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How to Find a Fuck-Buddy

23 April 2009 33 Comments

I noticed that a lot of people were entering my site through searches such as “How to find a fuck-buddy” and the like, and since I don’t really explain how to do that, but only explained the benefits of fuck-buddies in a post entitled Fuck Buddy VS Girlfriend so in this post I wanted to do just that. I’ve noticed that the best type of women to get as fuck-buddies are the professional career women. They’re usually too busy for a relationship and have too much work-related stress to not want sexual relief. That’s where you come in. These women are easy to spot, yet not so easy to approach. You usually wouldn’t find them at bars, but if you ask around there’s probably a couple of lounges or clubs that attract just those kinds of women, looking for being picked up by men that don’t want anything more than the occasional fuck.

Game Beyond Game

Though I won’t say you should ever completely drop your game, just the opposite, you should make your game so natural to yourself that it becomes part of you and that others don’t even think you’re playing around. Now with these professional-type women, you have to be more straight-forward with than most other women. You can’t come over and tell them that you just want to fuck them, but don’t act over-ecstatic when they mention sex. These women know what they want and they know they can’t afford to have a man who himself doesn’t know what he wants and may end up falling for her. After approaching her, make sure to throw out hints that you are in fact a busy man with a hectic schedule, yet don’t over-flaunt yourself and your success. Make sure she knows what she will be getting into if she wants to go on further with your conversation that should by all means lead to the bed by the end of that night.

The Exciting Fuck-Buddy

If you’re tired of the usual type of fuck-buddy, when you’re in a lounge and you see a group of women together, then you may want to approach the one with the wedding ring. Though some will tell you they’re married since they won’t be into you, there’s an odd couple that just may want some extra excitement in their life. The married type are only looking for a fuck-buddy unless they’re totally miserable with their husbands. Make sure to pursue the married woman with caution and realize that there may be severe consequences to your actions. My rule of thumb is to find out whether the woman has kids or not, because a woman with children is where I set my boundaries. Kids equals long-term mindfucks for you, so try to stay away from those. But being a back-door man to a childless married broad is all good in my books. These tend to be the most exciting type of fuck-buddies, but make sure not to get too attached.

Friends With Benefits

If you’ve had a female friend who you know you don’t have real feelings for nor does she have any feelings for you as well, it might be nice to get some benefits from her. This might be the easiest type of person to convert into a fuck-buddy. Get drunk one day, bring up the subject, see her reaction, and take it from there. If she’s totally repulsed by the idea then blame it all on the booze, and if she’s into it then you’re ticket is good and you might as well go for the ride.

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  • Lorna Darden said:

    Nice info and very interesting topics.

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    # 23 April 2009 at 5:21 pm
  • kewlers said:

    “How to find a fuck-buddy for dummies”. This pretty much sums it up in the most simplest terms.

    Good Post

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    # 23 April 2009 at 11:27 pm
  • AL said:

    This is great. I have definately noticed that the most common fuck buddy is a busy woman. They are almost always looking for some no strings attatched sex… Ive also noticed that one of the major problems that turns these women away from a ongoing fuck buddy is the fact that the man tends to catch feelings for these women after sex. YOU CANNOT DO THIS! In addition to the married broads more recently i have seen a huge rise in men wanting to see their wives being “taken” by other men… Bottom line, I definately agree that you have to show that you’re busy and show that becoming emotionally attatched will for sure not happen.. Great great post Robby.. I love these type of informative posts. Keep it up.

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    # 23 April 2009 at 11:40 pm
  • Crazy Oldie said:

    this is a good Fuck Buddy 101 for those noobs out there. One thing I would add is…EXPECT THE WORST CASE…what I mean is, many of the girls you are going to get into a fuck friend situation with, will probably at some point get feelings for you and really mess shit up. I have had girls that I hooked up with on the side cry, throw shit at me, even stalk me because towards the end, some sort of fuse went off in their brain where there forgot what the initial arrangement was. Finding a fuck buddy that stays as a FB is hard, but in your mind, expect the worst case situation to happen, especially if the fucking at some points starts to mesh with her, or you, sticking around after the deed to chill. DONT do that. Bust your nut, and leave. Beyond that, you are going to bond and move into a relationship before you realize its too late.

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    Robby G Reply:
    April 27th, 2009 at 3:12 pm

    @Crazy Oldie: That’s exactly right. Thanks for adding that. Busting a nut and FLEEING is the way to do it. Don’t ask if she wants to go for some dinner afterwards. It’s a FB not your girlfriend.
    In fact your point on about an FB thinking she’s your girlfriend and dealing with that situation really made me want to elaborate on a previous post I’ve written entitled “Break-Up With Benefits”.

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    # 27 April 2009 at 2:55 pm
  • babe said:

    okaaay. so i’m a girl and girls like having fuck buddies just as much as guys. its like the perfect thing during the summer or whenever you dont want commitment. the drunk thing really works. all my fuck buddies have come from drunk guys bringing up the idea. its perfect. just do it.

    also crazy oldie. that sucks but its cuz having an orgams makes chicks feel more attatched…. its messed up but thats why some girls all of a sudden think they are in a relationship. just be a jackass… i always like that in a fuck buddy and it should get the message across.

