Step Up Your Game »

[20 Nov 2011 | 3 Comments | ]

I lost my virginity to this guy I’ve known for a few months. I really like
him He’s a hard worker and a real country guy and I’m a real country girl.
He considers us fuck buddies but I would like to be more than that. He says
he likes me but I’m guessing he’s not ready for a relationship. Even if I
knew of ways to ease him into a relationship slowly would be nice. I mean…
There is also a possibility he wouldn’t want to go public with a
relationship to a girl like me. I’, 5’3 and 199 pounds, so I’m a hefty girl,
and the self conscious factor is there. I’m also thinking that he doesn’t
want a relationship yet because he still doesn’t know me all too well.
However there’s the whole factor of he just wants me for sex. I’m a muddle
of thoughts. He kissed me so much during our times together when we were
alone (we only had sex once by the way). I mean he kissed me more than my
previous boyfriends would. He pulls away with such a sweet smile on his face
that I just melt over too. I asked him to think about him being my
boyfriend and he agreed to think about it, yet that could just be it; a
thought. Am I confused on what to do? Yea I am.

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General Advice »

[18 Nov 2011 | 7 Comments | ]

Ok so i met this guy 5 months ago. We went out on a couple of dates then we
started sleeping together. He ditched me twice before, in which case I cut
him off. Then like 2 weeks later he tells me he misses me (mind you I had
seen him go in his house with another girl b/c my friend lives a few blocks
down from him, but he doesn’t know that). So like an idiot I budged, saw him
again and started hitting it again. This time around no dates, only
straight to business then home. Then around his birthday I told him we
always just have sex and he said you’re right let’s hang out…so we started
hanging out and then having sex. We also started spending some sundays
together in bed watching movies, having sex, and just cuddling. Then in
public he would kiss me and put his arms around me and whatnot. Until This
past sunday I text him, there was no reply so I called…no answer. 15 mins
later he texts me saying “Don’t call me anymore I came back with my wife” i
said “ok, were you ever even separated?” no reply for 5 mins so i said “i
knew you were hiding something have a good life asshole” then he said “no
baby that wasn’t for you, that was for some girl that was bothering me ” i
said “whatever don’t talk to me anymore this is way too fishy” then he said
ok but called back to explain. I kinda calmed down and he said I’ll call you
back in a few, but didn’t call back until 3 days later! In which case I told
him to delete my number and do without me. He asked why,and I said
“sunday, i understand you’re doing you but i don’t need to know what you’re
doing on the side. big turn off” and he said “ok if that’s what you want then
ok”….Did I do the right thing? or should I have just stuck it out being
that he made it clear from the getgo he didn’t want a commitment “for now”.
Help! I’m stressing

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Friends with Benefits »

[15 Nov 2011 | 9 Comments | ]

Hey Robby G,
This is my problem.. Four years ago when I was younger, I started seeing
this guy Ryan. This was right after me and my ex of two years broke up, We
went on a date or two and had a lot of the same friends.. So eventually we
started hooking up. I didn’t have any feelings for him because I still loved
my ex and assumed it was just a booty call since I only called him at 3 a.m.
He got mad when I told him he was just my booty call and then stopped
talking to me for a few months, still continued off and on for a year. I got
a boyfriend and stopped talking to him. My boyfriend and I broke up a year
into the relationship and I went and slept with Ryan, never called again and
got back with my boyfriend. We are now split up for good this time and have
been hanging out, sleeping together.. But this time its kind of different
because he kisses me goodbye. He went to the bar with me and my friends,
held onto my cell phone and all that stuff. Kissing me in the bar and drove
my car back to his house. He likes to cuddle after sex and I always stay the
night. I went to give him a kiss on the cheek and he went for the lips as I
left the next morning. I’m confused is if this a fuck buddy or something
more? We talk almost every day and make plans to hang out but he falls
asleep since we have different working schedules but doesn’t make any other
signs really.. Even though when we do talk he tells me exactly what he’s
doing in detail explaining himself.. Please tell me what you think I should
do.

