How to Win a Woman Over
Today I received an email asking me a question based on picking up women. Back in December I published a post asking people who were interested to submit a question based on the Get Women Series subject, and have totally forgotten about it since no one asked anything… Well until now:
Hey Robby, love your shite (I mean site 🙂 ) I wanted to know what your advice would be for a guy (me) that likes a girl but she has a boyfriend already. She’s in one of my college classes and we often talk together, but I have never taken it further since she has a guy.
First of all, Drake, thanks for the question. Second of all, I’m pretty sure 82% of the women I’ve dated have either had a boyfriend when we began to go out or were married. I know, I know, that’s pretty damn bad, but I will say this. None of them had kids. Anywho, what I wanted to say by that is that I’m pretty good at (I don’t wanna say it but) making women jump ship.
Now what’s important for you to do here in this situation is to try and take it to the next level and ask her for her phone number, but without having her think that you’re asking her for the digits to go out with her. This can be done in many ways. Since you’re in the same class together, you may ask her to exchange numbers with her for the sake of asking her for some help with a question in the course, or just so you may contact her about what you’ll miss next Friday because you won’t be able to make it to class that day. So once you’ve got the number, call her up, stir up a conversation, and in the end ask her if she’d like to get together and have a coffee or a beer. If she responds saying she’s got a boyfriend so she can’t, just say: “Listen, don’t jump so far ahead, it’s just coffee (little laugh). I’m bored as hell at home right now, I need to get out.”
On your “coffee date”, make sure not to bring anything up about her boyfriend. Don’t ask how long they’ve been dating. Don’t ask where they met. Don’t even ask his name. Make sure to handle the whole thing like it’s the two of you’se first date, however, do not attempt to make any sexual movements, except for some flirting. Also, since this is the most crucial date you’ll go on with her to make her see that you’re so much better than her current boyfriend, make sure you make her have fun and laugh a lot. Look into her eyes at times so she feels that you’re a little into her, but than confuse her by breaking those ‘moments’ by saying something funny and completely unrelated to your feelings towards her.
The process of making her your girlfriend may take a little longer than getting a single girl to be your girlfriend, but it’s still very achievable. You’ll need to basically take her on these ‘coffee dates’ from time to time, but make sure not to become her friend. By this I mean do not talk about other girls you may like or about her boyfriend or about problems. Just go out and have fun, don’t become the shoulder to cry on. Then once she’ll see you’re such a fun guy, make a move and kiss her. If she’ll be into it then you’re set. All that you’ll need to do afterwards is wait until she flares up the conversation about what she’ll do about her boyfriend and you’ll have to make sure she feels that you will be there for her to take her boyfriend’s spot if she decides to break-up with her current man.
Best of luck, Drake. Drop me an email in the future telling me how goes it. For anyone else that needs dating advice answers, please go right ahead and email me your question through my Contact Form.