How to Find a Fuck-Buddy
I noticed that a lot of people were entering my site through searches such as “How to find a fuck-buddy” and the like, and since I don’t really explain how to do that, but only explained the benefits of fuck-buddies in a post entitled Fuck Buddy VS Girlfriend so in this post I wanted to do just that. I’ve noticed that the best type of women to get as fuck-buddies are the professional career women. They’re usually too busy for a relationship and have too much work-related stress to not want sexual relief. That’s where you come in. These women are easy to spot, yet not so easy to approach. You usually wouldn’t find them at bars, but if you ask around there’s probably a couple of lounges or clubs that attract just those kinds of women, looking for being picked up by men that don’t want anything more than the occasional fuck.
Game Beyond Game
Though I won’t say you should ever completely drop your game, just the opposite, you should make your game so natural to yourself that it becomes part of you and that others don’t even think you’re playing around. Now with these professional-type women, you have to be more straight-forward with than most other women. You can’t come over and tell them that you just want to fuck them, but don’t act over-ecstatic when they mention sex. These women know what they want and they know they can’t afford to have a man who himself doesn’t know what he wants and may end up falling for her. After approaching her, make sure to throw out hints that you are in fact a busy man with a hectic schedule, yet don’t over-flaunt yourself and your success. Make sure she knows what she will be getting into if she wants to go on further with your conversation that should by all means lead to the bed by the end of that night.
The Exciting Fuck-Buddy
If you’re tired of the usual type of fuck-buddy, when you’re in a lounge and you see a group of women together, then you may want to approach the one with the wedding ring. Though some will tell you they’re married since they won’t be into you, there’s an odd couple that just may want some extra excitement in their life. The married type are only looking for a fuck-buddy unless they’re totally miserable with their husbands. Make sure to pursue the married woman with caution and realize that there may be severe consequences to your actions. My rule of thumb is to find out whether the woman has kids or not, because a woman with children is where I set my boundaries. Kids equals long-term mindfucks for you, so try to stay away from those. But being a back-door man to a childless married broad is all good in my books. These tend to be the most exciting type of fuck-buddies, but make sure not to get too attached.
Friends With Benefits
If you’ve had a female friend who you know you don’t have real feelings for nor does she have any feelings for you as well, it might be nice to get some benefits from her. This might be the easiest type of person to convert into a fuck-buddy. Get drunk one day, bring up the subject, see her reaction, and take it from there. If she’s totally repulsed by the idea then blame it all on the booze, and if she’s into it then you’re ticket is good and you might as well go for the ride.
Nice info and very interesting topics.
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“How to find a fuck-buddy for dummies”. This pretty much sums it up in the most simplest terms.
Good Post
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This is great. I have definately noticed that the most common fuck buddy is a busy woman. They are almost always looking for some no strings attatched sex… Ive also noticed that one of the major problems that turns these women away from a ongoing fuck buddy is the fact that the man tends to catch feelings for these women after sex. YOU CANNOT DO THIS! In addition to the married broads more recently i have seen a huge rise in men wanting to see their wives being “taken” by other men… Bottom line, I definately agree that you have to show that you’re busy and show that becoming emotionally attatched will for sure not happen.. Great great post Robby.. I love these type of informative posts. Keep it up.
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this is a good Fuck Buddy 101 for those noobs out there. One thing I would add is…EXPECT THE WORST CASE…what I mean is, many of the girls you are going to get into a fuck friend situation with, will probably at some point get feelings for you and really mess shit up. I have had girls that I hooked up with on the side cry, throw shit at me, even stalk me because towards the end, some sort of fuse went off in their brain where there forgot what the initial arrangement was. Finding a fuck buddy that stays as a FB is hard, but in your mind, expect the worst case situation to happen, especially if the fucking at some points starts to mesh with her, or you, sticking around after the deed to chill. DONT do that. Bust your nut, and leave. Beyond that, you are going to bond and move into a relationship before you realize its too late.
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Robby G Reply:
April 27th, 2009 at 3:12 pm
@Crazy Oldie: That’s exactly right. Thanks for adding that. Busting a nut and FLEEING is the way to do it. Don’t ask if she wants to go for some dinner afterwards. It’s a FB not your girlfriend.
In fact your point on about an FB thinking she’s your girlfriend and dealing with that situation really made me want to elaborate on a previous post I’ve written entitled “Break-Up With Benefits”.
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okaaay. so i’m a girl and girls like having fuck buddies just as much as guys. its like the perfect thing during the summer or whenever you dont want commitment. the drunk thing really works. all my fuck buddies have come from drunk guys bringing up the idea. its perfect. just do it.
also crazy oldie. that sucks but its cuz having an orgams makes chicks feel more attatched…. its messed up but thats why some girls all of a sudden think they are in a relationship. just be a jackass… i always like that in a fuck buddy and it should get the message across.
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Amy Reply:
July 6th, 2009 at 8:10 am
I can answer why we get attached after sex, because human beings are in the 3% of mammals that are capable of bonding for life, the chemicals oxytocin and vasopressin are responsible for this behaviour, it is released when we reach orgasm, it is a biological tool used to propagate the human species ^^ I will paste a link to better understand this process: http://people.howstuffworks.com/love7.htm
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Getting chicks drunk is good way to start just about anything.
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Getting chicks drunk is good way to start
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I agree with JanakF, especially if she is into it. Then you will have a great time with no worries at all. Fuck buddies are great once you can find one on the same level as you. Just hope they dont go crazy and chop your ass.
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Robby G Reply:
June 26th, 2009 at 10:33 am
@Karl: Yeah, getting your ass chopped off may become problematic.
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Nice article, it’s got some good reponses too. I like babe’s reply and Amy’s response above ^
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Expect the worst with a FB sure wish I knew that after reading some of the responses. This one business like chick I picked up must of slipped me a mickey or something.. I woke up in the hotel room we rented with a sore anus and a huge dildo left next to me. I can only imagine what the crazy bitch did to me.
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Robby G Reply:
February 25th, 2010 at 1:54 am
@Bob: That’s not a fuck buddy, mate. That’s a one night stand gone really wrong.
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I got herpes from my FB, wish all I got was a sore anus like Bob above. Thanks again for the HERPES TINA!
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WELL…Im have a fuckbuddy, and he doesnt treat me like shit, and I wouldnt accept that! DONT LISTEN TO THIS NONSENSE
Me: Busy successful career woman with sexual needs
You: Respectful fuckbuddy!
Dont treat me like a jackass, because I know what Im doing. The first time you treat me rudely without social etiquette, Ill find someone else…Im moving to DC, are there a lot of guys out there who can do this? Should I look online, or flirt heavily in a lounge/bar??
See, I like fuckbuddys, but not a**holes. I like a friend.
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Robby G Reply:
March 11th, 2010 at 6:02 am
@Lisa: I never say the man should act like an asshole, just the opposite, he should know what he’s getting into and know there are limitations to doing certain things a boyfriend may do. I go into more detail in some of the others posts where I say that it should be all friendly sex but without the emotional “love” aspect involved.
I don’t know much about DC, but I’m sure you can find some guys willing to fit the task. I personally enjoy finding girls in person, but I hear online works sometimes too.
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