I sent you an email initially on the 11th September 2010 with the title, “A Few Words and a Kiss” and am hoping that you can advise me on what to do
with the latest problem with my FB.
Basically, my last post to you was saying that my FB said that he just
wanted to be friends and that he needed space. This was done just before I
had taken 3 weeks off work (due to personal reasons) and I then decided to
ignore him because I was hurting so bad and needed to get over this. Whilst
I was away, he sent me a few texts asking if I was ok and was asking all my
friends at work if they had heard from me and how I was.
I came back to work and he sent me an email saying that he was glad to see
me. I again ignored this and he kept wanting to talk to me.
I then gave in and talked (shouted rather) and we had a big blazing argument
and he got really pissed off when I told him that I didn`t ask for his
concern cos he said that he was worried. This eventually calmed down and we
started to talk normally and he started to look/speak to me like he used
I have since found out that he was shagging some other gal (whilst I was
away) and there he was telling me that he needed space and he goes off and
shags her. What`s that all about? He also said that because I was ignoring
him that he thought I wanted nothing more to do with him.
He keeps asking me what I want and I have told him that I want things to be
back to how they were before and that I don`t want to be in a relationship
with him and that he is just my bit on the side like I was to him. He
actually seemed a bit put off by that remark. I also told him that I never,
ever gave him any indication that I wanted more from him (which I never,
ever did) so it pissed me off that he was trying to turn this and make it out
like I was the one trying to get more from him when he knew I had a
boyfriend and HE was the one being more intimate towards me than I towards
Basically, we are now back to how we were before (except this time it`s
colder) but I am still with my boyfriend and he knows this. My point is
this……I am so in love with this dude that it is breaking my heart and I
can`t stop thinking about him. I can`t admit my feelings for him because,
although I knew it was something a bit more than fuck buddies before, too
much has happened since. He keeps telling me that he understands that we
are just fuck buddies but at the same time, it feels like he is wanting me
to admit how I feel to him and I just can`t.
Please advise me before I go mental????