I have to admit that even though I have my ways when it comes to talking and flirting and getting girls to come back to my place for a pleasant evening, there are times when I do get to feeling some kinds of insecurities. The insecurities I tend to get consist of the following two thoughts: “Did I do something wrong?” and “Does she not like me?” I’ve come to recognize that these sort of insecurities are normal for men and they tend to flare up when I’ve taken out a girl on a second date and we still haven’t slept with each other, or if I text message a girl and she doesn’t text or call back that same day. If that happens there is a chance that the girl doesn’t want to talk to me that day or doesn’t like me or that I’ve done something wrong, but most times I tend to put a lot more thought into the situation than I should and allow my insecurities to grow to a point where I end up looking at the girl with a completely negative light even when she does call back. Those insecurities build up to a point where I’m imagining worse scenarios than are even possible. Then I realized that there are in fact ways to stop having this type of insecure mindset when I am dealing with a girl I still haven’t slept with.
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Hi I am a unhappily married women. I think the last time we had sex was
almost a year ago.
I have met a man whom is separated
we started having sexy texts and liasons when ever we can get away.
He has said no illusions no problems meaning we are two people who enjoy
sex with each other very much and that’s it.
I can’t get him out of my head.
When we are together and done our session he talks about himself and isn’t
interested in really anything I have to say, to me that’s why I’m in this
situation I already have a man who doesn’t listen to me. In order for me to
really open up sexually because we are trying to make me squirt I need to
be heard at least some interest in me.
Excuse the grammar not very good at articulating. I think you get the just.
I know this is morally wrong. I’m obviously not looking for a relationship.

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I was somewhat dating this amazing guy for about a week when I invited him
over to spend the night and we ended up fucking. it was amazing sex. after
that we hung out almost everyday and 75% of the time slept together for
about 2 months.
He told his friends about me and would kiss me in public everyonce in a
while but we never really went on real dates. He is very busy going to
school and working so I understand.
We never talked about how we felt at all except one time when I was
sleeping with him and he said “I love you” as he was getting into it. I
figured it kind of came out and he didn’t mean it so nothing was said back
and nothing was said about it.
This is where I made a mistake and got a little too drunk and slept with
someone else. I didn’t think he would find out though I knew he knows the
person and I knew he would be angry so I didn’t tell him.
I’m not sure when, but he found out and since then stopped talking to me
completely and slept with someone else (perhaps more than one person, I only
know of one and I’m pretty sure he slept with them so I would find out).
I finally got the courage to apologize, though over text a few weeks after
he slept with someone else, and he kind of accepted it and blew it off.
since then about once weekly we text or call each other, meet up, and sleep
with each other. it seems like everythings almost back to normal when were
together but when were not i feel like he wants nothing to do with me.
recently he’s been seeming less and less interested and any contact is
mostly on my part.
I really truly have deep feelings for him and it’s now been 4 months
since we first began seeing each other. I want to begin a serious
relationship and I don’t want it with anyone but him. I’m afraid any
serious talk will scare him away right away and we still to this day have
never talked about our feelings, etc. this week he did not reach out to me
at all nor did I to him in fear of him being annoyed. I can’t go on like
this but I can’t get the courage to say something. what should I do?

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I went out with this guy for three months, and slept with him in that time.
He then split up with me, but then asked if we could become fuckbuddies. I
agreed because I missed him and the sex. We’ve been doing this for nine
months now. At first it wasn’t very different from us being in a proper
relationship, but about 7 months into us being fuckbuddies he fell for
someone else. She turned him down and we continued sleeping together. I got
very upset about him liking someone else, and I feel it has made me quite
clingy, and he is growing more distant. I can see this ending badly but he
has put up with so much from me (shit about the other girl, I have a rough
family situation I rely on him heavily for advice about, and my
clingyness)that I can’t believe it’s just about sex for him. I have been the
only women he has been with for well over a year. We were also sort of
together but not in a relationship (we kissed, cuddled, were very close but
no sexual activity) for four months before he asked me out, so it is not
unknown for him to not want to commit. I want more and have to say something
so I can stop being clingy and not drive him away because of it, but don’t
know how to go about it. I was thinking telling him I can’t sleep with him
anymore because I like him very much. This way I am making him work for it,
and he knows he won’t be knocked back if he wants to ask me out on a date,
and if he doesn’t respond well then at least I won’t get hurt any further.
He is my best friend and I see him every weekday at college so not talking
is not an option. How is the best way to deal with this situation?

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I’m a big fan of cinema and when I’m talking to other people about films, I usually presume that they’ve seen most of what I’ve seen. Except that’s not usually the case and when I start telling them the story-line to the films I think are great, they tend to drift off just because I clearly don’t do the films justice through my fantastic skills of oral communication. I wanted to cover two films today that I believe are some of the most under-rated films of all time–or at least the last 20 years. One is a comedy, and in my opinion the greatest comedy of all time, which I have seen more times than any other film, including Pulp Fiction. And the second is a crime-drama, which is more relevant now than ever before.

Friday

No, I’m not talking about Next Friday or Friday After Next with Ice Cube and Mike Epps, I’m talking about the one and only, the one that started it all, Friday with Ice Cube and Chris Tucker. That’s right, Chris Tucker or as the ones who have seen the film may know him as Smokey. This film beats Office Space and Dumb and Dumber when it comes to humour, and it completely circles around Craig’s (Ice Cube) front porch.
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Hi,
My boyfriend and I were together for 5 years until he cheated on me. During the five years he seemed so in love with me and around me that at times i felt like i needed space away from him. He started talking about marriage since we were 17 but i always told him to focus on school so we can prepare for our future. He never seemed focus on school but I needed security and stability for the future, therefore we broke up many times during our relationship but he would always come back and it seemed like he couldn’t live without me.

After he met that girl, he became a completely different person. Very
conceited, into his looks, going out all the time, simply wild and crazy and just the complete opposite of what he was. I felt so betrayed.

This was a year ago. I forgave him, took him back. He expressed that he was very apologetic, he felt guilty. But the relationship was no longer the same. He was acting like if i said one thing wrong he would leave me. for some reason I was afraid of him leaving because he was my best friend. My emotional bank, my emotional balance. Without him, i couldn’t handle my emotions.

Anyway, I recently found out that he’s still cheating on me, with multiple woman now. How does one go from being so in love for so many years to not caring at all? Does he feel any remorse for what he is doing to me? We were together for 6 years, we were each other first everything, how can he treat me like any random girl? Does he feel bad for doing this?

Please help.

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As I sit here in my boxers, a wool sweater, no undershirt, a big wooden cross from the Vatican, and my dusty, black Timberland boots that I borrowed to never return from a friend doing time, listening to Jim Morrison’s yelps of drug-induced insanity, drinking a Heineken in the city that produces the dreadful beverage that will one day be the cause of my kidney-failure, and smoking from a hookah at 4 in the morning, I bet my new room-mate is cursing me in his sleep. I was in the process of reading Kelly Diels’ blog… why? Well, I stumbled on to it and it’s pretty fucking great so far, that’s why. What I find real interesting about the blog is that it’s called Cleavage yet the domain name is KellyDiels. Fucking hell, it’s been over a year that I’ve been writing on this blog and nobody told me that the domain name and title of the blog can be different. Maybe it’s time to keep the domain name (ShiteILike) yet change the title to something more suitable and with more pizzazz (I fucking hate that word)… well, any suggestions?
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