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You’re Just a Fuck-Buddy. Period.

23 June 2009 20 Comments

Readers have been asking how to make sure a fuck buddy doesn’t decide to become anything more than just a fuck buddy. What’s the best way to keep your fuck buddy in her position without hurting her feelings and by still continuing to keep her on call whenever you’re feeling lonely? When getting into a fuck buddy relationship you both need to know that it’s nothing serious and that you can go out with other women anytime you want without her permission. You’re both there for each other to satisfy each other’s needs without the entire process of dating. It’s that simple. So why do so many men have difficulty in keeping their fuck buddy just a fuck buddy? Well, the answer is that they end up showing too much emotion. Keep yourself untied from her and she won’t want anything more than just a fuck buddy. I personally follow a strict code when it comes to fuck buddies, because it is extremely easy to get warped into a relationship without even knowing it. The rules are simple and to the point.

Call for One Thing Only

Call your fuck buddy when you need a fuck. That’s it. She had to know that you’re using her. The beauty about having a fuck buddy is she doesn’t see it as usage, because she’s using you right back for the same thing. So it’s not really usage, it’s a mutual contract where both parties are satisfied with using each other strictly for sex. Calling her for anything more than sex can either drive her away because she may think you want something more than just sex, or it may make her feel like you want to take things further and it will get her to tie you down into a relationship.

Let Her Know if You Found a Date

I called a fuck buddy once to get together for some sex and she told me she couldn’t because she found some guy she really liked and didn’t want to ruin anything between them because he may get the wrong idea if she’s fucking me on the side. I was extremely cool with it and said I completely understand and told her to call me if things don’t work out between them, yet I wished her all the best luck. If I would have found some girl I was very interested in and didn’t want everything going to hell because some women do not find it rational for a guy to have a girlfriend and a fuck buddy at the same time, then I would just as easily told my fuck buddy that I couldn’t see her anymore and we should just remain “friends”. And we all know being friends with a fuck buddy should not be attempted. If you’ve gone from friend to fuck buddy and are thinking about going back to just friends, I advise against it. So this rule just keeps her in check that she’s just a fuck buddy and shouldn’t get any ideas that you are restricted to only “seeing” her.

Don’t Underestimate the Power of Sex

Never stop looking for other girls to add onto your call list… unless of course you don’t have the time for it. However, if you don’t have the time for other girls you should make sure you’re not spending all your time calling your fuck buddy to score another hit, because in fact fucking without strings attached can become an addiction. Be careful not to get too involved in spending every day calling her because you’re feeling lonely. Go out and meet other women and try to broaden your choice. Constantly keep your eyes peeled for new opportunities to get other women into bed, because being free is what the whole point of having a fuck buddy is. And if you get yourself tied down to the sex with no strings attached, then you lose your freedom and develop a relationship with the constant sex.

Follow these rules and you should have no problem in keeping your fuck buddy a fuck buddy. Period.

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  • Sarah said:

    Pretty nice post. I just came by your site and wanted to say
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    Robby G Reply:
    October 20th, 2009 at 8:45 pm

    @Sarah: Thanks and I really appreciate it. I post almost daily so stop by anytime. :)

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    # 24 June 2009 at 2:25 am
  • Malahov said:

    I like your posts on fuck buddies. Great and knowledgable stuff. Keep posting on the subject.

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    # 24 June 2009 at 10:13 am
  • Noi said:

    Men should not play games when it comes to being just fuck-buddies. They need to be strait up with what they want and be direct in their wants in the relationship whether it’s just sex or something more. Sex may sometimes feel like a trap for them but they need to know that the point of a fuck buddy is to have fun like you said.

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    # 25 June 2009 at 12:07 am
  • How I Make $5000 a Month Posting Links on Google said:

    Loved your latest post, by the way.

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    EatMeSushi Reply:
    October 18th, 2009 at 12:58 am

    Interesting post. I have had many FBs and I must say that most guys are very sweet and affectionate as well as up for regular sex, and usually always respected the boundaries of FB-ness.

