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[24 Aug 2009 | 4 Comments | ]

I was reading an interesting book entitled “A Hero of Our Time” by Mikhail Lermontov and the main character was a real douchebag in every sense of the word. The problem was, however, you can never blame him for it. He didn’t have the decency of a human being, instead he was cold, sociopathic, and overall possessing an extremely bloated ego. So that gave me an idea for a post. First, what does it mean to have a bloated ego? Second, is it good or bad to have a bloated ego? Third, what are the ways to improve your ego-level? But before we answer any of those questions, we really have to take a look at what an ego is and what it does. An ego is the individual’s perception of themselves. And that can be assessed by the following question: “Who am I?” Whatever your answer for that is, is how your ego perceives you. I will obviously not go into all the details about psychoanalysis here, but I will say that the ego plays a huge role in how you act, how you handle yourself, how you communicate or relate with others, and the type of person you see yourself becoming in the future, which all relates to the topic I blog about.

Is My Ego Bloated?

Now that we have a general idea of what the ego is and does, we each have to ask ourselves if our ego is too big or too small? Read the rest of this entry »

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[21 Aug 2009 | 2 Comments | ]

Video Content

I was getting my car tuned the other day and it took them 3 hours to complete the job. During that time I had a lot of things to think about, and one of the things my mind kept going to was what my plan for this upcoming year would be. I will be living in Amsterdam starting next week and I wanted to video-record my student exchange lifestyle there. Europe, and more particularly Amsterdam, is very different from where I currently live, which is North of Toronto. With that said, I think it’s going to be very interesting to see how I cope with that new freedom and complete independence that I will have because I’ll be completely responsible for myself since I will not know anyone there. So I was thinking of posting videos once in a while on this blog and on my YouTube channel to keep readers informed on my travels.

The Go-To Blog for Dating Advice

Another thing I came up with on my boring day in the waiting room at the mechanic’s was that I set up goals I would like to achieve with this blog in the few years to come. I asked myself the question: What do I want people to think when they think of going of my blog? Read the rest of this entry »

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[20 Aug 2009 | 5 Comments | ]

You know how some people say “I don’t live with regret and everything I have done is in the past. I see no reason to sulk on things I might have succeeded in if I would have done it a little differently.” Well I don’t agree with not having regret. Regret means that you’re willing to learn from your mistakes. Not having any regrets means that you are not willing to accept the fact that you have made a mistake and if you were to do it again then you would do it exactly the same way. Logically, I believe, it is best to not sulk on the past, but realize where you have made a mistake and make sure you don’t repeat it again. Now, though I believe regret may be used in a positive way, I think “doubt” in a one’s capabilities should never exist. I used to believe that doubt can be used in a positive way also, but I’ve learned through a hard way that it never brings forth anything beneficial. Read the rest of this entry »

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[19 Aug 2009 | 7 Comments | ]

What to look for in a girlfriendI have a lot of posts on fuck buddies and how to get with women, but I never really gave a breakdown of what sort of girls I’m interested. I’ll try to make it as detailed as possible, because saying “good looking” and “intelligent” just doesn’t cut it. Anywho, let’s get to my list.

  1. She’s not a slut. This is important. I love sluts, not over-the-top nasty type of sluts that walk around with their ass stuck out and enough make-up on to drown a midget in, but those sluts that will give it up without too much effort. However, when it comes to girlfriend material, she better not be easy to get into bed. It’s alright if she acts sexy, but it’s not alright if she acts too flirtatiously. Sluts are there to get passed around between friends, but when it comes to girlfriends they better not even think about what it would be like with another man. Read the rest of this entry »

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[17 Aug 2009 | 2 Comments | ]

You ever feel like you haven’t started to live yet? You exist, but you’re not alive. Like there’s something missing and you need to achieve something before you begin to fully live your life. Well if you’re like that then I’ll let you in on a little secret… This here is your life and if you feel like you’re not living it how you want then you need to prioritize and move in the direction of your goal.

If You’re Not Moving, You’re Dead

You Have to Earn ItWe all have responsibilities and we need to get things done. We all need to work and pay the bills and there isn’t anyone else who will fill that responsibility for us. The problem with many people I know is that they get into a single pattern of living and essentially stop moving or growing and end up in a dead end. They find themselves in a 9-5 work day (which is alright) and they keep to a cycle of work-sleep-work (which is the problem). They think about what they will do that weekend for fun, but they forget to think about what they will do in 10 years down the road. Will you still be stuck in your 9-5 job if you keep doing what you’re doing? If you don’t have goals on the side, then you better believe it that in 10 years you’ll wake up and go to that same job you go to 5 times a week now. Each time I was stuck in a job, I still had goals I would be getting accomplished on the side. Read the rest of this entry »

Friends with Benefits »

[14 Aug 2009 | 9 Comments | ]

Hi

So my situation started with a weekend away – he had a gf at the time but
we still ended up hooking up….on the last night he said he couldn’t take
my number as it was “complicated” but would add me on fb which he did a few
days later.  We then just used to dirty chat over instant messenger and I
sent him private messages when drunk.

He ended up breaking up with his gf and we got into a fuck buddy situation
but never set out any rules as such….I saw him 8 times in just under 2
months, he used to text me everyday and to be honest I found the whole thing
really confusing.  Think the whole big issue was that I really liked him and
didn’t admit it and pretended I was happy just being fb’s (I have never had
a fb before).

So the other nite I saw on his fb some girl had written about him going
round her mates for dinner the nite before…I know it shouldn’t have
bothered me but it did.  I ended up texting him asking if he was seeing
someone else and if he was fine as there was nothing between us but that I
wouldn’t text him anymore.  He said no I am not seeing anyone and I knew he
would say that…I mean WTF!!!  I decided to not reply, delete him on fb and
delete his number.

I haven’t heard from him since, and part of me really wants to text him but
part of me knows I shouldn’t coz I want more than he is willing to give.

What do I do now?

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General Advice »

[11 Aug 2009 | 7 Comments | ]

I know it’s a grim notion to grip, but the fact is you come into this world alone and you leave this world alone. I am currently reading a novel, which I will write a review of on this blog when I finish, and there was a great example illustrated of a father teaching his son not to trust anyone. “A father puts his son on a ledge, fifteen feet from the ground. Kid’s about six. The father then tells the kid to jump. The kid shakes his head, afraid to make the move. The father tells him not to worry, Daddy’s here and Daddy will catch you. The kid swallows hard, clenches his hands and makes the jump. The father moves out of the way and lets the kid land on the ground, cuts, bruises, scrapes, what have you. The father bends over and points a finger in the face of his crying boy. And then he tells him, ‘Remember one thing. In this life, never trust anybody.'”

And that’s the cold hard truth. As I get older I realize how disloyal this world really is and that it is better to be the strong silent type than a cocky blabber-mouth who goes around making best-friends, sharing secrets, and swearing to never betray him in return not to get betrayed. I’ve heard of people who had in fact cut their own hands and shook on it to be brothers till death, and by the end of these factual stories they both searched for each other to put a knife through each others’ hearts. In this life you can never foresee what will exactly happen and how it will happen, and it is best to cut down on any chances of anyone using anything they know against you. Read the rest of this entry »