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    Amy Reply:
    July 6th, 2009 at 8:10 am

    I can answer why we get attached after sex, because human beings are in the 3% of mammals that are capable of bonding for life, the chemicals oxytocin and vasopressin are responsible for this behaviour, it is released when we reach orgasm, it is a biological tool used to propagate the human species ^^ I will paste a link to better understand this process: http://people.howstuffworks.com/love7.htm

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    # 13 May 2009 at 10:43 pm
  • JanakF said:

    Getting chicks drunk is good way to start just about anything.

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    # 20 May 2009 at 12:34 am
  • rio said:

    Getting chicks drunk is good way to start

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    # 16 June 2009 at 3:03 am
  • Karl said:

    I agree with JanakF, especially if she is into it. Then you will have a great time with no worries at all. Fuck buddies are great once you can find one on the same level as you. Just hope they dont go crazy and chop your ass.

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    Robby G Reply:
    June 26th, 2009 at 10:33 am

    @Karl: Yeah, getting your ass chopped off may become problematic.

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    # 26 June 2009 at 3:26 am
  • Lady Luck's Dating said:

    Nice article, it’s got some good reponses too. I like babe’s reply and Amy’s response above ^
    .-= Lady Luck’s Dating´s last blog ..Winning Tactics in Online Dating =-.

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    # 27 September 2009 at 9:10 am
  • Bob said:

    Expect the worst with a FB sure wish I knew that after reading some of the responses. This one business like chick I picked up must of slipped me a mickey or something.. I woke up in the hotel room we rented with a sore anus and a huge dildo left next to me. I can only imagine what the crazy bitch did to me.

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    Robby G Reply:
    February 25th, 2010 at 1:54 am

    @Bob: That’s not a fuck buddy, mate. That’s a one night stand gone really wrong.

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    # 24 February 2010 at 4:07 pm
  • Zack said:

    I got herpes from my FB, wish all I got was a sore anus like Bob above. Thanks again for the HERPES TINA!

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    # 24 February 2010 at 4:44 pm
  • Lisa said:

    WELL…Im have a fuckbuddy, and he doesnt treat me like shit, and I wouldnt accept that! DONT LISTEN TO THIS NONSENSE

    Me: Busy successful career woman with sexual needs
    You: Respectful fuckbuddy!

    Dont treat me like a jackass, because I know what Im doing. The first time you treat me rudely without social etiquette, Ill find someone else…Im moving to DC, are there a lot of guys out there who can do this? Should I look online, or flirt heavily in a lounge/bar??

    See, I like fuckbuddys, but not a**holes. I like a friend.

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    Robby G Reply:
    March 11th, 2010 at 6:02 am

    @Lisa: I never say the man should act like an asshole, just the opposite, he should know what he’s getting into and know there are limitations to doing certain things a boyfriend may do. I go into more detail in some of the others posts where I say that it should be all friendly sex but without the emotional “love” aspect involved.

    I don’t know much about DC, but I’m sure you can find some guys willing to fit the task. I personally enjoy finding girls in person, but I hear online works sometimes too.

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    # 11 March 2010 at 12:43 am
  • Rock said:

    I have read all the above and have been curious about having/being a FB.

    There is only one problem I face. Even though it is good to know how to approach women in a respectful way and still know what you are after.

    The slight problem is I live in an area that is not focused online and in an age where I can’t simply ask if she wants it over some beers. The truth is I like the fact there are sites where people can go and find FB’s. It takes the adventure and fun out of the interaction of talking one into it. Through hints, body language,…etc.

    So, for my situation what can anyone suggest for one who lives in a small area that has no option to move and has a great job that can not afford to loose.

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    Robby G Reply:
    March 31st, 2010 at 3:50 pm

    @Rock: I’d say go to local pubs and find women there. When you’re looking for a fuck buddy, you have to perceive every woman who you think is good looking as a potential fuck buddy. Though there may be less people in your town, there are still “unexamined territories” where you can find women.
    I personally do not like going through websites to find fuck buddies, I’ve actually always been against dating such for the most part, unless you really have no time to go out and find a date. I really enjoy the whole interactive part of picking up women.
    Anyone else have any advice for Rock?

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    # 31 March 2010 at 2:27 pm
  • Jason said:

    I think all this information is very insightful and usefull for a guy such as myself who is looking for a fuck buddy. I do agree that career women are the best bet.

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    Robby G Reply:
    April 27th, 2010 at 3:18 pm

    @Jason: Glad to hear that and I hope it helps you find what you’re looking for. I’m a big fan of career women, especially when they are strong by nature and are able to hold their composure as fuck-buddies. Hope to hear more from you, Jason.

