Hey Robby G!
About 6-7 months ago my mom introduced me to a guy who could help me with a
bartending job, we met up several times to go over the process, but ended up
spending more time talking and hanging out-going to a restaurant etc.
Definitely great chemistry between us and he had told me he thought I was very
attractive, but I had mentioned I was in a relationship of 3 years so that was
that, really. I ended up getting a job elsewhere, thanked him, he asked if we
could still hang out sometime, I said sure! We would text every so often, just
about what we’ve been up to, little about each other but never really hung out.
About 4 months ago he had asked to meet up, so we went to a party with friends
he knew, while I still had my bf. Nothing happened other than a lot of flirting
(which I didn’t feel great about). He had asked to see me again, and I wanted to
really bad but never got around to it.
About 3 months ago, my bf of 3 1/2 years and I broke up, it wasn’t a bad break
up but college has gotten the better of us and it got really tough. This guy and
I ended up talking again, hanging out, and watching movies, which lead to a lot
of kissing. Hung out 4-5 times before we slept together, both of us said we were
in no position to be in a relationship (me because I had only been single for a
month and love my ex, but was attracted to this new guy; and he because he had
been single for about a year and had not really met anyone). After sex we spend
a while talking about life, our families, school etc. We always kiss
“hi” and “bye” and always hold hands/cuddle before and
after- was a little confusing. I figured we were just “F” buddies, but
after he stayed the night at my place the 4th time we slept together, he wanted
to cuddle, hold hands, kissed my forehead, gave me massages, back tickles etc…
just felt very couple-y.. and we would have sex in the morning.
We text once every week or so, he has called me “love” and texted me
on thanksgiving, my birthday etc. He calls me beautiful and gorgeous and goes on
about how hot I am when we are with each other… but it’s not over the top and
obnoxious. But we also do not go out on dates or anything, which I assumed would
be the case as we were starting off as a booty-call situation.
We went to a lake for a midnight walk recently and he initiated holding my hand.
He gave me his coat and we talked about traveling and going to Europe.
I am just very confused because I had been ok (and assumed) that I was just
going to be his “F” buddy, but it feels like a lot more than that. But
when I asked if he wanted to come to a friends wedding with me as my date, and
stay at the hotel after, he said: “Simplicity is the key to success”
and didn’t think it was a great idea. I said “alright :)” as I didn’t
mind either way, but then he told me “I hope you don’t think its
because i don’t have feelings for you.”
I like him, a lot. But I don’t know how to act now because he is giving me
really mixed messages. Any suggestions? And thank you so much for taking time to