Relationship Tips »

[20 Feb 2010 | 2 Comments | ]

I went out with this guy for three months, and slept with him in that time.
He then split up with me, but then asked if we could become fuckbuddies. I
agreed because I missed him and the sex. We’ve been doing this for nine
months now. At first it wasn’t very different from us being in a proper
relationship, but about 7 months into us being fuckbuddies he fell for
someone else. She turned him down and we continued sleeping together. I got
very upset about him liking someone else, and I feel it has made me quite
clingy, and he is growing more distant. I can see this ending badly but he
has put up with so much from me (shit about the other girl, I have a rough
family situation I rely on him heavily for advice about, and my
clingyness)that I can’t believe it’s just about sex for him. I have been the
only women he has been with for well over a year. We were also sort of
together but not in a relationship (we kissed, cuddled, were very close but
no sexual activity) for four months before he asked me out, so it is not
unknown for him to not want to commit. I want more and have to say something
so I can stop being clingy and not drive him away because of it, but don’t
know how to go about it. I was thinking telling him I can’t sleep with him
anymore because I like him very much. This way I am making him work for it,
and he knows he won’t be knocked back if he wants to ask me out on a date,
and if he doesn’t respond well then at least I won’t get hurt any further.
He is my best friend and I see him every weekday at college so not talking
is not an option. How is the best way to deal with this situation?

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General Advice »

[17 Feb 2010 | 3 Comments | ]

I’m a big fan of cinema and when I’m talking to other people about films, I usually presume that they’ve seen most of what I’ve seen. Except that’s not usually the case and when I start telling them the story-line to the films I think are great, they tend to drift off just because I clearly don’t do the films justice through my fantastic skills of oral communication. I wanted to cover two films today that I believe are some of the most under-rated films of all time–or at least the last 20 years. One is a comedy, and in my opinion the greatest comedy of all time, which I have seen more times than any other film, including Pulp Fiction. And the second is a crime-drama, which is more relevant now than ever before.


No, I’m not talking about Next Friday or Friday After Next with Ice Cube and Mike Epps, I’m talking about the one and only, the one that started it all, Friday with Ice Cube and Chris Tucker. That’s right, Chris Tucker or as the ones who have seen the film may know him as Smokey. This film beats Office Space and Dumb and Dumber when it comes to humour, and it completely circles around Craig’s (Ice Cube) front porch.
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Breaking Up »

[15 Feb 2010 | 6 Comments | ]

My boyfriend and I were together for 5 years until he cheated on me. During the five years he seemed so in love with me and around me that at times i felt like i needed space away from him. He started talking about marriage since we were 17 but i always told him to focus on school so we can prepare for our future. He never seemed focus on school but I needed security and stability for the future, therefore we broke up many times during our relationship but he would always come back and it seemed like he couldn’t live without me.

After he met that girl, he became a completely different person. Very
conceited, into his looks, going out all the time, simply wild and crazy and just the complete opposite of what he was. I felt so betrayed.

This was a year ago. I forgave him, took him back. He expressed that he was very apologetic, he felt guilty. But the relationship was no longer the same. He was acting like if i said one thing wrong he would leave me. for some reason I was afraid of him leaving because he was my best friend. My emotional bank, my emotional balance. Without him, i couldn’t handle my emotions.

Anyway, I recently found out that he’s still cheating on me, with multiple woman now. How does one go from being so in love for so many years to not caring at all? Does he feel any remorse for what he is doing to me? We were together for 6 years, we were each other first everything, how can he treat me like any random girl? Does he feel bad for doing this?

Please help.

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Travel Stories »

[15 Feb 2010 | 2 Comments | ]

As I sit here in my boxers, a wool sweater, no undershirt, a big wooden cross from the Vatican, and my dusty, black Timberland boots that I borrowed to never return from a friend doing time, listening to Jim Morrison’s yelps of drug-induced insanity, drinking a Heineken in the city that produces the dreadful beverage that will one day be the cause of my kidney-failure, and smoking from a hookah at 4 in the morning, I bet my new room-mate is cursing me in his sleep. I was in the process of reading Kelly Diels’ blog… why? Well, I stumbled on to it and it’s pretty fucking great so far, that’s why. What I find real interesting about the blog is that it’s called Cleavage yet the domain name is KellyDiels. Fucking hell, it’s been over a year that I’ve been writing on this blog and nobody told me that the domain name and title of the blog can be different. Maybe it’s time to keep the domain name (ShiteILike) yet change the title to something more suitable and with more pizzazz (I fucking hate that word)… well, any suggestions?
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Friends with Benefits »

