Friends with Benefits »

[7 Jan 2010 | 5 Comments | ]

I just got out of a bad relationship of three years. During most of it, I
cheated on him with his best friend. Now that the relationship has ended,
The best friend and I have become fuck buddies. It worked for a while but I
have now developed feelings for him. It seems like every time we have sex my
feelings for him grow. I know that all I am to him is a sex buddy, but I
want more. I want to be in a serious relationship with him. Should I tell
him I how I feel, or would it be best to end it? I’m very confused and need
advice!

Off the bat, the problem in this situation is that if you do tell him that you like him and want him as a boyfriend then he may not approve of it simply because the way you guys hooked up was through you cheating on his best friend. Even though he may not tell you, he may have a slight inclination to believe that if he makes you anything more than a fuck buddy then there is a chance that you will treat him the same way and end up cheating on him. It’s not written in stone, but there is sometimes a thought in the back of a man’s mind where he judges a girl based on how she has treated past boyfriends. He may be thinking that remaining fuck buddies is the only way he can really keep you wanting him more, because sometimes once a full relationship is adopted then the excitement of not completely being in control of what you want burns out.
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Relationship Tips »

[5 Jan 2010 | 2 Comments | ]

So I met this guy at a party a couple months ago. At this party I was all
over him and this other guy at the same time. He asked my friends if I was a
‘player’ and they all said I was. I ended up hooking up with him and said “I
didn’t want a relationship because I just got out of a 2 yr relationship.”
We ended up exchanging numbers and he ended up texting me and we ended up
hooking up again the next day.

The first couple months of our ‘fuck buddy’ relationships, he was texting
me all the time. We would hook up once a week or so. One night I was at the
club with some of my girls, and he ended up going with some of his guys (we
both didnt know each other where gona be there). At the club he was all over
another chick right in front of me (he was drunk too). I just blew it off,
even though it bothered me a lil bit. A couple nights later he invited me
over to his house for a party so I went. he was telling everybody “I was his
girl” and “we where dating”. I corrected him and said that we where just
sleeping together, and not dating.

A week later he calls me up and invites me to a party of his. I said I’d
probably show up a lil later because I just got off work and needed to take
a shower. He goes “well theres this other girl that I’m sorta seeing. You
always seemed like you never wanted a relationship.” I said “No I didn’t
want a relationship, and I was expecting you to be with somebody else. But I
won’t come over because it’d be a lil wierd.” He says “well you probably
thought we where more then what we where and I feel bad now.” I said “no I
never said that we where more, I never said I wanted more. Theres nothing
wrong.”

A week later he texts me again wanting to chill. So I go over to his house
and we chilled and talked bout life. Neither one of us mentioned anything
about the last time we talked. A couple days after that he asked me to come
over and chill again with one of his friends and him. I go over there and he
kept trying to get me to stay the night with him. I said no I had to go home
that night. In front of his friend he kept saying that just having a fuck
buddy was the way to go and you should never be in a serious relationship. I
ended up leaving that night and brought his friend home. His friend said
that hes amazed that I said no to him and that nobody ever says no to
sleeping with him (staying the night).

My fuck buddys called me a couple of times but each time he acts a little
different. I am starting to like him, but I don’t want to tell him. I don’t
know if hes trying to sleep around to see how I react to it, see if I freak
out. Or if he wants me to freak out about it and finally just break down and
ask him out, or tell him how I really feel. I don’t let him see that I have
feelings for him, and when we hang out I don’t act like I want a
relationship. Is he just playing me? or does he actually want a
relationship?

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Friends with Benefits »

[3 Jan 2010 | 136 Comments | ]

I have been receiving many questions concerning fuck buddies and noticed that there is a pattern of mistakes that people make while in a fuck buddy relationship. Though there is usually a distinct line between a fuck buddy and a boyfriend/girlfriend, many seem to add features into the fuck buddy relationship which blur that division and that is usually when people end up getting hurt. In this post I will assess and describe the essential mistakes that people make and the final aim is to know what common mistakes fuck buddies make in order to avoid them.

Leave the Emotions at the Door

The number one mistake fuck buddies make when they are starting out is that they think that you don’t need any preparation when entering a fuck buddy relationship and that it’s great to have a woman/man to sleep with whenever you’re feeling like having sex. When they enter the relationship, they tend to completely disregard their own emotional state and do not realize how vulnerable they can actually be. You must be shallow when you’re approaching a fuck buddy situation. There is his or her looks that you must care about and whether or not you have a sexual attraction or chemistry towards your partner. All other emotions should be left at the door. Read the rest of this entry »

Miscellaneous »

[1 Jan 2010 | 4 Comments | ]

Bursts of fireworks
Thinking back on 2009, it’s been quite a decent year. I published a book, I kept this blog alive, and I moved to Amsterdam for a year. Though there weren’t too much opportunity to monetize on many things, like I mentioned in this guest post, I feel that 2010 will be an even greater year. In ’09, I went through a lot of things that I never expected and it’s crazy how what I planned for to happen in the beginning of 2009 turned out by the end of that year. I never expected to be celebrating New Years in Amsterdam with two of mates from Canada.

What Did I Do For New Years?

I woke up hungover at 8pm, thinking I wasn’t going to be able to drink the entire night. Then my friends and I got to a house party at around 10, and then the drinking began. A bottle of vodka, a bottle of Jager, and numerous beers later my friend was throwing up on the wall outside before midnight hit, and I was chatting to some people at the party. I wasn’t used to how nice Dutch people are. Read the rest of this entry »

Friends with Benefits »

[30 Dec 2009 | 5 Comments | ]

So I met this guy at a bar while at school and he lives in the same
area I do when I am at home. We hooked up the first night we met, and since
have hooked up twice and are planning another. He often asks me to go out
with him and we send flirty texts, but told me he has had sex with another
girl. I am starting to like him, but I also know he could just be saying
things I want to hear to get some. What should I do? Does he like me? Should
I tell him I like him and want him to get rid of the other girl? Or is being
a fuck buddy a permanent relationship state?

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General Advice »

[26 Dec 2009 | 18 Comments | ]


I think it’s finally time to reveal to the world the etiquette of sleeping with a married woman. If you’ve ever been fortunate enough to find yourself a woman who was married, beautiful, elegant, and still willing to sleep with you on the side, then you may not know a few things you need to keep in mind. When starting a relationship with a married woman, you must know that you have to approach the whole thing much differently than how you’d approach starting a relationship with a woman who is single. There are pre-cautions you must take and have the ability to keep a balance between what you can and cannot do in that relationship. If you’re used to a standard relationship where there is no risk and no serious secrecy, then it’s best to keep to what you know and continue on that path, but if you’re into something wilder, then a relationship with a married woman can really spice your life up. The only difference between a man that gets caught and screwed at the end of that relationship and the one who slips out unscathed is how they prepare themselves beforehand.
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Miscellaneous »

[24 Dec 2009 | 3 Comments | ]

Today is Christmas and I wanted to do something special for all of you, because it’s not only Jesus’ b-day bash, but it’s also my 200th blog post. And so I wanted to do something I haven’t done before. I wanted to go through this tedious list of crucial information that is spread to the minds of millions (if not billions) and post the links to my top 10 favourite posts that I have written thus far. Sure, this is a little bit selfish and lazy, but overtime I’ve gotten to know many of my new readers and some came in later than others and might have missed reading some of the more important or entertaining posts. I could have picked the most popular posts, but I rather let Google bring in the traffic to those. Instead, these are the posts I had more fun writing and thought they should actually be the posts that defined my blog. Here’s the list I call, “This Shite is Impetuous”:
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