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7 July 2010 2 Comments

Hi Robby G….

I’m back ๐Ÿ˜‰

So, this time I need serious help in dealing with the issues of having
willpower and keeping my power as they relate to my fuckbuddy
relationships.

Last week I had some of the best sex of my life with a new fuckbuddy. I mean,
I’m not exaggerating when I say it was mind-blowing, earth-shattering,
getting fucked-seven-ways-from-Sunday type of sex. It was amazing….and
just what I needed. Anyway, I’m taking the situation for what it’s worth,
and I’m really enjoying it. The only problem is, WHEN will it happen
again?!

Have to admit, we work at the same place doing different jobs. That is not a
problem, though. We both promised that we would not say anything about our
encounters to anyone at work, especially. Or even to our friends. Which I
haven’t, which is hard for me…because I usually always tell at least one
trusted friend. But we do this because of privacy and discreteness. It’s not
like a “shame” thing in any way. I’m a big believer in keeping my private
business private. Especially when it involves fooling around in the
workplace.

Moving on, he really satisfied me. He knew exactly what I liked sexually,
and he tapped into it in such a major way….i was really impressed. At one
point while we were fucking, he was like, “I hope this isn’t the last time
this happens.” or something like that. I hope so too! I’ve seen him once so
far at work, and things are cool between us. We say hi and talk like
normal.

A couple days after we hooked up I texted him “Hey.” he never responded. I
didn’t stress it then, and I don’t now…..but I’m having a hard time
controlling my desire to text him. He initially pursued me hardcore, which I
know is good….I’m trying to hold on to my power. I feel like the only way
I can do that is to let him “control” the situation. i.e. let him decide
when he wants to text me, etc. That way I play it more cool and I don’t seem
like I’m too interested or available.

Is this the right way to approach the situation? What is he thinking? I
mean, I know men get a little bored after the initial chase is over, and
they’ve “claimed their conquest.” but I really have to believe he’ll be
coming back for more ๐Ÿ˜‰ it was just too good for us not to hook up on the
regular.

So, please let me know your thoughts. Thank you! ๐Ÿ˜‰


Whatever you said sounds right about letting him “control” the situation and arrangmenets to make you seem cool and collected and not desperate to do it again. If he said that you should try it again sometime or something along those lines, then he definitely meant it, unless it was something just in the heat of the moment and then it made him regret he said it. However, if the sex was as good as you say it was then he should be back for more. I think keeping it that descrete, I mean even when you are talking to him during work, isn’t that great of an idea. Don’t tell your friends or co-workers, but when you are talking with him then I think you should let him know how you feel–just don’t overdo it. This will show him that you did really like the sex and you do want to do it again. If on the other hand you act like it wasn’t anything and don’t even discuss your “situation” with him then he may get the idea that it wasn’t anything special for you and that you may even have several of these type of arrangements with multiple men.

Don’t think that if he didn’t reply to a text message or even a phone call then he has moved on. He probably is also wondering what you think about the situation and if you are as interested in this new fuck buddy relationship you have set up as he is. The problem often arises when both think it is wise to not reveal their thoughts and keep it so discrete that both end up thinking the other is uninterested in continuing the relationship. So I would suggest to maybe talk things over with him, asking how he liked the other night and if you want to do it again sometime. Be open to the idea of formal relationships or fuck buddy relationships depending on what he seems into, and then take it from there. Once things develop, let me know because I want to hear where this goes.

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  • Sex Kitten said:

    Thanks for letting me know I was on the right track, Robby G. I can oftentimes be a girl who wears her heart on her sleeve, so I’m still getting used to this whole “player” act of nonchalance. Also, I’m a bit of an attention whore, so if I feel I’m being ignored, I start to get anxious. Anyway, as far as the story progressing goes, he’s ALL about gettin’ some o’ this again. He started texting me like crazy at work the other day. Even saying he wanted to do me at work because he was so horny for me! We may have even fooled around a bit….at work ๐Ÿ˜‰ so bad, I know. But worth it. He was then like, “let’s finish this later.” said he’d call me yesterday, but didn’t. I’m fine with that….but I really wish he’d text me again saying he wanted to fuck asap. I hate the waiting! I’m not sure if he’s got other fuckbuddies, and I don’t care….but I find myself taking it kinda personally that he doesn’t contact me more often. Perhaps I’m just obsessing, and I need to find….other things to distract myself with ๐Ÿ˜‰ I mean, if I were him and I knew there was a beautiful girl that liked to fuck me, just waiting for me to do something nasty to her again, I think I’d try to call her asap. Do you guys need some kind of “cooling off” period thing happening? Well, I’m trying hard to keep all this information from slapping me in the face when I’m tempted to send that drunk text or make that drunk call at 2 am. As always Robby G, you’ve got the answers. Please help ms. hot-and-bothered over here. Thank you!

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    Robby G Reply:

    @Sex Kitten: Don’t get bothered if he doesn’t contact you more often. I think he’s just trying to show that he isn’t interested in anything much more and is trying to keep himself from getting too attached. There isn’t any real need for a cooling off period, it’s just a time period to let yourself know that you are in fact in control of your emotions and you do not need the girl so much. He also may be not pursuing it more often simply to not seem like he needs it so often, because otherwise you may get the impression he wants something more.
    A drunk text or call will not do you any good and it’s best to find a distraction for the time that you’re apart. You may want to find another fuck buddy on the side or just enjoy other things in life, knowing you have a man on the side for whenever you feel you need some relief. It’s great to not have to worry about where to go and who to see to find a sex partner when you really need one.

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