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[16 Jun 2010 | No Comment | ]

I met this guy at a bar when I was visiting my best friend who lives 5 hours
away. We immediatly clicked and started chatting, we exchanged numbers and
made plans to hang out the next day. He came over to the house and we
chatted, then we met up at the bar later that night. He went home with me
that night and we had sex. We kept in contact just small talk. I went up
there a month later and saw each other everyday. I stayed up there for 5
days, he slept over two nights and we had sex. He came by to see me on my
last day just to say goodbye. He asked me to let him know when I got back
home. Which I did, he texted me later that night to tell me what a wonderful
time he had with me and he hoped I was having a good night and sent me a
kiss. We have kept in contact, I’m going back up there later this month
which he knows about. I really really like him, he knows I don’t give my
number out lightly, and I hadn’t had sex in several months before him. He
had gotten out of a relationship with a much older woman a few months before
we met. He’s moving at the end of summer, he mentioned the possibilty of
moving where I am however when we talked about it again he said he wasn’t
sure. My question is what are we, LDFB or more? How do I take this to the
next level? Should I have a sit down and talk to him, or just see where it
goes?

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Friends with Benefits »

[12 Jun 2010 | 6 Comments | ]

I met this guy two months ago and we instantly clicked. We have a lot in
common and get along great. About a week after we first went out we started
messing around. The sex was awesome and it did not seem to complicate things
until now. We both made it clear, at the start, that we were not really
looking for a relationship but if the opportunity came along then we would
go for it. So everything was going good, we were spending time together,
having fun, and just enjoying each other, then he up and disappears for
about a week or so. At first it didn’t bother me but after I tried calling
and texting a couple of times I caught on to he was avoiding me. Then he
calls me one night to see what I was doing and invites me over to his place
(for the first time) to hang out with his friends and watch the game. I was
up for it considering I didn’t have anything going on. Later on that night,
I asked him why he vanished and all of a sudden invite me to his house and
he says he felt like he was getting too attached. This really confused me and
I was upset for a little while but then I just stop caring b/c we were not
supposed to have feelings. Since then he has been texting, calling and coming
over every now and then but it’s not the same. It is so confusing because he
acts so different. One day we’re just friends with benefits, the next he’s
kissing me in public. I’m really getting mixed signals and I’m not sure what
to do because I really like him…Please help. Should I let it go, keep up
with the games, tell him I want more, or what…

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Breaking Up »

[9 Jun 2010 | No Comment | ]

I met an old HS BF on FB again after some 25+yrs..(yes I am older then most
of your peeps). So anyways this guy and I start chatting on FB, our
blackberrys as well as the phone for 3 months straight everyday no matter
what we were doing we always touched base wth one another. So after a few
months we decided to meet again. I fly out to his hometown and we had drinks
and apps. Now we had already more or less knew we were going to have sex so
it was no surprise when we did. We spent the following day together and then
went to a friends of his house for dinner because they wanted to meet me.
After I returned home things got a little strange. I guess i should give u
a lil back story on him to be fair. He is in the middle of a divorce and I
knew that going into it. I was not looking to start a long distance
relationship but i will admit that i was hoping we could date from a
distance, i mean really people do it all the time. So now things are weird.
He claims that he is a mess and that his divorce has devistated him and he
just has no energy to put into another relatiosnhip and that he needs to
concentrate on his kids and job right now. Now i understand all of that…So
i guess my confussion is this.. Why did our relationship have to change
after my visit?? He claims to really care about me and like me alot and that
we can start this up again when he feels like he is ready..So is he just
saying these things to keep me around or does he really have feeling for
me..??? Help

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Relationship Tips »

[6 Jun 2010 | 3 Comments | ]

Hey Robby G… By the way is my first time going to your page and i must
admit that i been on it all day at work.. is great but i really need
help…. so about three months ago i met my friends brother he lives in
another state and got out of a crazy relationship.. he came to visit and we
were all supposed to hang out all night but i couldn’t make it until really
late… by the time i got there everyone was drunk and having a good time…
we immediately clicked and that night we stood up all night talking about our
lives. We didn’t kiss or have sex and before he walked me outside, he asked
me to come back later to go with him to his family get together. Well, ever
since we have seen each other every weekend. i have driven two hours away to
see him of course he asks me to and he has driven to see me also… i have
met his best friends… but he has told me that he doesn’t want to be in a
relationship.. but he gets jelous of my ex. And we sleep together take baths
together brought our children around each other … and he constantly tells
me he misses me, what he’s going to do with me. He always tells me that
he hates me smilling and kissing me in the forehead.. am confused.. i feel
like he’s falling for me but why he can’t admit it to others or why keep telling
me to go find someone else?

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Relationship Tips »

[4 Jun 2010 | 6 Comments | ]

I’m liking your advice here! It’s great because it’s SO
straightforward…just tell me the truth dammit!