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    # 27 April 2010 at 2:30 pm
  • Jeff said:

    Iteresting read. I know a woman who’s Dad is my boss. I work for the family which means I work for her too. She’s a professional, divorced mother of two young teen boys. She is constantly busy with her boys school or sports activities. Not dating anyone and I’m betting her sex life is about a quiet as mine. I have hung out with her and the boys several times. Dinners and movies. As friends and a employee we have fun conversation and sometimes little flirts here and there. She is what you would call a milf. Sometimes I think I should hint or say something but other times I think don’t do it. This one of those things that if it were to happen I wouldn’t tell a soul. There are times when I see her I can’t help but think of the things I’d like to do to her.
    So any suggestions? Best leave it alone? Ladies your inputs are welcome too.
    Thanks Jeff

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    Robby G Reply:
    June 11th, 2010 at 10:18 am

    Jeff: That’s quite the situation. I personally love the excitement when these sort of things come around, but you have to ask yourself if you are willing to lose your job if things go bad, which is what usually tends to happen. And if you decide to go for it, make sure you are certain enough that she will be into it and not reject you and make everything completely awkward. Also, are you willing to get into a serious relationship if things do progress and that’s what she wants, or will you back out of it? I know there are unlimited amount of questions and they are mostly against you, but you also have to think open-minded sometimes, we live once, so why not go for it? It all really depends on the job and your own personality and how much you really care if things go wrong at the end. I hope that helps.

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    Jeff Reply:
    June 11th, 2010 at 12:27 pm

    Yes I have thought of these things but just how do you “feel” someone out about these things without it getting awkward? I have the up most respect for her and I treat her like a friend but sometimes once in awhile I get the feeling she’s thinking the same thing but should she do it? Maybe I should juice her up on Magaritas then shine a bright light in her face and make her talk. LOL I hear she’s doesn’t desire marriage or even a serious relationship. Her ex really broke her heart. I’m kinda in the same boat with those feelings as well. I can tell you this…if she offered it I would be all over it.
    So…are there any skinny little brunettes around here? :) I’d love to find a pretty little brunette chew toy.
    Jeff

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    # 10 June 2010 at 10:38 pm
  • sam said:

    hi. girls..
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    Sam

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    # 25 July 2010 at 5:26 pm
  • Bongs For Sale said:

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    # 30 July 2010 at 12:54 am
  • rocco said:

    Hi Ladies,

    Am a sort of workoholic here in Dubai an no time for a relationship and limited time for attachement, i like to have chat, relaxation with a beer. So the best thing for me is to have a fuck buddy so if you are up for it text me on +447967293969 until i get my dubai number. By the way nice article mate, but dubai if you talk to a women and she frick out you in jail so i prefer to have someone who is really inot fuck buddy to contact me.

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    # 8 August 2010 at 7:25 am
  • Marano said:

    hi i’m a guy and i really like the idea of having a fb. do you give your real name, address, numbers to a potential fuck buddy if she asks?

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    Robby G Reply:
    August 18th, 2010 at 4:46 pm

    @Marano: I always have and don’t see anything wrong with giving those details to a fuck buddy. It’s not like she’s a prostitute, she’s just a girl that you have strictly sexual relations with.

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    # 17 August 2010 at 11:39 pm
  • Phil Shaftoe said:

    I have fuck buddy named Teresa Cains. Our monthly activity suits us fine.

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    # 20 August 2010 at 7:29 am
  • Teresa Cains said:

    You bet Phil my chucken lover! I get a free lay for cooking and cleaning for him too! I’m his friend with benefits.

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    # 23 August 2010 at 6:45 am
  • Frank said:

    As my Grandfather once said,…”Sex only lasts for 5 minutes”.

    I noticed that STD’s were only mentioned in one reply,…..todays world is not at all like it was 30+ years ago. You youngsters have a lot of learning ahead of you, ‘IF’ you live long enough, and besides,….its just common knowledge,…..’NEVER FUCK OR DATE ‘ANYONE’ THAT WORKS WHERE YOU WORK!!!!’

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    Jeff Reply:
    August 25th, 2010 at 11:29 pm

    5 mins.? Maybe for him it did. :) Just saying. I remember having a relationship with a co-worker it went well actually but she did want to get attached. Mostly for the sex I think but she did like my company. I was 19 and she was 29 at the time. Not drop dead gorgeous but I sure wouldn’t pass it up. She was full time and I was part time weekends. She had been flirting with me for a couple weeks. I was a pretty shy bashfull kid then but she had the hots for me. Around 10 a.m. at work one Saturday morning she walked up to me, stuck her hand out and as she opened her hand up she said “Would you like to have my cherry?” I bet I turned 3 shades of red and was shaking like a scared kitten. In her hand was a cherry with the stem on it and placed it in my hand. Later that night I stopped by her house, knocked on her door and it was licking, sucking and fucking for weeks after.
    The “wild” things you foget you’ve done in your life.
    Cheers

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    # 25 August 2010 at 7:29 pm

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