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[26 Apr 2010 | No Comment | ]

LET US ALL APPLY FOR OUR SHARE OF THE STIMULUS...
Whoever really knows me, they will tell you that I am a self-analytical SOB, and recently I was thinking about why I have never felt the urge to be envious of anyone, whether other more successful fellow bloggers or rich movie stars or business moguls. What came to my mind then is something completely logical and it made me happy that I lacked this feeling of envy or desire to compete with anyone. I have never competed against anyone except for one person: myself. And I found that competing against yourself is much better for your than competing against anyone else. After I reached a certain age I began believing that there is no such thing as easy money (in my case at least–I wasn’t born rich), but also that you receive as much as you put in. There was one thing about competing against others that really never made much sense to me, and that is because we all have different situations. For example, some are born rich, others are more educated, some have better communication skills, and then there are those have more time and patience, and the list is eternal. So I know there will always be people in a better position than me which obviously makes competing against them unfair and pointless because I believe I would be wasting too much time on wishing to be like them than actually trying to reach their level.
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Relationship Tips »

[22 Apr 2010 | 2 Comments | ]

After leaving my ex this past summer and feeling stronger but still in alot
of pain, I gave in and met up with him again. It was wonderful and we talked
everything out and he told me he wants to get back together, work on our
relationship, loves me, thinks about me all of the time, will do anything to
fix us. He wanted to make sure that I still loved him and wanted him back as
well. So I agreed as long as we took it slow. Now he texts me and calls me
to tell me that he is scared, unsure needs time to sort things out and by
the way he had met someone before he met up with me, but it is nothing serious
and that I am the only one that really loves him and to please give him
time. OMG I feel like such a fool. Especially when he wanted to know when my
lease was up and was looking for wedding rings again. What just happened?
Did I get played for his ego? Emotional whiplash. I just wished I could stop
loving him. I am afraid of what to do when he calls again. Do I take his
calls or ignore them so I can try to heal all over again?

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Friends with Benefits »

[21 Apr 2010 | 8 Comments | ]

Robby G!!! Love your info man, great advice on not so popular, to the masses,
topics. My situation goes like this. My girlfriend and I were dating for
nearly 3 years. Then about 3 months ago out of nowhere she says she has lost
feelings for me. I sleep on the statement and think about it and the next
morning I call her to end the relationship. We both agree to do our own
thing and if at a later date see if we can remain friends. Now during this 3
month stint of freedom I have talked to a few girls, but am not considering
a GF anywhere in the near future (but u never know, right?) I had contacted
this girl I had hung out with a few times with friends and she said that she
had gotten back with her old BF recently and I left it at that. Then about
3wks ago she hits me up on FB saying that she was no longer with him. So,
taking the apparent hint, I strike up a convo with her and just see what
she’s been up to and when we’re gonna hang out. Now during this time she was
talking to someone else, but that ended about a week ago. So I picked her up
this past weekend to hang out, play beer pong and just hang out. She spent the
night and we fucked like crazy!!! Now I do like the girl apparently and we
have a lot of things in common plus she is smokin hot, but I’m not really
looking for a GF, but she seems like the type of person that wants more than
just a fuck buddy. I don’t wanna stop banging her because we have a good thing
going and she’s a really cool girl. Does it sound like a typical situation u
usually hear?? It’s just I don’t wanna get tied down so quickly, but I don’t
wanna lose the amazing sex. Sounds selfish when I look over this, but wanted
to get the love experts opinion lol. If u need more info or input I am
gladly available for that. Thanx for taking your time to read this and
hopefully I’ll hear from u soon!!

Ps. Her bday is this week and I offered to rent a hotel room to do our thing
in. Is that too much or preferred??

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Friends with Benefits »

[19 Apr 2010 | 2 Comments | ]

Hey Robby. So my question is about a guy who is my friend, with HUGE
benefits. We were friends for over a year before we got sexually involved,
and we both really enjoyed… each “others company” once we started getting
together.

This guy is not just any friend before we became involved we were best buds
we told each other everything. So we know a lot about each other. I had a
boyfriend before we started the friends with benefits thing, but once we
broke up me and my friend got it on. We talk daily to this day, but we don’t
rub elbows as much anymore due to living not as close and both being very
busy. But we both know it will still happen. My question is.. I started to
develop some feelings for him, and I told him A WHILE ago. He said he didn’t
want a relationship and that was that we didnt really discuss it again. We
were cool the next day almost as if nothing ever happened, and that really
confused me. To this day I can’t seem to get him out of my mind. He texts me
all the time, and makes me smile. I have even hinted at having feelings for
him, but it doesn’t seem to faze him. I know he isn’t stupid or not getting
it…Whats going on here?
Should i pursue him? STay friends? or what? It is killing me..

