Man, She Put a Spell On Him
So I am married and my Fuck Buddy is also married. It is strictly sex for
me, we have incredible, passionate, wild sex. He’s very into anal and mmf
threesomes, I’m having a blast. However, recently he constantly asks if I’m
fucking anyone else. (I’m not) He told me because he has a “thing” for me,
he has no other fuck buddies because he doesn’t feel like it’s ‘right’. But
then he tells me to go out and fuck other guys, but he would expect me to be
honest and tell him about it. Where is the logic in this? I don’t know where
I stand and what he’s trying to accomplish. Is he just freaky and gets off
on knowing about me with other guys? Does he want me to fuck someone else so
that he has an out? Is he developing feelings and its a jealousy thing?
I think you hit the nail on the head with the last one. It could be he is developing feelings and thinks the only way to get rid of them is if you sleep with someone else and tell him about it. It happens often with male fuck buddies who are already in a relationship and know that there should not be any kind of emotional attachment, but when they start developing certain feelings for the fuck buddy, they begin to resent themselves for it and the only way they think they can get off the hook of liking them is if they create a negative image of the woman they like. He wants you to sleep with someone else and tell him about it to know that it is actually strictly sex between you two and nothing more, and that this situations is strictly for fun and not to develop into anything serious.
Dealing With His Feelings
Confronting him about it usually leads to nowhere, because he will most likely deny having feelings for you that are beyond the bedroom. A great way to find out exactly if it is a jealousy thing is by seeing how he reacts if the next time you are doing an MMF threesome, that you shw particularly more affection during the sex to the second male. Really push the boundaries and get hot with the second male and see if your main fuck buddy will show signs of jealousy by trying to outcompete the other male. Once you see the signs, do not push it way over the limit because he may really flip out, but make sure to pick up on anything that would make you think that he really is into you more than just for the sex.
If you do not notice any signs of jealousy or extreme attachment to you, then that means he most likely does want you start sleeping with other men just because he may fear that it is you who is getting attached. So this act of you seeing another man would just give him the opportunity he needs to get out of the fuck buddy relationship you have and refocus his priorities and desires.
Nonetheless, if he is showing sins of jealousy then you may want to create a little bit of a distance between you and him. If that isn’t a choice then you should again remind him that you are into this just for fun and there cannot be anything beyond the bedroom relationship that you currently have. I would put my money on the fact that he is starting to like you more than a fuck buddy simply because he mentioned that he does not feel it ‘right’ to have other fuck buddyies yet he encourages you to have others. He seems like he is extremely torn apart with this current relationship you have, and though he is loving it, he is at the same time in desperation towards the fact that he knows it is strictly a fuck buddy relationship. And even though he may be getting more attached, he may want an out just because of the contradiction between the reality of the situation and the emotions he has developed. After you try what I suggested with the MMF threesome, you may want to give him a hint that you need some space for yourself and your husband, unless of course you realize that it is he who is the one who may want to distance himself because he may be feeling that he may have gotten himself deeper than he wanted. Either way, I think some distance is necessary just because of the mixed up emotions and desires he currently is going through. Who knows, maybe after a short break he will regain the understanding that you only share a fuck buddy relationship and you can resume what you had when you just started out.