I’ve randomly found your site and I love it! I’ve read a lot of posts
concerning FB relationships but still I think I need some help.
Five months ago I met this guy at a random bar and we hooked up and he came back to my place. Initially I thought it was just a one night thing but then
from time to time, he texted me and he would come to my place for some fun.
I was getting divorced and I hadn’t had sex for a long time since I
separated from my husband in the beginning of 2008, so I thought it was nice
to have an FB. Every time he came over we would drink, chat, watch a movie
etc, and he would sleep over, despite he only lives like 2 mins away from my
But later on I realised that I have begun developing feelings for him, and
I knew that the right thing for me to do was to stop there, as he claimed
that he had a gf “somewhere else” and he had commitment issues. He never let me go to his place. So I told him over text messages saying that I wanted
something that he could not offer. And he replied saying he totally
understood that and didn’t want me to get hurt etc.
But then a week later, we started hooking up with each other again. And we
saw each other much more often than before – at least once a week (he’s not
often in town). Once he asked me to show him my old photos I took with my
husband, and when I went through them, I burst into tears. He comforted me
We still kept seeing each other afterwards, and recently, he began asking
me to go to his place. Funny thing is I didn’t notice any women stuff at his
place, not even a single photo. Maybe he deliberate hid them all away or
The sex only took up 10% of the time we spent together. We would chat and
have a good laugh and do other kinds of stuff that people would do and play
at home. A close relative recently died and he asked me to go over his place
after I wrapped things up in the hospital. It was nice to have someone
around during difficult times but I didn’t know whether he was just trying
to be kind or what.
Now when I don’t see him, when I know that he’s out of town, I miss him
terribly. I really enjoy being around him and I do like him for who he is.
I’ve been battling over whether I should tell him about how I really feel.
But then it might lead to a complete end of things, so I won’t even get to
see him again. Now I really don’t know what to do.
Hope you could help.