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Breaking Up, Relationship Tips »

[7 Nov 2011 | No Comment | ]

hi Rob,
I’ve never gone on an online site to seek relationship advice but i’ve got
no one atm thats willing to give a straight answer or should i say they
couldn’t really give a f*#k coz its all about them. Myself and my man have
been together for nearly 2 years, 10 years previous to us hooking up now he
was interested so was i but i chose to walk away. As we were laying in bed
just talking we both started falling asleep, he rolled over and cuddled up
to me and whoa!!! this feeling went through my entire body and i jumped up
and made up some excuse n left the room. That feeling scared me coz is was
so strong i knew then it was also a feeling that could completely break me.
He says that he felt the same and he wishes that i told him then what i
felt. We are together now, well sort of, he’s trying to convince me that i’m
his world and if i’m not in his life then theres no point. But the facts are
that he was cheating on me not just with 1 but 6 girls!! (that he’s admitted
to, i feel there is more as i pegged him on all 6 with no proof) He is now
in jail, and i still stand by him as we were trying work through it all but
i honestly don’t think that i can get over it, coz he plays too many games. I
will be honest and admit that drugs were involved, and i think that’s the
main reason i’ve hung in there coz i know he’s a completely different man
off the crap. My love for him is unconditional obviously but does that mean
that i can one day fully trust him? Or is there that much water under the
bridge that it’s flooded and destroyed everything in sight?

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Hooking Up »

[6 Nov 2011 | 2 Comments | ]

Alright, I’ll try to make this as clear as I can.
About 2 years ago I started dating an ex of a friend of mine. Needless to
say the girl and I are no longer friends..hate each other in fact. Anyways,
we broke up in May 2010 and he started talking to her again about a month
and a half later. He lied to me about hanging with her for like 4 months,
and they started dating in October of 2010. He cheated on her the entire
time with me. In May 2011 I saw pictures of them from prom, (which he told
me he was not going to) and I told him if he was going to lie to me I was
gonna let him go. He then told me he was waiting for me to “become more
mature, and that he didn’t want us to lose feelings for each other.” They
broke up in July 2011 and he acted like everything was great between us and
he was ready to give us another shot. Late July he found out about a hook up
I had with another guy in April (while he was STILL with this girl) and
furiously he told me he was going to go back to the ex. They dated for
about 2 more weeks, and then broke up. We still hung out and hooked up, and
everything seemed great. About 3 weeks ago he started to become
distant…and about a week ago a picture went up on his Facebook of him with
another girl I’ve never seen before. What I want to know is whether he’s
playing with me and if I should cut him off or if I should try to get an
answer out of him. I tend to be a very determined person so I’d really love
any advice you have about how i can try to make him jealous. Thanks do much 🙂

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General Advice »

[5 Nov 2011 | One Comment | ]

So here goes,
i met a guy via bbm chat, just looking for friends he said but we both
clicked straight away. At the time i was in a difficult relationship he said
he was too, he had gf/wife and a kid…. we spoke on the phone a few times
and we would always swap pics, he said once he wanted to know all the silly
things about me that he wanted to be my soul mate thought this was odd but me
liking this guy as i do thought cool. I’ve split up with my fella so am now
single, me and my bbm friend decided to meet and it was unreal, he was
holding my hand we sat in the oark kissing for ages, for some reason the fact
he had a gf didnt come into play… we did sleep together!!
after wards it was him messaging me as soon as i left, things also changed
and as i’ve known all along he just wants “fun”. I’m cool with this its no
prob… i went out a few weekends after and i told him i was on the pull. He
seemed so mardy with me… i was like whats your problem?? he almost seemed
jealous, he was saying i didn’t put kisses at the end of my messages when i
was out on the pull and then said he didn’t blame me as i was kissing
everyone else so why would i wanna kiss him. Thing is I’m pretty crazy for
this guy.
We cleared things up and that was that.
I met him last weekend got a hotel and omg it was like a dream yes we slept
with each other, but every time i was sitting away from him he would pull me
closer, he spend ages just running his fingers thro my hair, kissing me, felt
soo close…again he was the first to text me as i left saying he didnt want
to leave, now he texts me first in the morning texts when he can at work but
all the sex text has stopped. He seems soo far from distant its untrue, i asked
him point blank if he felt anything and his answer was “I’m not saying coz i
just want fun” what’s that meant to mean and then he said “just not saying
thats how things go wrong” What could go wrong?? and he goes quiet as soon
as he’s home he never used to i know i shud move on forget about him but its
so easy to say but i just cant seem to do it….. help me please.. does this
guy even like me??