[14 Feb 2010 | 14 Comments | ]

I have been a fuck buddy with this guy for the past started out as
just an after the bars/late night kind of get together. After the second
month he introduced me to his friends one time (as we don’t hang out w/ the
same people) at his house for a cookout and he started inviting me over
during the day, and he also invited me to go out of town with him for the
weekend. Well the night that he asked me he told me that he is starting to
like me but sees the age difference as a problem (20 yrs..he said: “what I
haven’t experienced yet and what he already has” is the problem). We didn’t
talk for that week prior to this “vacation” and I didn’t go and he never
texted me. We lost touch for a little bit and then he text me out of the
blue. We hooked up again and has been pretty consistent since then but just
recently he has told me that he wants to start hanging out more. I have
decided to put feelings on hold until he can actually prove to me there is
something more than what is actually going on. He texts me everyday, he is
always the first to text me, and this happens even if we both know we aren’t
going to be hooking up at all that day. Since he has told me he “wants to
hang out more” I have hung out with him twice in public (which never
happened before). The first time I met up with him and his two friends and
while we were there he made some kind of comment like he was talking to his
friends before I got there and they had responded “..well shes coming here
to see you so that tells you something”. That night after we got done in the
bedroom he went to the bathroom to go clean up and when he came back in I
was all dressed with my coat and purse, ready to go. He said, “Oh, I take it
you’re leaving?” so I said, “Isn’t that what we always do?” Then he asked me
to come downstairs and hang out for a little bit so I did and we started
watching T.V., he told me he was going to teach me the humor of the funny
show we were watching. Also, that night, he told me he was trying to get me
to text him back faster because I guess I take awhile to text back
sometimes. And just recently we met up at a bar, he came with his friends
and I got there after he did, when he realized I was there he left his
friends and came and hung out with me the rest of the night. He introduced
me to more of his friends and I introduced him to mine and we ended up going
home that night together. I couldn’t sleep very well at his house (not
feeling to good to drive home) so every couple of hours I kept waking up and
he was right there next to me, not cuddling but right there. Then when I
woke up to go to the bathroom and got back into bed, he started cuddling (he
never does this..ever!). He still texts everyday but sometimes its the usual
“I’m horny” text or like yesterday it was just saying hi and he told me to
be careful driving (we got a lot of snow). He also has started to kiss me
goodbye, this began after he told me he wanted to “hang out more”. I need
some help, I get the feeling he does like me for more than what is going on
but sometimes he gets caught up in other stuff too, as do I. From the time
he has told me he wants to start “hanging out more” to now has been about a
month and we are making some progress, but I am still unsure if he was just
saying that or not. Got any advice?

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Friends with Benefits »

[10 Feb 2010 | 2 Comments | ]

I’ve been seeing this guy for 6 months. We used to work together I met him
on my first day and we had an instant connection. We worked for long hrs
alone for a whole week
And soon enough we were going out together in secret,we didn’t have sex for
a while like a month but I aslept over his house n we always messed around.
He was always texting
Me and telling me how amazing I was then we finally had sex but the boss
suspected about us and threatened both of us with our jobs so we decided to
stop it for a while but
Coudnt do it and we started basically just having sex acasionally and no
longer go out or do any of the things we used to do and I told him I didn’t
want to be just fuck buddies
But I didn’t stay away so we are still just fuck buddies but I’m falling
for him really bad and I don’t know what to do and how I can get him to feel
the same for me and maybe
We can be together. please help me with some advice.

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Miscellaneous »

[8 Feb 2010 | 3 Comments | ]

MDMA got you feeling like a champion. I’ve gotta say that life is great. I’ve been going back and forth from Canada to Netherlands and back and forth again and life has been amazing in both countries. Sure, Amsterdam is 100 times better, but seeing family and friends in Toronto hasn’t been that bad either. I’ve been feeling real good lately not because I’ve been drinking–which is something I decreased severely–but I’ve been only focusing on positive things in life. I’ve been listening to positive music such as Young Forever and watching movies such as Ferris Bueller’s Day Off. Basically, I’ve realized that life isn’t about how much money you have in your pocket, but how much joy you receive from everyday life.
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