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How to Grab a Woman’s Attention?

10 July 2009 5 Comments

I need HELP in grabbing a girl’s a attention when in a public place. I’m not the best looking guy but I see guys that aren’t rich and good looking and they still pick up women. How can I do the same?

You don’t need to be the best looking guy or even the richest guy in order to pick up women. And though grabbing a woman’s attention is important, it is keeping her attention that locks the deal. And all you need to know to be successful in that is to be confident and to not take yourself too serious. You know how people say that dating is a game, well it definitely is, so make sure not to put all your cards out on the table. She has to find you somewhat mysterious. Now about grabbing her attention, simply gather up all your confidence, don’t think about the consequences, and step up to the batter’s plate. And as a confidence boost, just think one thing: What’s the worst that can happen? It’s just another girl. It doesn’t matter how great she looks or how many other guys have tried and have been rejected by her that night, all that matters is that… nothing really matters and that you’re there to have a great time. Some guys go for the mediocre girls because they think it’s a waste of their time to try and get with the best looking girl in the room. I personally love the challenge and I don’t go in there thinking about walking out with her, instead I think about coming up to her, starting up a chat, and see where things go from there. Don’t over-think the process. Just locate who you think is good looking, come up to her, and ask her a question. Act human around her. She doesn’t want a guy who practised his pick-up lines at home or someone who has to wear weird and eccentric clothes or whatnot to get her attention. Be real with and around her and don’t think you have to outplay anyone else there. Also, try to get the thought of your friends out of your head because they may pose some pressure. You’re not there to impress anyone whether its her, your friends, or other girls in the room.

When you don’t take yourself too seriously you allow yourself to be more free with what you say and things come more naturally. You begin to joke around about all kinds of things and she gets to see a guy who can finally be the same around her as he is around everyone, and she gets to also see that she likes that you don’t have to put on a show just for her. Some may think the alpha-male always gets the girl, and though this is true, the alpha-male isn’t the one controlling everyone with an iron hand. The alpha-male is the one everyone likes and wants to be around. And that desire for people to be around you cannot be forced, but it can be attained. And that’s what will hold her attention once you approach with confidence. So try to grab her attention with confidence, and keep her attention by being outgoing and not taking things too seriously. Just be an enjoyment for her to be around and you’ll have them all.


  • Anette said:

    You guys, just please don’t think we want you for your looks. We don’t. We want your attention. And then we want you to not go away again. Maybe even more importantly, we hope that out there among you is someone who is not afraid of us because we want to know you.
    .-= Anette´s last blog ..Jesus Backs Gandhi’s Position of Non-Violence. That Bothers Me! =-.

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  • Robby G (author) said:

    There you go, and now you have a female’s comment on the subject. Thanks Anette. Guys just don’t fear the woman (though you may never admit it), be confident, and enjoy your time getting to know her.

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  • Crazy Oldie said:

    You hit the nail on the head there buddy! Be confident and be outgoing. No girl, be it for your class, a stripper, or the hot mom looking for some side action while her husband away at work will go for anything less…you dont need to be the hottest guy or have a fist full of dollars, those are second to the fact how you act and react when around the girl you are trying to bag.
    .-= Crazy Oldie´s last blog ..Stripper Pole Dancing =-.

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    Robby G Reply:

    Good seeing you back mate. Thanks for the input. And you’re right, it doesn’t matter what type of woman you approach as long as you have that smooth confidence in you.

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  • Jack Reed- How to approach Woman said:

    good job
    so interesting, for me its effective..
    i just visited a site like this lately, and they also teach techniques on how to appraoch girls. they had a free video about it..

    nice work from you..


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