Friends with Benefits, Relationship Tips »

[19 Oct 2009 | 6 Comments | ]

Hi, I have a question.
I have been sleeping with this guy for about 11weeks. He start talking to
me and told me that he wants to be a fuckbuddy and that he doesn’t want a
relationship. When we start sleeping together I slept with 2 other guys but
I didn’t tell him about it because he is fuck buddy so he doesn’t need to
know. Then I found out after probs 6weeks in to this FB relationship that he
didn’t sleep with anyone but me. He would text me al the time pretty much
everyday and we’ll see each other at least 4days a week, weekend was always,
he took me out for breakfast one time and cooked for me a couple of nights,
and came visit me for lunch just to say hi if he was around in the area.
Then recently he start sleeping with other girls. He messages me less and
messages are short, and we don’t see each other as much anymore. Last week I
seen him only one night but he pop in to say hi at lunch time for about
15min. and on the weekend I didn’t see him at all. We were messaging but it
was really short and sometimes he won’t text back. I am really confused and
not sure what I should do. Because I don’t want to end it, in fact, I am
hoping to take this to the next level but I’m not sure what I can do to do
that or is it too late? Please help me!!

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Relationship Tips »

[18 Oct 2009 | 3 Comments | ]

Hi!

I know you have probably already seen this email address but that is
because I’m using my friends. I’m 17 and in high school. I’ve been playing
around with a senior which I also hang out with. I never thought I would
play with him but as this year started new things were coming with it, and
don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret it. So we have gone pretty far. The first
time we just made out we didn’t talk after, but after a week we started
talking and then we went further. Now we do talk, which is good. The thing
is that he is a senior as I said and he does not want a relationship, which
I’m  cool with. it seems like he really cares and my friends says that he
really cares about his girl. But it feels like he is giving me mixed
signals. We haven’t done anything for two weekends, although, he is always
very close and keeps his eyes on me. So I don’t know what to think, because
I really want to have fun. We have fun but not with other people, which
feels good.  So I need some advice on what to do. Is he nervous? Because he
told me that he wants to have fun, so this shows me that he cares since he
asked and made sure that I don’t get hurt. But please, help me!

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Dating, General Advice »

[18 Oct 2009 | 6 Comments | ]

Here is an email I got from a reader recently:

How do you get rid of someone you just met or hooked up with, and you have told them that you don’t want a relationship? Of course you can ignore them, but that makes you look like a dick. Saying your too busy or I don’t think it’s a good idea to hang out usually makes the other person mad. Saying, “lets just be friends”
usually ends with the other person taking you up on that offer and I don’t like that either.

It’s like I always say, you don’t pay hookers for sex, you pay them so they leave and never come back or contact you. – John

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Travel Stories »

[15 Oct 2009 | 2 Comments | ]


It’s been a crazy month and a half and I’d like to take some time to say what’s been happening with my blog, with my life, with my travels, studies, etc. First, I’d like to say that I thank everyone who asked me for advice on dating and relationships and that if I haven’t published the posts yet then they’re coming shortly. I’m a little back-up on them and it seems like I receive a new question every other day.

What Is Up, Amsterdam?!

I haven’t been taking it easy in Amsterdam at all yet. I’ve been going out, partying, drinking, meeting new people, and not really hitting the books. This type of lifestyle landed me in the hospital with some stomach problems and forced me to stop drinking beer and watching what I eat. Don’t get me wrong, there’s still a green light concerning Jaggerbombs and Cran-Vodkas. Besides the infrequent stomach problems, life cannot get better. My going out, partying, and meeting new people hasn’t let me down to grow my expertise with women and maybe some stories will be shared later in the year. But anywho, that’s so far what’s up in Amsterdam. Oh, and I had my brother come in from Canada last weekend and we ended up getting trashed and stumbling into a Don Diablo performance at a club with a bunch of women we met at a pub. It’ll be a weekend to remember for him, that’s for sure. Read the rest of this entry »

Dating »

[14 Oct 2009 | 2 Comments | ]

I’m usually a pessimist and I really suck at the whole girly cosmo reading
mind control thing. Here’s the situation; I really like this guy he’s got
everything I’m looking for, literraly and he and I have pretty much the same
taste in everything and the things I don’t know but always have wanted to
know,(surfing, motorcycles, snowbording, ect.) he can teach me. He and I
have been intimate before and he doesn’t screw a chick he couldn’t be
interested in. This he’s said and his friends have confirmed it on numerous
occasion. He and I talk on the phone for  like 8 hours 5 times a week.
there’s just one lil’ problem…he has a girlfriend and the only reason why
he and I happened is he had permission. He knows I like him and we’ve agreed
that should anything go wrong in that realtionship I’m his go to girl. But I
don’t want him if I’m just a rebound and I really don’t want to lose him as
a friend either. Do I have a chance with him or am I just the fall out
chick?

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Dating »

[12 Oct 2009 | 2 Comments | ]

Hi Robby,

I have read some of your advise columns and find them =b very helpful. I
asked several of my guy frineds this question and coming from an outsider
that dosent know me it would be the upmost influential.

I left my fiance over a year plus months ago and the fuckbuddy left his
girlfriend almost the same time. We have been sleeping together for that
year plus and have had a lot of fun as well as I have gotten to know him
better as a person. I love him to death and would do anything for him as he
most likely would for me. Now its getting to the point that I am moving on
and above the fuckbuddy situation and want more from him. We don’t need a
label or use of the word “gf” or “bf” but I almost feel that my dignity and
respect has gone out the window. Now i don’t ask about his ex and their post
relationship though she still has things of hers at his house. But recently
I have been more emotionally attached and am just over it. He still doesn’t
want to date anyone but I almost feel you can’t have your cake and eat it
too. Does he go out with other women? I have no idea. I don’t ask. But Its
time to figure out if there is any future at all…i asked if he was
sleeping with anyone else and his response was “i’m too lazy.” Nice. He is
obviously not ready for any commitment nor do I demand it, just a little
respect for my feelings.

Help!

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Friends with Benefits »

[10 Oct 2009 | 9 Comments | ]

I just ended with this guy I’ve been sleeping with. We started off proper
with each other, dating, kissing and then fucking.
He was really gentlemenly to me, introduced me to his friends and
colleagues, and talked about personal issues and his family to me.
However, we were fucking alot and not doing much out of the house, and I
started to fall for him though I was dubious about his intent cos we were
not doing other activities.
When I finally asked him if he saw this as a fuck buddy relationship he
ended it.
Does this confirm the fact that he is a player?
When I told him all I wanted was an answer from him, not a commitment from
him, and that I needed to find out before I invest feelings into this, he
said he had always been sincere (yet I doubted him) but yet he did not take
up the offer when I asked us to get back together again.
So had I been right about him not serious about me except for a sex
partner, or is he just confused about his own intent? Read the rest of this entry »