    However, I found a couple of guys played games, as if they were dating me, when we had agreed from the beginning it was an FB arrangement. Has anyone else experienced their FB sending mixed messages/playing hard to get? I always associated this with dating and tbh never expected this with FBs – I mean, what’s the point?? One guy in particular was a texting obsessive and I think he got off more on sexy messages than actual sex!

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    Robby G Reply:
    October 20th, 2009 at 8:44 pm

    @eatmesushi: Some guys just aren’t used to fuckbuddy relationships and don’t know what to do when they’re in one. It actually gets quite weird sometimes, because I’ve experienced this with womemn as well. What I do once I see that they start with the mixed messages and acting a little bit like we’re dating, I usually cut the whole thing off. I tell them we shouldn’t fuck around anymore and should stay just friends. But then I stop calling them as often and the friendship dies out with the sex. But I know where you’re coming from on this issue and I agree that some people are just not meant to be fuck-buddies because they don’t even understand the concept.

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    FB Me Reply:
    August 26th, 2010 at 3:19 pm

    Completely agree.. Unfortunately I had a guy that started off as a meaningless FB, but right off the bat he texted me daily. At first I just didn’t want to be rude so I always responded, but the daily contact led to increased visits, which eventually led to an emotional attachment for the both of us. It got to the point where he was making plans to break up with his gf for me, as he stopped all sexual contact with her when the frequency of our visits increased. But guys/girls: DO NOT PROMISE TO END A CURRENT RELATIONSHIP IN ORDER TO START A NEW ONE WITH YOUR FB!! Especially if it was a rash decision that could easily change within a week. Chances are, things will improve with the girl/boyfriend and the FB whom you’ve now invested so much time and emotions in, will be left feeling led on.
    No quicker way to start with 1 girl, try to get 2, but end up with none!!

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    # 25 June 2009 at 9:18 pm
  • Black_Beardie said:

    Hi!
    I enjoyed reading the fuck buddy posts and advice given. :) I have never had a fuck buddy and think I would like to give it a try. :)

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    # 12 November 2009 at 11:52 am
  • Starlight said:

    I will try to follow these tips. Somehow things never work out as easy as they look on paper though.
    .-= Starlight´s last blog ..Car Hire Spain =-.

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    Robby G Reply:
    February 11th, 2010 at 1:58 pm

    @Starlight: It’s never as easy as it looks on paper, but I do hope that it at least acts as the guide behind approaching the fuck buddy relationship.

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    # 10 February 2010 at 9:01 am
  • Anonymous said:

    Great Advice..Have as much fuck buddies as possible, right?

    How many of you have Herpes, or STDs?

    Oh, well i guess, its your life style, to have it!

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    Robby G Reply:
    May 10th, 2010 at 8:09 pm

    @Anonymous: There is an invention called a condom.

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    # 10 May 2010 at 8:05 pm
  • SUZAN said:

    I HAVE A? IVE BEEN SEEING MY BOYFRIEND FOR A YEAR, THE FIRST 3 MOS. WONDERFUL, THE BEST, REALLY INTO EACHOTHER INEVERY WAY. HE PUT A HUGE TATT OVER HIS HEART W/MY NAME AND MYI PUT HIM ON AS WELL, NOT AS BIG. FEW MOS. LATER PASS, I KNEW BEFORE WE MWT UP AGAIN THAT HE WAS MOVING AWAY. HE SAID FOR ME TO COME THERE AND LIVE I SAID OK, KNOWING FULL WELL, NEVER . SO THEN I GO TO VISIT A FEW MONTHS LATER, GREAT TIME, HE GIVES ME AN ENGAGMENT RING(HIS VERSION?)WHEN I GOT HOME A MONTH LATER EVERYTHING WENT DOWN HIT LL ASAP. HE;S ALSO REALLY CHEAP. I JUST TOLD HIM BY TEXT IT’S NOT WORKING OUT, THE LONG DISTANCE IS TOO MUCH FOR ME AND IM NOT MOVING. SO, I BROKE IT OFF.NOTE IM BEING SOMEWHAT VAGUE. WHY WOULD HE GET TATTOOS (2) A RING ,FLY ME TO FLA. CALL 50 X A DAY, SAYING I LOVE YOU. THEN DISAPPEAR FOR 1-2 DAYS. IM CONfUSED, BUT DYING TO KNOW WHATS BEHIND ALL THE FAKENESS. HE DIDNT SEEM ALL THAT BOTHERED BY BREAKING UP, HE KNEW IT WAS COMING. I THINK HE DID IT THIS WAY TO GET ME TO DO IT,SO HE WOULDNT FEEL BAD /GUILT. WHAT DO YOU THINK, PLEASE RESPOND. VERY PUZZLED.
    THANX

