Hey Robby G.
Ok, here goes. I met my boyfriend 6 months ago at a friends house. We had
sex the first night when I took him back to my place. He was interested in
dating afterwards and a few wks later asked me out. I said yes, really liked
him. We did loads together. Everything was brill till one night we argued
after bout 4months big-style n I told him I didn’t want to be with him as he
drinks every day n I have a child and his mood swings were getting me down.
He was horrible sober and amazingly lovely drunk. I just didn’t think he was
what my son and I needed. Anyway, almost immediately I regretted what I said
and we managed to get back together. Things weren’t the same from then on.
We broke up twice afterwards-after a lot of name calling from his end.
Christmas came and we were together, we bought him presents but he got us
nothing but had the cheek to stay with us christmas eve! 3wks ago he told me
it was over between and blamed everything on me, saying i’m 2 psycho when
i’ve been drinking etc etc. Anyway, we’ve talked since-he says he’s happy
without committment or responsibility and that I can wait for him or move
on. But he’s texting all the time, sometimes getting drunk-coming to my
house and telling me that we never actually split up…he loves me, we are
together, i’m beautiful, etc etc…and cuddling up all night, even the next
day…it all seems like it’s gone back to what we were but better-laughing,
joking, flirting….When I mention going out for a meal or a drink then or
being back together-he tells me to stop nagging and that he hasn’t said any
of what he did actually say. It’s doing my head in. I love him so much, when
he comes round i’m on a high but even tho he says he’s so in love etc…he
only wants one thing from me. Help. What do I do? I just want us to get back
together and have the nice bits all the time coz I know he loved me…he did
a lot for me. I just used to get frustrated with his attitude or drinking,
get drunk and then decide to tell him. Help please!

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I’ve randomly found your site and I love it! I’ve read a lot of posts
concerning FB relationships but still I think I need some help.

Five months ago I met this guy at a random bar and we hooked up and he came back to my place. Initially I thought it was just a one night thing but then
from time to time, he texted me and he would come to my place for some fun.
I was getting divorced and I hadn’t had sex for a long time since I
separated from my husband in the beginning of 2008, so I thought it was nice
to have an FB. Every time he came over we would drink, chat, watch a movie
etc, and he would sleep over, despite he only lives like 2 mins away from my
home.

But later on I realised that I have begun developing feelings for him, and
I knew that the right thing for me to do was to stop there, as he claimed
that he had a gf “somewhere else” and he had commitment issues. He never let me go to his place. So I told him over text messages saying that I wanted
something that he could not offer. And he replied saying he totally
understood that and didn’t want me to get hurt etc.

But then a week later, we started hooking up with each other again. And we
saw each other much more often than before – at least once a week (he’s not
often in town). Once he asked me to show him my old photos I took with my
husband, and when I went through them, I burst into tears. He comforted me
and apologised.

We still kept seeing each other afterwards, and recently, he began asking
me to go to his place. Funny thing is I didn’t notice any women stuff at his
place, not even a single photo. Maybe he deliberate hid them all away or
something.

The sex only took up 10% of the time we spent together. We would chat and
have a good laugh and do other kinds of stuff that people would do and play
at home. A close relative recently died and he asked me to go over his place
after I wrapped things up in the hospital. It was nice to have someone
around during difficult times but I didn’t know whether he was just trying
to be kind or what.

Now when I don’t see him, when I know that he’s out of town, I miss him
terribly. I really enjoy being around him and I do like him for who he is.
I’ve been battling over whether I should tell him about how I really feel.
But then it might lead to a complete end of things, so I won’t even get to
see him again. Now I really don’t know what to do.

Hope you could help.

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My ex boyfriend and I were dating on & off for a little over three years.
Throughout our relationship we had the best times of our lives but also
struggled through many rough patches. I cheated on him, months later he
cheated on me, and I cheated on him again which pretty much ended the
relationship for good. Losing him made me realize how much I really do love
him. He recently told me that he still loves me but we haven’t been quite
able to rekindle our relationship. We’re friends now and I’m trying to get
him back but he’s “not sure” if he wants a relationship with me, he says he
wants to be my fuck buddy with commitment…whatever that means? At this
point I’m pretty much just going crazy and I’m in desperate need of
advice…

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so i have been friends with this girl for about 3 years. I havent seen her
for those 3 years at all because of her OD JEALOUS BF. Now she has a baby
boy by him and is single because shes tired of his jealous ways and
controlling personallity. We started to talk and hang out about 4 months
ago. We do a lot together. I liked her since day 1. So one day i told her i
liked her. But by that time i was already moved into the “friend zone”. I
still tell her now and then that i still like her. So she decided to “give
it a try” between us… She likes to call it a “free trial”. I want to be
with her but she says that if there isnt a spark, we go back to being just
friends. I would like your thoughts on this situation i have and if there is
any advice u can give me. Thank you.

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When my friends see me the day after I’ve picked up a girl at a bar and slept with her the same night, they say “So you got lucky last night, huh?” I simply nod and go on my way. But the other day I began to think about what that really means, “to get lucky.” I wouldn’t say I’ve ever slept with a woman without putting some sort of effort into it, and I realised: getting lucky has nothing to do with luck. I’ve never had a girl come up to me and say, “Hey, let’s go fuck.” Now that would be lucky. There is always effort that goes into talking, joking around, and spending time on making all the right moves before I get the green light, no matter how effortless I can make it look. The only real luck you should need is that you choose a club or a lounge where there are a number of good looking girls for you to choose from. The rest shouldn’t consist of any luck. As soon as you locate a girl you think is good looking enough, you should begin your approach.
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So I am recently divorced and have been single for over a year now. I’ve
known this guy (my fb) for about 3 yrs and just this halloween we slept
together. And have been ever since, we both say that we don’t want a
relationship but act different. The sex isn’t like a normal “fuck”. Its
almost like we make love. I want more but not really sure how to approach it
cuz we realy don’t talk about the relationship thing! He treats me like I’m
more than a fb. He’s shy just like I am and for him to ask me to come
over…well it just doesn’t happen. If I’m at his house with other mutual
friends (his roomates) and he’s not there..well its like he wants me to wait
for him and if I don’t I get txts from him that say “just got home”…
Please help..I’ve read the rules of fb relationships and it so doenst fit
what’s goin on with me and him! Help??!!

Sincerely,
~Confused~

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After getting rid of the fuck buddy, I went to a party and met this really
nice guy. We hit it off great, and hung out the whole night. We ended up
making out, which i know this is going to sound sad, but the make-out
session was more passionate then any sex Ive ever had with another guy. I
then went on to give him a blow job, but no sex. Which, I was proud of (the
whole no sex part). The guy asked me to stay the night, which I did and we
cuddled and talked for a while until we fell asleep. The next morning he had
to go to work, so we exchanged numbers and have been txting the last few
days. He says that he wants to see me again, which I really want to see him
also but I don’t want this to turn into another fuck buddy. I’m ready for
something more serious then that. How should I handle this? Do I come out
front and tell him that I’m interested in him and that I want to get to know
him better, and see how he views things? I just really don’t want to mess
this up. Please help!

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