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Friends with Benefits »

[17 Apr 2010 | 6 Comments | ]

hello how are you. i really enjoyed reading your site and thought to myself
that I may ask you questions about my own situations as well. I really
really need your help here so please write back. it is a long story. I met
him when i was 12 and he was 25. he is my mom’s friend. when i was 15 i don’t
know what happend i really liked him and accidently I kissed him. we only
kissed once, and a year after he told me that he had feelings toward me as
well at that time and he is glad that i made the move. and after that we
kissed each ohter a few times. i just turned 18 this year and we started
going on dates and had sex. the problem is that he had a girlfriend at that time but
now they are breaking up because his girlfriend lost his baby and he has always wanted a
kid although he never loved her. He and I are still seeing each other
regularly. we see each other twice a week. he says that we are dating and we
are actually together but I have not approved of that. the first thing is that
i dont think i have real feelings toward him but i can’t be mean to him I’ve
known him for almost my whole life. however we do care for each other for
real and he always says he likes me. i will see him next thursday. Last night I
thought to myself that I may just look at him as a fuck buddy since both of
us don’t want to lose our freedom and be controlled. So that I wouldn’t get
hurt at the end. i never question him about his personal life or anything, and I
avoid topics such as future, etc. but he always talks about what he and I will
do next year, etc. so now I am confused. Are we dating or I should just look
at it as a fuck buddy relationship.

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Relationship Tips »

[14 Apr 2010 | One Comment | ]

Well it seems I’ve got commitment issues, i’ve tried fuckbuddy but I just cannot go
with the idea of fucking some one without making a bond or without love
making. I like taking care of a girl completely cuddling, whispering,
meaningful kinda thing you know, maybe that’s the reason even that girl who first
said that she doesnt want anything more than sex, ended up being emotionally
attached to me. I know I shouldn’t generalize, but most girls I’ve met, just
need someone who can act like I do when I’m with, you know caring and
sensitive and…. Now the only problem is, after a certain time I just cannot
see myself with some ONE and only one. I love making love, taking care of all
the small details, and not just to impress her, I actually love all this,
sending her texts, talking, LISTENING to her, calling her when she ain’t
expecting, even thinking about her, I mean I do love falling in love
everytime. But I just don’t want to be with one….for a very long time.
Couple of years back got into a relationship with a long time friend. We both
were really good friends before we got into it…but after we fought about something and stopped talking, we never remained just friends anymore, that was
good cuz I didnt want to. After few months she eventually called and said she
still felt the same way, I said I can’t cuz I was seeing someone else. She said
it’s ok and we can remain friends. Now after couple a years few days ago… we
started talking more through texts, especially coz of me, I wasn’t dating anyone
for a very long time and was feeling lonely, and we again started talking like
we were in a relationship. This time we never talked about love..just talked
about love making more. Had phone sex…and I’m soon gonna meet her….
Can u plz advise me for both…
1) how should i take this relationship this time, should we become fuckbuddies, but i
cant have a fb without emotionally lovemaking thing, which u usually dont
advise.
or shuld i get into relationship with her again…and again hurt her after few
months by dumping her.

2} what’s with me !!??
why don’t I just want to be normal and stick with someone…no matter how
much am in love with her now….after sometime I’m gonna get bored of her and will
move on…
is this okay to be like that??

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Relationship Tips »

[12 Apr 2010 | 6 Comments | ]

So I am married and my Fuck Buddy is also married. It is strictly sex for
me, we have incredible, passionate, wild sex. He’s very into anal and mmf
threesomes, I’m having a blast. However, recently he constantly asks if I’m
fucking anyone else. (I’m not) He told me because he has a “thing” for me,
he has no other fuck buddies because he doesn’t feel like it’s ‘right’. But
then he tells me to go out and fuck other guys, but he would expect me to be
honest and tell him about it. Where is the logic in this? I don’t know where
I stand and what he’s trying to accomplish. Is he just freaky and gets off
on knowing about me with other guys? Does he want me to fuck someone else so
that he has an out? Is he developing feelings and its a jealousy thing?

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