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    # 27 June 2010 at 11:24 pm
  • m said:

    I met a guy in a monastery, he was a volunteer. I knew he was just using me for sex, but i fell for him anyway. As, he would come and see me almost everynite. Usually at around 6pm. We would watch dvd’s and hold hands. On the weekend i would hang out with him too. He confided in me his problems. But it was valentine’s day and he would not spend it with me.
    Then, after it finished. I found out he had actually been fucking this older, unattractive woman, WITHOUT TELLING ME.
    Yet, he did not want me to see other men.
    It was very confusing to be a fuck buddy and i will never be one again.
    Its wrong. People are just unevolved animals with no heart.
    One time i got herpes attack and he got me drunk and got the virus. Now he hates my guts Yet it was karma people. Cause i haven’t had an attack since.

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    # 15 July 2010 at 8:35 pm
  • crystal said:

    I really want to ask this dude to be my fuck friend hahaha But, I am nervous about it. There has been a bit of flirtation but not ALOT and we have been friends for a while. But nothing intense, like idk hang out a couple times a YEAR maybe? But he is FINALLY single and I do NOT want a relationship with him. I Just wanna fuck him mad, I keep having sex dreams about him lol So, um, do most guys dig a chick to be like HEY I wanna fuck you. Or would they rather them flirt and be all coy n play hard to get n blah blah blah. I’m not one for games and I have a couple fuck buddies right now, but as you said, keep checkin around for some more to add to the list. You may think I am a whore cause I play the game just as well if not better then most men. But hey, I look at it this way, its 2010, women get equal rights in almost every other aspect. Why not sex?! :-)

    SO tell me, should I straight up say “Hey, I wanna have dirty dirty sex with you” Or should I be a little more coy about it? Your advice would be great :-D

    THANK YOU!

    Oh. P.S- My other fuck buddies, were all gotten and kept usually while drunk off my ass, I no longer drink, so now I feel new to the scene all over again! lol

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    # 6 August 2010 at 11:43 pm
  • Teex said:

    Having a fuck buddy is just a sticky situation period enough said I mean we all have emotions and if you continue to sleep with 1 person someone is bound to catch feelings.

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    # 9 August 2010 at 1:55 am
  • Jeff Horsman said:

    Hey this is Jeff in Arlington, Texas looking for a fuck Buddy close to home someone good looking and hot and horny white or hispanic D&DF
    and open to any sexual experience. Between the ages of 35 to 60

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    # 9 August 2010 at 7:54 pm
  • Jeff Horsman said:

    Also forgot to mention in the above comment that it needs to be a female only.

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    # 9 August 2010 at 7:56 pm
  • Haha said:

    hey robbie G, Nice idea on the Fuck Buddy post – but you sound like a TOTAL COCK.

    Just because you’re screwing someone doesn’t mean you have to be prick, which is what it sounds like you’re preaching here. “She’s just a fuck-buddy” like some lower than human status.

    What ever happened to being lovers? There’s still etiquette involved. I had a lover for 2 years – no strings but we had mad, passionate, tantric insanely sensual sex sessions. We treated each other with respect – totally laughed when we tried to watch a DVD together and “hang out” – realised we were just lovers and only had sexual chemistry in common. We knew exactly where we stood, and respected when the other had a boyfriend or girlfriend ie no fucking (which I did during that 2 years).

    No matter what you say – there’s alway a point where one person questions the boundaries – it’s not as cold and clinical as you try and make it. And if it is you need serious therapy to get over your mother/intimacy issues.

    No-one deserves to be treated like a piece of meat as your tone implies, otherwise you may as well stick your dick inside a raw steak and call it your pal. At least then you could also cook it up and eat it afterwards.

    ;-)

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    # 26 August 2010 at 5:42 am

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