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How to Land a Prince–After Kissing 1000 Frogs

6 October 2009 4 Comments

Guest Post by Jennifer Martin, contributing author at the Negotiation Board.

Who says there is no such thing as Happily Ever After? I have found my prince and am living proof that every woman’s fantasy can come true. After years of dating nothing but absolute losers, I lost hope and resigned myself to a life of misery dating the same type of man who is what I call a “Frog.” If you are questioning whether or not your man’s a Frog, then he probably is. If you want clear confirmation, if he fits into any, or all, of the following criteria than he is a Frog with a capital F:

  • He doesn’t have a job.
  • He lives with his mom.
  • He treat’s you like dirt.

A Prince on the other hand, will subtlety announce himself with trumpets. You cannot miss this man if you know what to look for:

  • He has a job.
  • He respects his mom, but doesn’t depend on her.
  • He treats you like a princess.

Now you may be thinking, well I am far from a princess, but that may be because you have not found your prince. Ever known a woman who is beautiful, confident and has the perfect man? Instead of secretly envying her, ask yourself why that woman is so radiant. It very well may be that the man is largely responsible for his woman’s overall loveliness. When a man is loving, the woman becomes lovely inside and out. Use these following steps to land your Prince and a happy ending:

Don’t Try to Change Him

If you begin dating a man and right off the bat realize that this one will need a lot of work, just walk away. Many women stay with the same man because they think he has so much “potential.” The problem is the guy doesn’t see the same qualities in himself, or are unwillingly to do the work to become someone better. Instead of finding a man to fix, pick one that you do not want to change. You cannot expect someone to change for you.

Water Seeks its Own Level

If you are constantly dating Frogs, you need to ask yourself if you are apart of the problem. Is the common denominator you? The one person that you can change is yourself. If you are unaware of what you need to improve upon, ask friends and family to identify the flaws in your character and the relationship mistakes they have seen you repeatedly make. I am sure they will be happy to let you know.

Fake it ‘Til You Make It–Act like a Princess

  • To attract a prince, you need to at least act like a princess. No more rolling out of bed and rushing off to work without a stitch of makeup and greasy hair. You don’t have to look like a supermodel, but guys want to see that you have at least made an effort. 
  • Don’t complain, gossip, or nag. What you don’t say is just as important as what you do.
  • Show him you are not only a princess, but a domestic goddess as well. Make him breakfast in bed, tidy up his apartment, bake him a pie—all the stuff he’ll want you to do, but won’t ask. Throw that feminist too-good-for-that-stuff attitude out the door. Men and women are not the same, accept the fact and get over it already!

You now know how to identify a frog by looking at his job, relationship with his mom, and relationship with you. If you discover that you are with a Frog (like you didn’t already know) get rid of him now! After you are free from his spell, work on making yourself Prince worthy so when your knight and shining armor does appear, you are ready for him.

Ladies please don’t go looking for your Prince in the usual haunts like bars, dance clubs, or online. You will not find him there! Instead keep your eyes on the guys you meet through friends, by volunteering, in professional organizations, or through other reputable sources. Keep your options, and your mind, open because you will never know when you will meet “The One.

Jennifer Martin and her husband, Jonathan, are developing an online Negotiation Board where members of the community can share, learn, and succeed in negotiation. Their combined experience includes Real Estate, Corporate Seattle, Purchasing, and Managing Family Finances. The Martins have a passion for negotiation and helping others learn that “everything is negotiable” and anyone can learn how.

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  • Jenny said:

    I think some of this advice is valid, but I think other parts are a little too much of “this is what worked for me.. so it will work for you.” Who says you can’t meet someone in a bar or online? The best way would of course be the whole “find someone when you’re not looking” route.. but I don’t think it hurts to mix it up with a little effort too. One of the issues I see the most among my female friends is that they view being single as an issue, some kind of problem that needs to be fixed – rather than treating it as an opportunity to fill their schedule with the activities they enjoy and really find out what makes them happy on their own – a key component to figuring out what type of person you should be with ultimately. That’s just my two cents though.
    .-= Jenny´s last blog ..Best Idea Ever, Episode #7,893 =-.

  • The Questioner said:

    “When a man is loving, the woman becomes lovely inside and out.”

    Are you kidding me? Have you really never met a woman who was beautiful, brilliant, confident, and radiant WITHOUT a man to love her? Certainly women can be “lovely inside and out” on their own, outside of romantic love. Besides why would a man want to be with a woman who wasn’t already those things without him?

  • Robby G (author) said:

    @The Questioner: That’s a good point, I’d love to hear a response from Jennifer (guest poster) if she has the time.

  • jennifer said:

    From my experience the women I know that have found a perfect man, their soul mate, are transformed into someone even more radiant than before. Yes, a women should possess some of these qualities in order to attract the right man, but I don’t think she is truly complete until she has found her one and only. Keep in mind that this is my personal view and I am probably as anti-feminist as they come :)!
    .-= jennifer´s last blog ..10 Traits of Expert Negotiators =-.

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