Breaking Up »

[28 Jul 2010 | No Comment | ]

Dear Robby G,
Two years ago my boss’ son kissed me suddenly on the lips and since then we
have been secretly seeing each other. In the beginning it was never
about sex, nor making out with each other but more casual, flirting, sexting
etc etc. Then we started having sex.
The thing is, my boss treats me like I’m his daughter, I go over to their
house and he really treats me like family. HOWEVER, Terrence does not
look at me twice when he sees me over at the house, etc.
Now, I can tell that our relationship is strictly on a fuck buddy basis but
sometimes I tend to confuse FB with friend. He doesn’t reply to my texts (I
don’t call) and when he does its usually to “get together”.
I don’t mind because I have sex FOR ME, and not about him. Sometimes I
really feel used when he doesn’t check up on me because before we started
having sex I was used to that type of friendship. I know sex has changed
things but I don’t know what to do. We have made it clear with each other
about feelings and I told him that I can’t tell where feelings can go but if
he wants out he can and I will be cool with his choice. HE chose to stay.
Recently I moved out from my parent’s home and 2 minutes from where he
lives.. he lies about this girl telling me that she is not his gf but his
brother (who knows about us) says things are different… so he lies to me.
It’s very hard for me to get out. I just don’t know how to do it. Please
advise. Sandy

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Breaking Up »

[24 Jul 2010 | One Comment | ]

Hey Robby!
I’m German so excuse me, if my spelling is not all well. 3 months ago, I met
a guy that I started seeing. We didn’t have sex the first night, but then we
did, and it’s amazing. And good sex is important to me, and I guess I over
the past three months have developed feelings for him. I haven’t told him, as
I dont feel it is reciprocated. He is not too eager to see me all the time,
and he has slowed down his interest. He doesn’t play games and hasn’t promised
me anything. But, now I was told he has been chatting a girl up I know, on
FB. He knows I’m not friends with her, but he must know we know the same
people. The girl doesn’t know about me, as I have kept a low profile and the
friend we have in common hasn’t said anything. They haven’t gone out, and she
isn’t interested in him. Also, he has said he wanted to keep a low profile.
And I guess I know why, as he is busy with other girls. Fine, I kinda
figured that, but now that it is too close to comfort for me, I’m thinking of
breaking it off. What do I do? Tell him I know, ignore him or turn him down
as in no thanks to hanging out? He is 25 I’m 35, and I know he doesn’t have a
steady gf. It makes me not feel very special, and in order to see someone I
want to feel special either way. I feel that I should let it go, as I don’t
see it going anywhere but sex, I just dont know how to do it, in the best
way, so I don’t seem like a pathetic girl. He is really nice, and he is not
a player in that sense. So I could probably tell him I know, but is that
wise?
He lives for the most part in Holland, so has invited me, now that the
summer is over and he is back to his job, where he spends alot of time.

Hope for an answer soon. You’re awesome.

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Breaking Up »

[22 Jul 2010 | 4 Comments | ]

I am in love with my fb. I told him serveral times and i think i screwed it
up long time ago when he asked me to move in with him and asked me come see
but that we weren’t going to have sex. Now just recently which was today he
says he doesn’t want to cheat on his girlfriend. We had it planned to meet
monday, I showed up and he called me and said that he is 1 minute away. He
then goes what kind of car are you driving i said a pos. Then he doesn’t
pull in at all. never called to say he wasn’t coming or nothing. I finally
get the answer today that he wants to stay faithful to her. When the whole
time he said she doesn’t do it for him. And that him and her were fighting
again. There was a huge 6th month hiatus that he took of me and he went on
the computer to find me. We use to text only cell to cell no email or
nothing. It’s like he comes and goes. When he comes he gets all emotional
then says for me to not want him basically anymore cuz he is with her. I’m
lost. What should i do? should i wait again? He’s 25 and im 31.

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Relationship Tips »

[17 Jul 2010 | 17 Comments | ]

I have been with this guy mainly as a FB. But of course over the year we
have been together I have have feelings for him. We were friends before so I
think I was attracted to him before the sex. We hook-up at least 1-2 times a
week.

