Staying Together Through Good Times and Bad
Help!!!! Ok here goes, I have been getting to know this guy for 6 months now.
He is in the army so I get to see him a few times a month depending when he
is back home. Since the day we met we ain’t stopped textin, more than often
he texts first, and always ending with gud night sweet dreams. When we meet
up it’s not just for sex. When we do have sex, the sex has now changed he is
even more considersate, intermate, kissing my lower back and legs, strokin
my hair. After we lie there him holding me, have random convo, making each
other laugh, telling me stories of work. We then get dressed to go down
stairs for a smoke we are there talking he holding me constanly kissing me
tucking his hands into top of my jeans, when we stop kissin he still
holds me. He kissed me on the forehead and still even more slow soft kissed
when he leaves. Then after he has gone 15-20 mins later he texts!
While he was in Afghanistan he was messaging me when he cud, which I wasn’t
expecting, then soon as he got home the constant texts started again. He met
me for a drink the morning after he was back. I wanted to go for a “ride” in
the car but he surprised me with the answer, I want our first time since me
being back to be good not a fumble in the back seat, do you mind if we wait!!
He tells me he likes me, sends me photo which he takes for me and that no
one else has seen, he says I’m addictive, when he thinks he has said
something wrong to me and I don’t text back he calls and gets worried!! He
goes back away for 6 months but already has plans to stay in contact when
away and see me when he gets back. Is this someone who has feelings for me?
Clearly from the first detail to the last that you have described, this soldier doesn’t only have feelings for you, he has intense feelings for you. Passionate kisses, cuddles, texts, romantic sex, it all adds up to the fact that he really likes you and hopes that you have a future when he returns from the war. You should really take into consideration that he feels deeply passionate about you and that you are most likely going to be the last girl he will be with for the next 6 months. I don’t want to scare you but you must also realize that in a situation such as his, you will be a girl that he will be fantasizing during the time he serves in Afghanistan so you should try and help him get through his time there without adding on any extra worry. What I mean by that, I believe he will be expecting letters and certain ways to stay in contact with you and though you may have began as just a couple hooking up, it has become something much more serious.
Staying a Strong Couple
The real question here should be if you feel strongly for him or not, because it is very clear that he cares for you very much. He is going away for 6 months and expects you to be there when he returns, so you must really try and be there for him during his time away. In this situation, you must try to be more giving simply because he relies on you for emotional support more than anyone around him. If it were any other type of job that he had then emotional support would not mean as much, but a soldier away in Afghanistan needs it more than anyone. Though it sounds like a burden to some extent, I think you must make a decision whether or not you will be there for him during his time away and when he returns now before he departs and learns that you lost interest in him and emotionally devastate him through a letter. I wish you and him both the best of luck.