for it.