Anyway, to make a long story short here are some examples of our situation.

After we hook-up he makes it a point to not answer my text messages and if
he does they are short answers. After a few days he’s all over it wanted to
f**k, he touches me etc. There are times that we just talk, it’s usually
about some drama we have going on outside of us. He tends to get jealous of
other guys I am involved with or potentially involved with. But the same for
me with him. I say that he’s jealous because he will comment about a mutual
friend wanting me and if that guy hits on me the he comment “maybe you
should just go f**k him” but he says it condesending. If I’m talking to
somebody he askes who I’m talking to and wants to know if I’m hooking up
with that person.

I find that he slips sometimes and he’ll stare at me during sex or kiss me
which we agreed not to do.

We discussed our situation and both realise that it’s complicated and we do
care about each other but under the circumstances can’t have a relationship.
He said he cared about me but not to go as far as marriage. He would compare
me to his ex often before they broke up and we hooked-up. He would expect
things out of her that I would do.

I’m just curious what your thoughts are on this. Is this something I should
pursue or just move on?

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Step Up Your Game »

[15 Jul 2010 | 2 Comments | ]

Hi Robby,
So there is this cute girl who is tutoring me. At first she was just a tutor
but recently I’ve been getting into her. I’m sorta good looking and I work
out and I think she would be into me but there is just a small problem. I’m
18 and she is 23 I tried getting over her by dating other people but I just
can’t. Do you think I would have a shot with her?
What should I do?
Tnx
Bye

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Relationship Tips »

[13 Jul 2010 | No Comment | ]

Hi. So i hooked up (just kissing) with a guy second time and for some reason
he seems to care about me. He came with me to find a cab for me to get home
and when i got in he asked me for a kiss. I mean why would he?? I’m just
confused. I have his number. I feel like i want to text him, but i’m scared
he is going to be like why is she texting me? Does he like me? because i
also remember him asking me if i still liked my ex bf. Thanks.

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Step Up Your Game »

[7 Jul 2010 | 2 Comments | ]

Hi Robby G….

I’m back 😉

So, this time I need serious help in dealing with the issues of having
willpower and keeping my power as they relate to my fuckbuddy
relationships.

Last week I had some of the best sex of my life with a new fuckbuddy. I mean,
I’m not exaggerating when I say it was mind-blowing, earth-shattering,
getting fucked-seven-ways-from-Sunday type of sex. It was amazing….and
just what I needed. Anyway, I’m taking the situation for what it’s worth,
and I’m really enjoying it. The only problem is, WHEN will it happen
again?!

Have to admit, we work at the same place doing different jobs. That is not a
problem, though. We both promised that we would not say anything about our
encounters to anyone at work, especially. Or even to our friends. Which I
haven’t, which is hard for me…because I usually always tell at least one
trusted friend. But we do this because of privacy and discreteness. It’s not
like a “shame” thing in any way. I’m a big believer in keeping my private
business private. Especially when it involves fooling around in the
workplace.

Moving on, he really satisfied me. He knew exactly what I liked sexually,
and he tapped into it in such a major way….i was really impressed. At one
point while we were fucking, he was like, “I hope this isn’t the last time
this happens.” or something like that. I hope so too! I’ve seen him once so
far at work, and things are cool between us. We say hi and talk like
normal.

A couple days after we hooked up I texted him “Hey.” he never responded. I
didn’t stress it then, and I don’t now…..but I’m having a hard time
controlling my desire to text him. He initially pursued me hardcore, which I
know is good….I’m trying to hold on to my power. I feel like the only way
I can do that is to let him “control” the situation. i.e. let him decide
when he wants to text me, etc. That way I play it more cool and I don’t seem
like I’m too interested or available.

Is this the right way to approach the situation? What is he thinking? I
mean, I know men get a little bored after the initial chase is over, and
they’ve “claimed their conquest.” but I really have to believe he’ll be
coming back for more 😉 it was just too good for us not to hook up on the
regular.

So, please let me know your thoughts. Thank you! 😉

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