How to Ask a Girl Out
Now, we’ve talked about everything from how you should act when you’re meeting your woman’s friends to how to avoid being hustled by women, but now it’s time to mention how you should go about asking a girl out on a date. This stuff comes naturally to some men, but a majority need a push in the right direction to let them know they’re doing it the right way. Before I mention the proper way of doing it, I wanted to mention the improper ways of doing it. Also, there’re many different scenarios and situations where men talk to or see beautiful women that they want to ask on a date but because of minor reasons here and there they don’t end up taking the plunge and don’t end up actually asking for their digits.
“Will you… Uhm”
We’re no longer in the sixth grade where you used to pass a note to a girl across the desk during class with “Will you go out with me?” scribbled in it. Some even went as far as supplying the girl with two check boxes marked ‘yes’ or ‘no’. That’s where the real mistake was. The man should not offer them a real choice to say no. In fact, you shouldn’t even view asking a girl on a date as a yes or no thing with any chance of rejection. “Will you go out with me?” is probably the worst way anyone could ask a girl on a date. It’s direct, it makes the girl feel like she’s right away in a relationship with you if she says yes, it puts the girl under the gun, and yet it gives the girl the idea that the ball is in her side of the court and she can play any which way she chooses.
And then as we got older, we tried lines like “Will you go out with me or something?” or “Can we go out sometime?” These were all just modifications of the same old line. So remember, you can’t be direct or concise with women when you’re asking them out. But you can’t make it seem like you just wanna get together with them as friends. You have to find that sweet centre. You have to make the girl think you’re sort of into her because of your humorous flirting, yet when you ask her for her number you should just say something like, “Here, let me get your number I’ll call you, we’ll get together sometime.”
You’re the Boss
The line I mentioned above really isn’t a question at all. It’s a statement telling the woman to give you her number and that you’ll call her sometime because you like how she carries/handles herself. You can add something like, “…we’ll get together for drinks sometime” or what you feel like, but make sure that you remember that you’re the boss and she’s lucky enough to qualify for a date. It’s a bit harder when you see the girl at a public place and haven’t started a conversation with her yet, but all that matters there is just the right approach to the girl and then once you’ve gotten the convo going and you feel like you’ve been talking long enough to feel some sort of vibe from her that she digs you and isn’t blowing you off, then go for the line to get her number. You don’t necessarily need to ask for her number at the end of your conversation, if you find a gap in your convo while she’s laughing at something you said it’s a good a time as any to pop the line in because at that moment you’ve said something truly funny and she sees that you’re a great, fun guy to go out with even just for drinks and so she’s vulnerable to give up those digits. And once you’ve got the digits, keep playing your game and one day when you’re free and have nothing better to do than go out and ‘waste’ your time and possible money on this girl, then go ahead and call her. Just make sure this isn’t the same night as the one you got her number on. It’s alright to call her the next day as long as it’s a weekend. If you got her number on a Wednesday, wait a bit and call her on Friday to set up a date for that Friday. And also, don’t call on Thursday to set up a date for Friday. Some guys like to plan things like that, but spontaneity is best in this case, I believe. Call her in the day time to set up a date for that same night. If she can’t get together than night, don’t seem desperate by asking her if she could come out tomorrow or the next day. If she says, how about tomorrow, then just tell her you could probably do that but you’ll call her tomorrow when you’re sure.