So this guy had the sweetest deal…for the past 2 months, I just called him
for sex. When I first met him, he tried to pull all the moves on me. Some
girl was stalking him at the bar and he said later that night, “forget about
all other girls, I’ve met you now.” I believed his lies for about a week,
but then realized he’s 22 (and I’m 26) and about to be out of the Army and
move out of state and he is just trying to play me. I had always invited
him out with my friends but he was always busy for some reason. I got the
point. But he was so hot and a great, passionate kisser, I thought fuck
buddies would work and I drunk texted him one night after coming home from
the bar. He had been drinking too and took a cab 45 min to my house at 2am!
Sex was AWESOME! So I kept texting him. He still never wants to hang out
with me unless it’s to watch a movie and get it on. When I first met him,
he said he would go hiking and camping and rafting with me, but now he
says no. He’s such a great lover. Before we have sex we usually watch a
movie and he’ll cuddle with me and kiss my forehead and my hand and be so
sweet. We’ll have great sex. He always tries so hard to please me, even if
I’m being lazy. Then afterwards he will lay around and cuddle and have
serious conversation with me for an hour or two. He is always kissing
me…just pecking or a sweet one on my forehead. I know FBs shouldn’t do
this, but I like it. He also tells me about how he talks about me to his
friends, but I’ve only met a couple. I told him not to talk to his friends
about me because I didn’t want all of the Army to know our sex life or how
he thinks I’m a nympho. I hadn’t seen him in 2 weeks because I was out of town
and he came over the day after I got home and he had never been so cute to
me! My back was hurting a lot from rafting for 8 days and he said he didn’t
give back rubs but he would try. He came over and I didn’t even have to
ask. He just did it about 3 times and a really good one too! He always
told me that he didn’t care at all if I saw other guys or hooked up with
them. I asked him to go rafting and camping with me and he said “I can’t,
I’m busy…why don’t you take my replacement (I had been joking about it because
he’s leaving in a month) with you” and I confessed that I had been with him
camping for the past week. He kinda quit joking with me after that. I
asked him if he had hooked up with anyone else while I was gone and he said,
“no..I’ve been really good. I don’t know why.” So later that night I think
I pissed him off a little in not fulfilling a sexual promise I said I would
make. He said it was fine. I texted him I was sorry after he left, but
something he said to me had turned me off(about not wanting to hang out with
me ever). He never responded. I texted him while he was at a going-away
party for his friend a few days later that he was being a baby and that he’s
the one who’s getting attached. He said “lol call me dramatic…I don’t
care what u say about me bc I told u I didn’t want anything serious but ur
always talking about camping and rafting and that’s just not me right now.”
I was like that’s fine…just no drama and he said everything was good and
we’d get together soon. I told him doing that stuff and having sex
afterwards is awesome and that’s my whole point! But he said okay, but I
dont have time to do that before I leave. I said okay, I wont’ ask him
anymore. I tried to get him to come over and he wouldn’t. Then he wouldn’t
answer my texts and he ALWAYS answered me back immediately so I knew he was
just ignorning me. I got a little drunk and chatted with him online a few
nights later and then he said no I’m not coming over and just got offline
without saying bye or anything so I called and left him an angry drunk
message (whoops!)
. Ignored my texts the next day saying I’m sorry. Then he
got online and totally broke up with me. He told me I wasn’t his type and
that he usually just has one night stands but he kept it going anyway
because he was leaving. He said he’s tired of Colorado and just wants to
move on. But why is he dumping me now?? He’s leaving in like 5 weeks! And
I’m not even here on the weekends anymore. He can just come over once or
twice a week, get some and go home. And he was SO mean…reiterating I’m
not the kind of girl he normally goes for?? I don’t want to toot my own
horn, but I went to an AMAZING university and have a GREAT job and I like to
do all of this stuff that he likes to do. I told him what did it matter
since all we were doing was sleeping with each other. He said that was why
he kept sleeping with me. He even went on to say maybe I’ll call you if I’m
drunk and need to get laid. What’s the deal??? That is SO mean. Why would
he even go through the trouble of saying that to me? He hasn’t been with a
girl since we’ve been hooking up either. I’m pretty sure he would tell me
(he told me he was going to hook up with another girl he knows, but then
said he just “hasn’t done it yet”…so him hooking up with another girl
isn’t the issue) and almost any night he’s out we’ve texted each other and
he wouldn’t text me while he’s with another girl. He barely pays attention
to his phone when he’s with me. How do I get him back until he leaves??
And why was he SO mean to me about it?? I’ve been so awesome to
him…everything he said he wanted. Except maybe I asked him for sex a
little too much (twice a week!). But he said that if we lived together and
if I didn’t live so far away, he’d do it everyday.

Sorry that was super long winded, but I’m pretty heated right now. I don’t
get it at all and it kind of hurt my feelings.

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Breaking Up »

[2 Jun 2010 | 2 Comments | ]

I have been with my FB/FWB for a little over a year. We both are in
relationships but oddly enough my FB/FWB is friends with my boyfriend. I
think its possible he has feelings for me but can’t get him to admit it. In
a weak drunken moment he said he couldn’t get too involved because of the
situation. He gets very jealous if he thinks I’m messing around with other
guys. I told him I have feelings for him but accept it will likely never be
more than it is. He would compare me to his GF both sexually and personally.
I’ve tried to end it many times but we both keep going back to the same
routine. Any advice you have would be great!

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Step Up Your Game »

[31 May 2010 | No Comment | ]

My mother has a very close friend and since I was born her grandson would
come over and play with my brothers. When I was five we all moved away to
another State, 9 years later we moved back.

First night i came back i met her grandson again and knew i had deep
feelings for him, i would stay at my mums friends place, just so i would be
able to see him when he was back from boarding school (i know right? its
pathetic!)

Anyway im a little older now and have changed quite alot..he sent me messages
about wanting to walk into the room i stayed in, naked! Just to see how i
would react?
we flirt and he says he would like to just be a fuckbuddy, since im too young
to be with in a relationship! (he is only 2yrs older btw)
I’m told that’s his imaturity showing, and i need to be older to be with
him(including my mother!) but it doesn’t change how I feel about him, i
wanna be more than just a fuck buddy, even though I’ve said i will be one.

I love him dearly but dont know what to do? How can we be more than just
fuckbuddies? Must i just wait till he thinks of me as a woman? and forgeting
is just NOT an option! i wanna be a girlfriend, how can i show that to him
and not freak him out?

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