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Relationship Tips »

[4 Nov 2011 | 2 Comments | ]

Hello. So this month my apt complex offered us group sessions with a
personal trainer. I was told he is sexy. When i met him i was almost
speechless, he is by far a beautiful man, he has the physical qualities that
i love. So we trained about once a week. I was always so nervous and shy
around him, but he was soo cool and down to earth, so thru us training, we
exchanged numbers. After a workout hed always text me and say good job or
whatever. So i tentatively would make small inquiries of his love for
training, his interests, yada yada. After awhile, we got more comfortable
texting about random stuff, nothing sexual. I had stopped training during
this time. So 3wks ago, i had an out of the blue erotic dream about him and
i just couldnt shake it, so i texted him that id dreamt of him, he wasnt
offended and asked for details, i gave in and told him, then i told him how
i was so hot and bothered, i tried to make a joke of it becuz i didnt want
to appear crass. He kept laughing and so i kept up, saying it was all his
fault, and if we were on a deserted island, all propriety would go out the
window. So were doing this “dance” all day and as night falls, it gets
serious, i ask him what level of experience would he like a woman, then he
asks me my bra size, then asks for a pic, i sent it, then finally i ask
him(at first indirect) if hed like to come over and maybe we have sex. He
came over!! I was sooo shocked, he is gorgeous, im beautiful but he is
breathtaking. I was soo nervous, i had candles and incense lit, music in
background, i had on a beautiful dress. To me this was special, he was sooo
cool and down to earth, i was shocked. And i found out hes a country boy.(i
love country men) so i was sooo nervous, tried to put my old school nintendo
on, but i couldnt cuz he started rubbing my breasts and had gotten
completely naked. So i played with him, then we had sex, he was VERY
PLEASED. and after, i had towels already heated for him to use and cold
water. I was so prepared. After, we talked bout normal stuff for like an
hour, it wasn’t awkward or nothing. Before he left, i let him kno id like to
do that more(sex) he said ok. So throughout the rest of week, we continued
texting getting to know each other.. we both love nintendo, and i still have
one, so i let him know that it doesn’t have to be just sex.. so anyway, the
very next week, he came over and we had a mario brothers nintendo match,
then we had sex again(lovely) again after we talked then we again text
throughout week. He told me not to fall in love becuause hes not ready (hes
only 27- im 28) at first i was hurt, but he said not to be hurt, its not
becuz he doesnt want me. So anyway, yesterday (7/27) he texted to say he was
coming over but not for sex becuz he had messed up his back that morn, and i
was like ok. I was happy to kno hed come over even to just hang out w/o sex.
Well, we played, then we started watching a movie, and then i began to give
him oral sex for a bit, till he jumped up and led us to my bedroom where we
had rough sex (due on part cuz that week i was finally comfy enough to tell
him what i like sexually) HE WAS VERY PLEASED. We ended talking for awhile,
then he was looking at my broken door to see how to fix it for me. Then he
left. Help. Im falling for him. I never thought hed want to hang with me,
but he does, if i could wish, id wish hed fall for me. I like how he is
beautiful on the inside as well as outside. What can i do?

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