For the past 2 years I have been attracted to a male.  He is of Syrian background.  We also work together.  I also clean his condo, sort out his mail and all his financial stuff was lying around.  I really fell in love with him.  He takes me out to dinner on a regular basis.  He asked me in December if i would come to Ottawa with him for a few days.  i couldn’t get the time off work.  He told me he would take me to Syria.  I thought he felt the same way about me.  I started cooking for him everyday and we shared it as it is easier to cook for 2 than it is for 1  He is very appreciative of this.  In November he told me he loved me and i told him he didn’t and he said oh yes i do.  His parents had a syrian girl waiting for him when he was going back home in January.  In the meantime he told me that he met a woman in  Calgary from Iraq.  It broke my heart.  That didn’t last long. I had also asked him what do his parents look for when they search for a woman.He said they look at her upbringing and how she was raised.  I said oh I wouldn’t be a candidate as my parents were alcoholics and a tear fell down my cheek he reached across the table and pinched my cheek and said don’t ever say that. Read the rest of this entry »

Hi! This is a messed up question derived from the weirdest relationship I’ve ever been in… not sure what to make of it.  He’s younger by 7 years…he’s 33. Doesn’t want strings, doesn’t want me to get too attached. I’m fine with that. Seems extremely caring when we’re together, but always has something else to do if I text him. Says he can’t give me what I “probably” want – never said I wanted anything. He knows I’m in it for the sex – he says that’s not what it’s all about to him. Almost like he talks out of both sides of his mouth. He uses the term “making love” as opposed to what it really is – he loves the sex, always commenting on it. We have a great time when we’re out – once it’s over though, he’s different… until we meet up again. He hugs me hello… offers to carry me if I get to drunk, says things
like I’ll be your husband tonight…. I don’t get it, is he afraid or – I don’t know, what’s up? He’s like a jerk and a good guy. What does he want from me?

-Elizabeth

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Robby, how are you? I have a question about why guys think it’s alright to cheat on women but when women do it, they’re condemned for life by their partner? I need a guy’s point of view on this, I bet a lot of women want to know the answer to this one too. Thanks.

-Alice

To answer your first question, I’m doing well, thanks. To answer the second one, well I’m sure there are a lot of men who don’t think it’s alright to cheat on their woman, but you’re right about how the majority of men don’t find anything too wrong about cheating but when the woman does it, she’s condemned for her actions. I think that the reasons behind this is hidden in the motives behind ‘Why’ men or women cheat. Read the rest of this entry »

Hey Robby, I think I got a question and a topic for a new post! Me and my girlfriend are looking for a fuck-buddy for occasional threesome. How can I find one? Thanks in advance!

Now in this post I’ll be assuming that you’re looking for another female fuck-buddy to add to your occasional threesome.

Where to Look for a 3rd Member

There are websites out there like Craigslist where you’ll definitely find someone who will be interested in a threesome. You can find women, men, trannies, or any other type of person you want on that site (not that I’ve searched for trannies…). Anywho, so that’s one option you may want to look into. Read the rest of this entry »

If there’s one thing that separates the boys from the men in the dating game, it’s the fear factor. Boys talk while the men act. If you really want to succeed in obtaining many numbers or getting better at picking girls up, you must get out there and work at it. It’s like the saying goes, a picture is worth a thousand words. You can read and read and read this blog or any other book on the artistry of pick-up, but if you don’t actually go out there and try it then you will never actually see its true colors. Today I write a call-to-action post so that all of you who have either read my dating posts, have asked questions, or downloaded my free ebook, now you can go out there and separate yourself from the boys. Do not hide from the brute reality of things. The fact is, you might get rejected. Rejection is nothing to fear or get yourself down about. I’ve been rejected countless amounts of times. Hell, I was rejected from getting a number just yesterday, but who cares, it’s not the ones that got away you’ll be remembering in the years to come, it’s the ones you haven’t tried and missed out on your opportunity to approach that may haunt you. Read the rest of this entry »

Update: I was going through my archives and saw this post that I wrote in the first month of this blog and since it didn’t get too much recognition then, I wanted to repost it noticing one funny thing. The part where I describe The Rum Diary’s character fleeing ‘himself’ made me think (for some reason?) of my own trip to Amsterdam that will be happening in August. Well, enjoy!

“If you’re going to be crazy, you have to get paid for it or else you’re going to be locked up.” A man I admire said that. You probably know him as Raoul Duke from Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, or if you’re a true fan you know him as the man, the legend, the inventor of Gonzo Journalism, Hunter Stockton Thompson. He’s lived the life that most men dream of but don’t have the balls to lead. Sure, some may say he lived a child’s dream and he never really grewup, but I ask you this, “Who is the happier man, he who has braved the storm of life and lived or he who has stayed securely on shore and merely existed?” If you claim the latter, I do not blame nor will ever understand your mentality, but if you’re courageous enough to understand and embrace a lifestyle of braving the storm and truly living, then I salute and tip my hat off to you.I wish I could say I’ve seen the latest bio about him called Gonzo: The Life and Work of Dr. HST but in fact I was kicked out of the theatre half way through the flick. Those fucking manky bastard security folks couldn’t take two couples and a friend drinking, smoking, rendezvousing, and having fun without being twats about it. Read the rest of this entry »

Today’s answer will be directed for the females since it’s a question by a female, but that doesn’t mean that men can’t learn a thing or two either by discovering a few things women wonder about men.

I enjoy coming to your site. I especially enjoy reading your posts regarding relationships. A future post suggestion I have is something along the lines of “men leading women on..” I am curious as to see your take on the situation.

-Rachelle

A man could be leading a woman on either intentionally or unintentionally. Read the rest of this entry »